There is a bond that naturally forms between men who love penising. You don’t have to be in the same room to feel it. However, there is something brilliant about a living, breathing, penising bate buddy to bate with IRL – whether that’s daily, weekly or just when the need arises.
What is buddy bate?
Bators by nature are self-sufficient—our hand plus our penis, and we’re sorted, but we can’t deny that we are also social creatures. We cluster online, we gather at jerk off clubs, we love a bit of cam to cam.
Community is a big aspect of bate culture. Connection might just be the defining feature of being a bator, second to massive amounts of penis rubbing.
With that in mind, sometimes in the midst of a really great session we might sense something missing. Not that the bate itself is lacking. Instead, the bate is so good we feel the need to share it.
A chat. A bit of touch. That thing you can’t do solo (no, I can’t lick my own taint either). Maybe, it would just feel nice to have another bator with us. Just one will do.
Enter the bate buddy. He’s the bator with a little extra something. The bator you like having around, the he one you trust, or the guy in your pocket when your dicks get hard. First, you have to find him.
How to find a regular bate buddy?
Many bators post on the apps or their BateWorld profiles that they’re open to finding a regular bud. Like any kind of dating, we can’t rely on Cupid. We have to put ourselves out there. And we have to be as clear as we can with what we’re after.
Which means being clear with ourselves. Is it really for romance, or just that little something above the purely physical? While you can get a sense of a bro by chatting online, we need to meet to really confirm our compatibility. Just as we’re sussing out whether he’d make a good bate buddy, so is he. The key to it? Be yourself.
A jerk off club offers some opportunities. You’ve got a smorgasbord of bators, so perhaps one could become that buddy?
Not everyone’s there to find a regular, however. Odds are you’re not alone though. Amongst the group is likely to be a bro after a bate buddy too. Whether you click, those are different odds.
You don’t have to be in love. He might not be your usual type. But a bate buddy bond rests on a simple principle: you feel good together.
A friend, a romance, a fling or deeper? Your buddy, your choice.
Bate buddies work well when the lines of communication are open, and both of you are getting what you need. Does he sleep over? Do you feed him? Do you 420 together? When the pants are off, do you edge him, suck his tits, or kiss him? How intimate you want to get is something to negotiate between yourselves.
And sometimes, things progress. Bator buddies can become bator boyfriends. Mine became my husband. But while some buddy-ships take new form, or stay on an even keel, others peter out. It’s just the way things go.
Disappointment arises when we are not honest with ourselves. If you’re really looking for a boyfriend or partner, that’s a different proposition to seeking a buddy. They have different thresholds and expectations. It’s probably doomed to fail. Like all kinds of relationships, ‘going steady’ with a bator buddy is about trust. We build it by offering and understanding each other’s needs and doing our best to help fill them.
Yours might be to find a bro who needs his balls licked for a few hours while he masturbates (call me!). Another bator might need a bro to goon with over porn or to frot cocks. Or maybe you both just want to get covered in jizz, and have a cuddle when it’s cold and rainy outside.
Whatever its form, the best measurement of a good bond between buddies? If the only thing hard about it are your dicks, then likely you are both doing it right.
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