Part 3: Building Your Bator Base
In the previous blogs in this series, we’ve explored the power of self-compassion and challenging our negative beliefs. Now it’s time to take the next step in our mutual male masturbation journey: building meaningful, real-time connections. And not just one-off chats or quick cam strokes (which are great and fun, of course.) We’re talking about something deeper, more grounded—a brotherhood built on trust, shared pleasure, emotional safety, and mutual growth.
Building your mutual male masturbation basecamp
So, what exactly is a bator basecamp? In short, it’s an interpersonal connection tool. Think of it as your own personal billboard, proudly showcasing your bator self — a fun and friendly intimate promotional tool to share your interests, boundaries, and curiosities. It’s also an open invitation and touch point for others to connect with you more genuinely, helping to create more positive and feel-good interactions. A place (virtual & physical) where your closest bator bros gather to connect, reflect, stroke, and support each other.
Naturally, it begins with you again, reflecting on your new understandings and self-clarity, as well as your desires and intentions
And just a quick note to acknowledge another perspective on this series for those who might be skeptical about this approach to building your squirt squad. This is a flexible concept that can be tailored to any bators desires or reasons for pulling his dick out—you can try it all, some, or none of it.
The main idea is that your specific kinks, interests, bate styles, or desired interactions can become even more satisfying when you explore them more deeply with others, whether through spontaneous, random bate moments or with bators you regularly connect with.
Some people think that getting to know someone might make the sexy feeling fade, but that’s not entirely true. Yes, the sexy vibe might naturally evolve into something else, which can challenge our assumptions and expectations about that bator and how it might influence our stroke chemistry, or it might enhance your kinks to levels you never imagined. That’s actually even more reason to consider this for your Squirt Squad rotation. Whether you’re a “less is more” type or someone who loves to “push the limits,” knowing what works best can really elevate your bator experience..
The first step in building your bator basecamp starts with you
Naturally, it begins with you again, reflecting on your new understandings and self-clarity, as well as your desires and intentions. Your BateWorld profile can be a great starting point for this kind of intentional connection. Ask yourself the following questions to describe and break down the ideal bate session:
- What are you looking for in connections (e.g., mindfulness, authenticity, fun, respectfulness, high-energy, etc.)?
- What’s the vibe you enjoy during bate sessions (e.g., silent & focused, messy & stinky, chatty & casual, dirty & playful, etc.)?
- Are you more into solo/one-on-one hangouts, group bates, cam sessions, popper training and babbling gooner sessions, or a mix?
When you know what you want, and express it clearly – whatever it is – you’re far more likely to attract it. Take some time to update your profile with care. Be specific. Let people know you’re interested in meaningful, mindful bate friendships and mutual male masturbation, or extra raunchy sessions with popper training and babbling gooner freedom occasionally. The goal is to let your profile speak for you and set a clearer picture of what others can expect when they’re curious and want to check you out before saying hello.
And remember, your mutual male masturbation connections don’t have to stop at your profile. Utilize platforms like Zoom, Teams, Telegram, WhatsApp, BateWorld instant messaging, and VidChat to establish and cultivate these connections. Explore yourself with a new clarity in these spaces/situations and gain a better understanding of what will and won’t help create the Squirt Squad you seek.
Get curious about your bros in shared, mutual male masturbation spaces
Make the effort to witness other bators connecting in shared mutual male masturbation spaces. Some bators host weekly or monthly online meetups, creating a low-pressure environment where guys can drop in and stroke and chat together, such as the Penis and Productivity Parties events on BateWorld, led by member BareWithMe. This regular group event aims to foster a specific culture in their Zoom meetings, characterized by camaraderie, openness, and productivity, specifically for those working from home.
This is a special kind of “basecamp” with a clear description and invitation you can view as an example. These sorts of spaces might begin with a quick check-in or just a casual conversation before the lubricant comes out. But what matters isn’t so much the format—it’s the intention behind it and the opportunity to connect in a more secure, equal playing field that ultimately allows everyone to feel more comfortable being themselves.
At its core, a bator basecamp is about redefining what male friendship and intimacy can look like, and it’s for you to discover, decide, and share what you like and what you want for yourself and with others.
As your basecamp grows, so will your sense of brotherly security
You’ll begin to notice how much more satisfying it is to stroke with guys who see you, who remember your name, your body, your turn-ons, your story. You’ll crave less validation from strangers and more connection with those who’ve earned your trust. Conversations within this circle can go deeper, too. Start exploring questions with each other, like:
- What brought you to this community in the first place?
- What kind of feedback or encouragement do you wish you got more of?
- How do you define pleasure for yourself right now?
- What would a dream-bate session look like with someone you trust?
These chats don’t have to be heavy—sometimes they’re even more powerful when they are wrapped in laughter and the greasy sound of your buddy’s hand on his dick.
Building a mutual male masturbation basecamp isn’t just about being social—it’s a radical act of self-love and sexual healing being shared with others. Because in a culture that often ridicules or shames solo male pleasure, especially queer or kink-centered expressions, creating authentic, affirming spaces reclaims your right to enjoy, connect, and evolve on your own terms.
These skills and experiences don’t happen overnight. Like any good relationship, your well-developed bator basecamp and invitation take time. Some bators will fall off suddenly, while others will emerge in significant ways. It’s okay. Let the crew evolve naturally. Stay committed to your bator values and keep showing up with as much honesty as you can and, as always, a little lube.
Final Thoughts
At its core, a bator basecamp is about redefining what male friendship and intimacy can look like, and it’s for you to discover, decide, and share what you like and what you want for yourself and with others. It’s a movement away from isolation and performance—and toward curiosity, connection, and consent. It’s the belief that we can be sexy and soulful, erotic and emotional, playful and profound; That we can have real friendships where we are seen—boner or not, clothed or naked, turned on or just tired—and still feel deeply known and connected.
It’s about transforming bate time from a solo survival strategy into a shared celebration of being alive in these bodies, in this moment, together – in all the ways we really want. So, ask yourself: Who’s in, or would I like to be in, my bator base camp right now? What kind of energy do I want more of? Am I willing to show up a little more, even if it’s scary? Because once you’ve helped build your squad, you’ll never stroke the same way again. And you won’t want to.
Next week marks the final step in creating the Squirt Squad of your dreams, where you will learn ways to Strengthen Your ‘Vet-Connect’ Skills.
Let’s keep the convo going. Drop your thoughts and experiences in the comments below.
Until next time—stay greasy, stay grounded, and keep bating.
