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CONNECTING WITH THE EROTIC MASCULINE: A Workshop for Men

Here is an opportunity to identify and feel great about the positive aspects of your masculinity in the accepting and nurturing presence of other like-hearted men, without competition, comparison or shame. There’s just something absolutely unique about being affirmed of your masculinity BY OTHER MEN, but in our culture these rituals have been upstaged by competition, performance, humiliation, fear of failure, bullying, hazing, and violence, to name a few. It doesn’t sound all that affirming or fun, does it?

ASK DR. BATE: Sharing Masturbation With Someone

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I've been a member of BW for over 3 years now, and been committed to the solosexual lifestyle for 2 years now. I'm loving it, but would love to share this with someone in a relationship. There aren't many who are dedicated to this sort of lifestyle, but how do you recommend some ways to find someone?

JASON ARMSTRONG: Solosexual Q&A

But my second inspiration was BateWorld.com. Here, I met other men for whom this experience was just as revelatory. My book is dedicated in part to all the men who shared their sexual journeys with me. I realized that for so many of us, our sexuality is not peripheral to our experience of being human, but for many, it’s central. And I wanted to honor that — in myself and in the community that has sprung from BateWorld. I think if I had read my own book when I was 20 and starting my sexual life, I might have saved myself some trouble.

3 Tips to make your Valentine’s Great! (This year, let that “special someone” be you!)

When you’re feeling “less than,” one of the most immediate ways to counter those messages is to do what really, deeply nurtures you. List out the things that make your heart absolutely blossom – and when Valentine’s Day comes around, do one or more of these exquisite things. And don’t forget self-pleasuring. After all, masturbation is one of the most intimate and loving acts that you can do with the one you know the best.

MORNING WOOD MEDITATION

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Cock meditation uses BOTH our body and our mind to generate wholeness, deep satisfaction, and just some good ol’ sexy fun.

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Hey Dr. Bate! Love the blog. Anyway, my question is around chafing; it sometimes happens when I bate a lot, mainly on the outer edges of my foreskin, and that's even with lube. What are some ways that you can prevent it from happening, and also promote healing while not having to stop doing what you love to do?

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Hello. This past year I've discovered that my interest in bating has grown to the extent that I would rather masturbate on cam rather than watching porn. I moved from my hometown to another country and it hasn't been easy adapting socially. I've had a couple of wanking meet-ups and still look for them, but none appear to be more than a one time thing.

I think I'm looking for someone to be friends with and to share the interest in wanking, plus any others. I find myself pretty often chatting online to try and find a fellow bater. Could this be more like an obsession? Maybe I should try finding non bating friends instead? 

Ask Dr. Bate: Sexual Issues and Masturbation

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I grew up in a Southern Baptist household where sex was never mentioned. My parents never prepared me for what I would experience during puberty and adulthood. Their silence on the subject of sex and the human body, along with the daily humiliations of Junior High, required me to carry the weight of a lot of things I was too young to handle, and the traumas that were buried in me then are still alive today.

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I love bating. But the problem is I feel like I love bating too much. Even when I am having sex with my people I still think about putting porns on and bating instead of enjoying the sex. Can you give me advice on this? I want to enjoy sex as much as I enjoy bating.

RECLAIMING MASTURBATION: PART 4 – THE HEALING POWER OF PLEASURE

Pleasure is not solely delegated to sex. Although this has become the focus of this "Reclaiming Masturbation" series, I want to take this last post to expand the idea and concept of what masturbation could be. Strictly speaking, let's think of masturbation not only as a sexual activity but also as any activity that "strokes" (in a manner of speaking) you to a higher place of pleasure, delight, and consciousness. This could be elicited through the listening of a great piece of music, eating a delectable meal, having a stimulating conversation with a good friend, enjoying a great movie, or attending a thought-provoking lecture.

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Any advice for smaller bators dealing with always being the smaller one when bating with buddies?

According to the most recent studies, the average length of a flaccid penis is 3.5-3.6 inches. And the average erect penis is about 5.1 inches long. So take a moment and mark those two measurements off on your ruler and remember that, like on a bell curve, most guys you meet and/or bate with are going to fall within that average. Of course there are outliers – some guys are smaller than average while others are larger.

RECLAIMING MASTURBATION: PART 3 – PORNOGRAPHY!

Pornography has been a present aspect of many people’s sexual landscape including my own. In this, Part 3 of Reclaiming Masturbation, I want to share my thoughts, concerns, techniques, and insights into how to create a more mindful masturbation practice around porn watching. Pornography, in my opinion, exists for two main reasons and in two main categories simultaneously: Sex as Art (the adoration of the beauty of sex) and Sex as Science (the actual arousal and stimulation of watching the mechanics of sex).

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