Ask The Batemaster: Virginity And The Bate
“You’re a virgin who just masturbates” (Yes, that is a play on the famous line from Clueless by our beloved Brittany Murphy. RIP.) QUESTION: I know what really turns me on, so I know I’m…
Ask The Batemaster: Living With Religious Parents
“…You have evidently given yourself permission to enjoy pleasuring yourself, which is great, in itself!” QUESTION: I’m in my early 30s and still live with my loving parents, who are very religious. I masturbate a…
Ask The Batemaster: Am I Asexual?
“There is absolutely nothing wrong with being asexual, if that is truly what is going on with you.” QUESTION: Am I asexual? I only masturbate once every week or two, and sex is not…
How To Negotiate Being A Bator In Love
“Honey… I’m a masturbator.” A relationship is important. It demands your respect. Futures together are worth it. Pasts spent together are to be cherished. Your relationship to yourself is just as sacred though. Your solosexuality…
Sides and Solosexuals: Challenging the Top and Bottom Dichotomy
What if you don’t identify as a “top” or a “bottom” or even “vers”? In gay male vernacular, the term “top” refers to the one who penetrates, and “bottom” is the one who receives. In…
Ask The Batemaster: What Is A Man?
…Respect how someone wants to be seen, and how they view themselves. QUESTION: I met a really handsome bearded guy in a chat room, and we agreed to masturbate on cam. After a while, when…
How To Start Having Better, Deeper Sex With Yourself
Every bator brother can achieve this status. I believe that the best bate sessions start with a great mindset. As my bate sessions grow into new and exciting territories of pleasure, I’m curious if I…
Having It All: My Masturbation Lifestyle
We can celebrate our own individual solo sex without hesitation, doubt or shame, coupled with the beauty of the other person’s display and pleasure. I am a 71 year old bisexual male; a passionate masturbator…
Ask The Batemaster: How Do I Learn To Appreciate My Body?
Mindful Masturbation can improve self-esteem…I suggest a classic “Love Yourself” mirror exercise. QUESTION: In my late teens I suffered a serious sexual trauma. I won’t give details, not to be a bummer, and I’m not…
Giving Your Penis A Break And Allowing Your Heart To Get What It Needs
It was difficult, in the beginning, to comprehend my feelings of horniness and not wanting to have any kind of sex; I wasn’t even in the mood to masturbate. Where did this feeling come from…
Cultivating Your Solo Sex Powers And Never Again Settling For Mediocre Sex
The process of unlearning the shame in masturbation can be daunting, but the rewards are glamorous. His apartment was spacious with touches of rustic modern flair that matched his woodsy urban aesthetic. His apartment felt…
Ask The Batemaster: After Ejaculation Exhaustion
Though every man loves ejaculation, there are great rewards beyond it! QUESTION: Hi Bate Master Bruce! I’m in my 80’s, and still masturbate often, usually every day. Most often I don’t even need a pill…
