Let’s be honest, Bator Bros: when it comes to our penises, we’re a little obsessed. Not in a “can’t-stop-looking-in-the-mirror” way (well, maybe sometimes), but in the way we quietly collect random “facts” and penis myths over time. We hear them in locker rooms, see them in movies, pick them up from friends, and sometimes make them up ourselves.
And while most guys know deep down that half of these penis myths are ridiculous, they still stick around, gnawing at the back of their minds. So, why do these penis myths linger? Because penises are wrapped up in our identity, masculinity, confidence, and curiosity. They’re a source of pride, anxiety, humor, and wonder all rolled into one. And since few men feel comfortable actually talking openly about it, these penis myths fill the silence.
Let’s shed a little light on a few of these penis myths—not to shame or embarrass, but to laugh, learn, and perhaps even feel a little freer.
Myth #1: Bigger hands, bigger penis
The old “foot size or hand size” myth has been whispered in gyms, frat houses, and even on first dates. Some men joke about it, some worry about it, and some secretly measure their sneakers hoping for reassurance. The truth? There’s no consistent correlation. Studies that tried to link height, hand size, or shoe size with penis size found only weak or inconsistent patterns. Genetics is way more complex than “if you have big paws, you’ve got big equipment.”
Why it matters: When men internalize this myth, they either strut or shrink based on something they literally have no control over. It reinforces the idea that “size equals worth,” which creates pressure and comparison instead of confidence.
Myth #2: “Real men” last forever
Movies, porn, and late-night bragging sessions have convinced many men that they should be able to go for an hour without breaking a sweat. Anything less? Clearly a disappointment. Here’s the truth: the average time for penetrative sex is around 5–7 minutes. That’s it. And guess what? Satisfaction isn’t about time on the stopwatch—it’s about connection, variety, and awareness of your partner’s needs.
Why it matters: Believing this myth sets men up for performance anxiety. The pressure to “go longer” often makes it harder to stay present, which ironically shortens the experience or completely takes you out of it. Instead, focus on quality, not duration. Explore foreplay, touch, and playfulness—areas where time isn’t a measurement of value. Ask your partner what they actually enjoy rather than guessing.
Myth #3: Masturbation makes you weak
This one is ancient—passed down from old moral codes, schoolyard rumors, and maybe even a misinformed health class. Some men still secretly wonder: Am I hurting myself by doing it too often?
The truth: masturbation is normal, healthy, and comes with real benefits. It relieves stress, improves sleep, boosts mood, and helps men learn what feels good. There’s no scientific evidence that it “drains” strength or masculinity.
Why it matters: Shame around self-pleasure can create guilt and secrecy. It can stop men from exploring their bodies in healthy ways, and worse, it can disconnect them from intimacy with partners. Treat masturbation as self-care. Slow it down, notice what feels good, and reflect on whether you’re using it to avoid stress or to enjoy a connection with yourself. That awareness shifts it from a “dirty habit” to a mindful practice.
Myth #4: Porn is realistic
Most men know porn is exaggerated, but many still compare themselves to what they see. The stamina, the size, the reactions—it all seeps into the subconscious. The truth? Porn is entertainment, not education. Performers are often chosen for extreme traits, scenes are cut and edited, and reactions are scripted. Expecting your body (or your partner’s) to behave like porn is like expecting yourself to wrestle like The Rock after watching WWE.
Why it matters: Believing porn sets the “standard” can lead to insecurity, pressure, and disappointment in real-life intimacy. Men tend to focus on performance instead of presence. If you watch porn, view it as fantasy, not reality. Balance it with honest conversations and experiences where connection—not choreography—takes center stage.
Myth #5: Men shouldn’t talk about their penis
Here’s the biggest myth of all: that men should stay silent about their curiosities, insecurities, and experiences. From a young age, many guys learn that penis talk should be a joke, a brag, or kept secret. Vulnerability isn’t encouraged. And so penis myths grow in the shadows, reinforced by silence.
The truth: men benefit when they normalize talking about these things. Not in crude or competitive ways, but in honest conversations—whether with friends, partners, or even a coach or therapist.
Why it matters: When men keep silent, they carry unnecessary stress and shame. But when they open up, they realize everyone has the same questions, insecurities, and curiosities. The relief is powerful. Bring curiosity into the open. Ask a partner how they feel about certain penis myths or body expectations. Share one insecurity with a trusted friend. Break the silence, even a little.
So, why do men hold onto these penis myths?
Because myths offer easy answers, they give men a script for something deeply tied to identity. They also fill in the gaps where society avoids honest conversation. But the cost of clinging to myths is heavy: anxiety, comparison, and disconnection. Curiosity, on the other hand, is freeing. When men get curious instead of judgmental—when they laugh at myths instead of swallowing them whole—they open the door to absolute confidence.
Final thoughts
Curiosity Over Comparison. Period. Men’s fascination with their penis isn’t going away anytime soon—and that’s not a bad thing. Curiosity can lead to a deeper understanding of oneself, more open communication, and a greater sense of intimacy. But to get there, men have to let go of the penis myths that hold them hostage.
So the next time you hear an old rumor about size, stamina, or self-pleasure, ask yourself: Do I want to live by myths, or by truth? Better yet, laugh about it. Because when men stop letting penis myths define them, they get to define themselves—and that’s where absolute confidence begins.
Stay Curious,
MyB8Buddy
