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RECLAIMING MASTURBATION: PART 3 – PORNOGRAPHY!

Pornography has been a present aspect of many people’s sexual landscape including my own. In this, Part 3 of Reclaiming Masturbation, I want to share my thoughts, concerns, techniques, and insights into how to create a more mindful masturbation practice around porn watching. Pornography, in my opinion, exists for two main reasons and in two main categories simultaneously: Sex as Art (the adoration of the beauty of sex) and Sex as Science (the actual arousal and stimulation of watching the mechanics of sex).

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I have a urologist who tells me it’s good to ejaculate on a frequent basis, and I’ve read articles that claim masturbation helps to stave off prostate cancer. Can a man go his whole life without ejaculating? Would that be healthy?

A Sort Of History Of Masturbation: Part 1, Primates and Cavemen

It should come as no surprise to humans that primates (monkeys, lemurs, humans - yes we are primates -, and etc.) are notorious bators. Youtube videos like Funny Monkey Masturbation Compilation 2014 and Primate Masturbation Megamix provide ample evidence of this simple fact. The why of it, scientifically speaking, is less clear.

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A friend and I got to talking about mutual masturbation and frottage, he loves to masturbate but doesn’t like to frot with guys he doesn’t know very well for fear of getting herpes (genital warts). How likely is someone to get herpes from mutual masturbation or frottage?

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I'm a horny young guy (20), and recently I've gotten into a habit that I'm not sure is healthy, especially physically? So, when I jack off, I get hard, edge for a while, then blow my load. All normal, right? Except, sometimes, I'm still SOOOO horny even right after I cum. I keep tugging at my cock and it's still totally soft. Eventually, if I tug enough and just right, I can kind of "make" myself cum while totally soft. Basically, I'm not hard at all. Sometimes I'll get a little stiff as I'm cumming again, but not even then always. I have both an orgasm and an ejaculation- my cum is a little thicker and whiter, too. It feels amaaaazing. But is it healthy?

RECLAIMING MASTURBATION: PART 2 – MORE TRICKS OF THE TRADE!

A few days ago a dear friend of mine asked, "Garland, why are you writing about how to masturbate? Masturbation's been around as long as man's been on the planet!"

We both laughed 'cause his question is a legitimate one. Why write about something that, arguably, billions of people have engaged in for ages; putting hand or device to penis or vagina, stimulate until orgasm/ejaculation, the end. Of course his question insinuates that EVERYONE knows how to masturbate. Like, duh?

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I woke up this morning at 3:30 and began to lightly tease my dick and balls for about 5 hours while watching porn. I did not cum. When I got done, my balls began to ache and now there is steady pressure between my balls and anus. What is the best way to get the pain to stop?

RECLAIMING MASTURBATION: PART 1

I began a slow journey back to reclaiming the self-pleasures of my penis. Granted, against my parents' wishes, I continued to masturbate all those 22 years, but it was never something that I felt I could fully throw myself into as a self-loving and self-pleasuring activity - an activity whose own pleasure was reason enough to indulge. My folks, coupled with my religious upbringing, had previously and systematically ruined this self-loving potential. Every time I'd do it, I'd be riddled with guilt.

Ask Dr. Bate – BATING HANGUPS

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Why do most people have a hangup about bating? I mean, isn't it common knowledge that all guys love to jack off? So why are guys uptight about it? I’m gay, but would love to enjoy jacking beside a buddy, gay or straight. How can I let someone know it’s okay to enjoy the experience?

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