How I learned what jacking off really is: Mitch
The greatest day of my life was the day I married my Bator husband (hey babe, I know you’ll read this). The second best was the day I learned what jacking off really is. Shout out to Mitch who told me about it – thanks buddy, you really changed my life.
That first time – and it was 33 years ago now – is vividly etched into my memory. I felt I’d struck upon gold! A little chink opened up in the wall between me and being a proper man. I remember marveling that ‘I can make these feelings for myself.’ Amazing feelings, and so easily, thanks to what Mitch taught me.
Bator realization and discoveries
Almost without fail, I’ve been jacking off every day since, finding constant joy in it. I came to see jacking off as a special category of my erotic pleasure. I learned to appreciate it as masturbation – a practice worthy of study.
I discovered some amazing truths about my body. Like learning that ejaculation and orgasm are not the same thing. Or discovering my nipples get erect when my penis does. I even demystified multicumming. I was having such good sex with myself that I embraced living as a solosexual.
As a boy listening to Mitch, I couldn’t have conceived of such a thing. That I would love masturbation so much I would call myself a Bator. But it’s who I am. I’m proud to live the bate life. Who knows? Maybe Mitch is a Bator too.
Do you get lost in your penis masturbation? Do you want to go deeper into it?
Do you see masturbation as an act of self-care?
When I answered yes to these questions, like a lightbulb going off in my mind, I realised I was a Bator. Here’s how it happened…
How I learned to stop jacking off and start bating: Master Bate
I credit a man called Master Bate for helping me to stop jacking off and start bating. I was a new member of BateWorld, and I met Master in the chat rooms. He took me under his virtual wing and into private coaching sessions. The wisdom he imparted in those early days are lessons I still carry.
With him I learned to own my pleasure. I had never considered it before. I was focused on others, or on how others saw me. Master taught me that masturbation is our biologically-given right to pleasure. You are entitled to pleasure. So own it.
While I masturbated for him, happily delaying my orgasm for as long as I could, Master got me thinking about why we edge. It’s more than a delay. More than building a messier orgasm or a deeper release.
Master taught me that each stroke was what I came for. Each and every one. Not the orgasm. He said masturbation was a slow accumulation of strokes, like a symphony. One I played. Me alone.
At that, my duration went from 20 minutes’ edging to many hours. The amount of sex I started having with myself exploded. This was possibly the greatest lesson he gave me. I began to treat myself as I would a lover. As I would hope a lover might treat me.
No matter how often you’re currently jacking off, Master would say do it more. You will realise that the more you masturbate, the more you want to masturbate. Under no circumstances should you believe that you do it too much. Question anyone who makes you feel compulsive. It’s your body. It’s good for your health.
Meanwhile, an unlikely friendship was growing between me and another young Bator. A friendship which would teach me a valuable lesson…
The lesson of mutual masturbation: Jakey
Somehow we became mutuals. He went by the handle ‘Jakey’. We circled around each other quite a bit initially, often gravitating to each other in the cam room.
We’d signal to one another, I’m seeing you. Nothing said. I’d flex my biceps on the edge, and I’d see him on screen do the same. He’d use his free hand on his nipples and I’d mirror him. Inevitably, one of us would private message, Looking good, Bator.
Jakey said he used to have a high mistrust of internet people, which was fair. While we have never met in real life, we learned to trust one another. We’d go private 1 on 1, we exchanged numbers and revealed who we are as men. Sane, intelligent and fun was what I found him to be.
Jakey displays a horniness that is out of control. I love watching him masturbate. He presents himself openly, displaying his slim, smooth body and the massive penis which rises between his thighs with pride.
He shows a love for himself that is infectious. I can’t help but do myself in the same way. Either in a cam room or sharing videos, there’s a transference. As if I’m in his body and he feels himself in mine. It’s like his dick twitches and I feel the throb.
There’s a phenomenon amongst Bators in the cam room. When one man lifts his arms and flexes his biceps, another will follow and do the same, then another and another. We’re saying, I’m here, you’re here. We’re united in this. Puffed up, proud.
When you become a Bator, you are part of a growing brotherhood of men proud to be penis masturbators. A bro’s strokes accumulate with yours. The charge can feel twice as intense. His pleasure can rub off onto you. And yours on him.
What an erotic thing it is to bate with another man. Thanks for sharing this story
How beautiful, like all of your writing. I am a MASTURBATOR! I say it proud with you (flex 🙂 That connection that men have when they masturbate together is emotional resonance of the best kind. I love the life of being a masturbator and I want it for more and more of my bros
Fuc* yeah. I want a regular bate bud!
I also want a bate bud on line and in person lets get together
I started masturbating under the guidance of older playmates in our attic; I was about nine years old at the time. After my first time, I was immediately addicted. I explain this by saying that masturbation releases endorphins in the brain, imprinting the masturbator on their penis. I can still remember how the gliding of the foreskin over the glans tickled almost unbearably, but at the same time, it was also a very pleasurable sensation. I should mention that I was already very interested in my penis at a younger age. That is to say, I had already experimented with masturbation on my penis before. Perhaps this imprinting on my penis began back then.
After this pivotal experience in the attic, I thought I could stop masturbating at any time, but now I know it has become an addiction. Just so there’s no misunderstanding, I don’t consider masturbation harmful or bad; I still masturbate with great pleasure.
In 1968, at the age of 23, I made my only serious attempt to stop masturbating. I managed to keep it up for exactly 21 days and experienced my first and only nocturnal emission. Otherwise, I don’t have any emissions because I started masturbating regularly at the age of 12, even before I began producing sperm. Since I turned 55, I’ve noticed that the sensitivity of the glans is decreasing.
Every organ reacts to stress.
Examples:
Hands become calloused from heavy work.
The soles of the feet become thicker and less sensitive from walking barefoot.
The glans becomes less sensitive after circumcision because the skin thickens.
Frequent masturbation also reduces the sensitivity of the glans.
And, of course, the penis adapts to the hand used for masturbation (though only during the growth phase, ages 9-18). This means the penis will twist to the right with the right hand and to the left with the left. Back then, I used my entire left fist to grasp my penis and slide the foreskin all the way back and forth. I can say this from experience because over the years my penis has perfectly adapted to the hand I use for masturbation.
Now, at 76, I still masturbate with the greatest pleasure (27,686 times so far). Over the years, I’ve come to believe that masturbation is its own form of sexuality, like heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, or similar. Of course, I also engage in group sex because I’m married, but I prefer masturbation.
Very well written indeed and for sure a true difference between the need to jack off and cum compared to the long pleasures of masturbation. Becoming a bator was something I discovered a long time ago in my teenage years and will probably never stops as the immense joy of feeling our whole body rather than just the penis is much better. It gives not only a stress-free life but often calm the nerves and a wonderful pastime. Enjoying it with a bator friend is even nicer as mutual masturbation is a great activity also cool doing it through games. No matter which of straight, bisexual, gay, transsexuals or queer all can enjoy it with a nice friend