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Hey Dr. Bate! Love the blog. Anyway, my question is around chafing; it sometimes happens when I bate a lot, mainly on the outer edges of my foreskin, and that's even with lube. What are some ways that you can prevent it from happening, and also promote healing while not having to stop doing what you love to do?
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Hello. This past year I've discovered that my interest in bating has grown to the extent that I would rather masturbate on cam rather than watching porn. I moved from my hometown to another country and it hasn't been easy adapting socially. I've had a couple of wanking meet-ups and still look for them, but none appear to be more than a one time thing.
I think I'm looking for someone to be friends with and to share the interest in wanking, plus any others. I find myself pretty often chatting online to try and find a fellow bater. Could this be more like an obsession? Maybe I should try finding non bating friends instead?
Ask Dr. Bate: Sexual Issues and Masturbation
I grew up in a Southern Baptist household where sex was never mentioned. My parents never prepared me for what I would experience during puberty and adulthood. Their silence on the subject of sex and the human body, along with the daily humiliations of Junior High, required me to carry the weight of a lot of things I was too young to handle, and the traumas that were buried in me then are still alive today.
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I love bating. But the problem is I feel like I love bating too much. Even when I am having sex with my people I still think about putting porns on and bating instead of enjoying the sex. Can you give me advice on this? I want to enjoy sex as much as I enjoy bating.
RECLAIMING MASTURBATION: PART 4 – THE HEALING POWER OF PLEASURE
Pleasure is not solely delegated to sex. Although this has become the focus of this "Reclaiming Masturbation" series, I want to take this last post to expand the idea and concept of what masturbation could be. Strictly speaking, let's think of masturbation not only as a sexual activity but also as any activity that "strokes" (in a manner of speaking) you to a higher place of pleasure, delight, and consciousness. This could be elicited through the listening of a great piece of music, eating a delectable meal, having a stimulating conversation with a good friend, enjoying a great movie, or attending a thought-provoking lecture.
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Any advice for smaller bators dealing with always being the smaller one when bating with buddies?
According to the most recent studies, the average length of a flaccid penis is 3.5-3.6 inches. And the average erect penis is about 5.1 inches long. So take a moment and mark those two measurements off on your ruler and remember that, like on a bell curve, most guys you meet and/or bate with are going to fall within that average. Of course there are outliers – some guys are smaller than average while others are larger.
RECLAIMING MASTURBATION: PART 3 – PORNOGRAPHY!
Pornography has been a present aspect of many people’s sexual landscape including my own. In this, Part 3 of Reclaiming Masturbation, I want to share my thoughts, concerns, techniques, and insights into how to create a more mindful masturbation practice around porn watching. Pornography, in my opinion, exists for two main reasons and in two main categories simultaneously: Sex as Art (the adoration of the beauty of sex) and Sex as Science (the actual arousal and stimulation of watching the mechanics of sex).
Ask Dr. Bate
I have a urologist who tells me it’s good to ejaculate on a frequent basis, and I’ve read articles that claim masturbation helps to stave off prostate cancer. Can a man go his whole life without ejaculating? Would that be healthy?
A Sort Of History Of Masturbation: Part 1, Primates and Cavemen
It should come as no surprise to humans that primates (monkeys, lemurs, humans - yes we are primates -, and etc.) are notorious bators. Youtube videos like Funny Monkey Masturbation Compilation 2014 and Primate Masturbation Megamix provide ample evidence of this simple fact. The why of it, scientifically speaking, is less clear.
Introducing Gooning: Portrait of a Masturbator
When masturbation is the subject of a book you’re writing every bate gets to be categorized as “research”. I am indeed writing a book about masturbation, and I do “research” every day. I often scribble down notes on a notepad as inspiration or revelation hit me during a bate. A lot of my pens are sticky. My name is Jason Armstrong. I’m the author of a sex blog...
Ask Dr. Bate
A friend and I got to talking about mutual masturbation and frottage, he loves to masturbate but doesn’t like to frot with guys he doesn’t know very well for fear of getting herpes (genital warts). How likely is someone to get herpes from mutual masturbation or frottage?