Particular kinds of dicks become fetishized and our fixation upon them can manifest into a penis worship kink. Dick obsession runs deep in our culture. Men are taught to question whether we measure up. We hear over and again that a hung dick provides the most pleasure or is a requirement for ideal masculinity. Of course that’s untrue, and we all know it to be untrue, and yet the wish to be more hung than we are never really goes away.
Many obsessions tip into the erotic. As we churn over what we desire and what we can offer, new urgings and yearnings emerge.
How dick obsession fires penis fetishization
While any penis is worthy of fetishization, cock worshippers often fixate upon some kind of penis in particular. And it’s not always the biggest ones! Within penis fetishization and penis worship is a curious blend of body shame and ownership, lust and pride.
For the cock worshipper, it is emotionally and sexually exciting to serve a penis. Worshipping can be affirming and even spiritual to bow down before cock. For the man whose penis is the object of the penis worship, the act is also affirming and indulgent. It is psychologically rewarding to take a dominant role.
As we’ll discover, penis worship can often reveal more about us than we thought – principally because we often seek to worship the very thing we think we ‘lack’.
Monster cock worship
Fetishizing big dicks is a size kink to have fun with and not to elevate big dicks as actually superior. Culturally we associate manliness and domination with big dicks, yet it isn’t remotely a requirement of either. A really big cock is also rare, which adds to the mystique. In this way, we can play with these tropes, but ultimately the massive cock is more a concept than any kind of reality.
This can mean falling to our knees in front of one or praising it as if it were a god. Gay men are very open about being size queens, but straight men can equally harbour monster cock fetishes. They can be super turned on by the thought of a man with a bigger dick than theirs pleasuring their partner.
In the bate community, bulls carry ‘big dick energy’. They feed off the positive reinforcement of cock worshippers who praise and worship their huge dicks. Bulls can be driven by their cocks, completely lacking self-control because they have such massive dicks. This can be a turn on for the cock worshipper who fetishises them.
It pays to remember that you don’t actually need a big dick to have big dick energy. It’s purely a mind-set.
Small penis worship
Check out Michelangelo’s David. For a well-muscled adonis, he’s definitely got a little dick. But during the Renaissance, and across other cultures, this was the idealised man. Large penises were unsightly and associated with grotesques.
Aristophanes weighed in on the desirable masculine body as having “strong buttocks and a little prick.” In Ancient Greece then, the hotties had little nubs. Funny how things change.
Today, small-penised men can still make a massive impact. This can take the form of degradation or small penis humiliation (SPH), or in the aesthetic contrast of a small dick on a beautiful, masculine man.
You do not need to have a small penis to get into SPH as a kink. Throwing the modern ideal of the big, thick cock on its head, being degraded as ‘tiny’ can be sexually exciting. That inferiority complex can twist into a wonderfully warped sense of body pride. As the man with the little nub exposes his ‘insignificance’ to ridicule, he reclaims ownership over the dick obsession that fuels his predicament in the first place.
SPH can be associated with cuck-culture too. A submissive man is humiliated for having too small a penis to sexually satisfy his partner. This can mean the need to bring in a well-endowed man to replace him – an incredibly exciting scenario for the cuck.
Leaving the kink of humiliation aside, the renaissance masters were indeed onto something. There is a refined aesthetic in a masculine man whose penis is not the drawcard for the eye, leaving space for appreciating how masculinity manifests in other ways. To masturbate a little-dicked man to orgasm can trigger a surprising assault of maleness.
Gay and straight cock worship
Even though a penis by its nature carries no sexual identity of its own, some cock worshippers imbue cocks as ‘gay’ or ‘straight’. Cock worshippers of one or another persuasion get a particular charge in seeing, sniffing, tasting or masturbating the cock of another persuasion.
The most common, and a tad problematic because of the history of gay persecution, is for cock worshippers to elevate straight dick as somehow ‘special’. As with monster cocks, there is nothing inherently superior about a straight man’s penis, nor is there anything inferior about a gay man who penis worships.
However, like size play, there can be pleasure and excitement found in acting out those tropes. Again, humiliation may play a role, so long as consent is asked for and proffered. But there’s also tremendous excitement in subverting those tropes too, where the alpha male is gay and it’s his ‘gay’ dick that gets to be worshipped.
There are many straight and bisexual men who could cum in their own pants by worshipping a gay man’s cock.
Cut and uncut penis worship
In certain cultures it can feel as if all penises seem to be the same as our own. Circumcision is linked to religion, but can also play out culturally where a father wishes his son to look as he does. Consider the difference between US and European culture in this regard.
Something different can provide a very arousing lure. Cut men can fetishise uncut penises, obsessed over the movement of the hood and the soft, shiny purple hue of the head. They might take pleasure in how the loose skin traps pre-cum in the act of masturbation.
Uncut men can equally fetishise the sheer definition of a cut cock. Since there are intricate differences in how a cut man masturbates, it can provide excitement for the uncut man to witness. He might seek to worship it by sliding a gleaming hand over a bloated, greasy cut dick.
Next time you find yourself lusting after a certain kind of penis, take a moment – obviously after the worship, not during – to ask why. Could it be that you’re fetishising your own sense of “lack”?
Desiring what we believe we don’t have is completely normal, and it often fuels our fetishes. Seen this way, penis worship isn’t just about him, it’s just as much about you. It becomes a way of turning your desires into proudly acknowledging what you also possess.
