Gooning has gone mainstream. What was once a niche kink is now nearly a household term especially among a new, curious generation. But is it truly understood? We’ve made it our mission to demystify the gooner and gooning, looking at its physical and mental qualities, and the emotional side to it too.
Because when it comes down to it, understanding how gooning makes us feel might be the most satisfying answer to the question: what is it all about?
What is a gooner?
A gooner is a sexual persona. If you’ve ever seen a stiff-dicked man stare glassy-eyed, drooling slightly and grunting like a caveman, you’ve witnessed a gooner. During intense penis pleasure, gooners let go completely and act more primal than, say, a well-behaved nice boy. Gooning is a sex kink that is as weird, and as natural, as any other. It’s a celebration of penis pleasure, and letting that pleasure loose in raw, unexpected ways.
The goon state: drooling, chanting, monkeybating
Drooling while masturbating… Grade-A gooner right there. And witnessing one man in the goon state often inspires our curiosity (and turns us on a little) to hunt out more of these unselfconscious masturbators. We find gooners in chat rooms or in goon porn – performing what’s called ‘monkeybating’, where they physically resemble an ape, their mouths pulled into an o-shape, unless their tongues fully hang out.
They’ll chant the word ‘penis’ or ‘masturbation’ or stretch the words out ludicrously long. They speak in a simple language, reducing hot “dirty talk” to an almost comedic gibberish.
The gooning gooner’s mind
The short answer to what’s happening in a gooner’s mind? Very little. Most gooners describe their brains going a little mushy. They might sense that their brain is in their penis now or vice-versa. Some consider this to be a form of meditation.
The word ‘uninhibited’ gets dropped often in relation to gooning and it is a good one. Gooning requires being open to unleashing. Gooners see their goon state as the most truthful version of themselves, or it allows them to momentarily transcend who they are. Gooning is a complete takeover of our personalities. Many describe it as a kind of ‘deschooling’ or being stripped back intellectually. In peeling back our personality, we might reveal a monkey underneath, or a himbo… where not so much is going on up top.
Shutting off the intellectual or even ‘nicer’ parts of our nature is liberating. It allows us to tap into new feelings, some of which can be deeply satisfying.
How gooning feels
Gooners commonly reference ‘the bliss’ of goon—the high of it, which contributes to their well-being during and after a goon. Artists talk about getting into a ‘flow state’, a trance-like surrender where time dissolves. Just like a musician or dancer, it can be our hands or our body that ‘thinks’. Bliss pulls the gooner deeper into a heightened, hypnotic rhythm.
We don’t talk enough about the emotional impacts of gooning. Gooning can provide a sense of physical, mental and emotional release, allowing us to disconnect from daily stress. Utter abandonment promotes relaxation and grounds us in our body. When gooners get together, further interpersonal emotions come into play. Shared vulnerability and trust evoke emotions like camaraderie, intimacy, and a sense of bonding.
There can be a truly satisfying sense of pride gained by letting others see us in this reduced state. Gooning in front of someone stretches our self-confidence as we let ourselves be intentionally self-embarrassing. For others, pride is inverted. For these kinky gooners, they vibe on how cringe-worthy they are. They take pleasure in having humiliated themselves, or made themselves unattractive. This melts into enhanced arousal or fun.
Despite the rawness of gooning, it’s not uncommon for genuine affection or even tenderness to arise. Whether it’s a hand on the shoulder, an encouraging laugh, or eye contact in a moment of post-goon clarity, gooning is far more emotionally layered than many expect.
So before we write gooning off as childish or silly, let’s think again. Maybe getting into such a deteriorated state is actually pretty smart!
