Body image issues are an important topic and something I am particularly vocal about. Some readers may remember my article All Sizes Are Good Sizes: Celebrating Dick Diversity and Overcoming Societal Expectations. If you haven’t…

“…You are well on your way to liberation from such guilt and shame simply by being aware of it.” QUESTION: My family is not religious or conservative. But I still feel some guilt or shame…

“…You have evidently given yourself permission to enjoy pleasuring yourself, which is great, in itself!” QUESTION: I’m in my early 30s and still live with my loving parents, who are very religious. I masturbate a…

“I still feel some guilt and shame after I come…” QUESTION: I still feel some guilt and shame after I come. Even though I know better—I should not feel this. It’s not during the bate…

“They say it’s not real sex, that it’s only for losers…” QUESTION: My buddies at work and in the hood, all act weird because I’m pretty open and proud about how much I love the…

Male masturbation is no longer automatically portrayed as a shameful, hidden act. As I perused my newTumbl feed recently, I was struck by how much the representation of male masturbation in pornography has changed in…

Personally, my advice is: Don’t do it. Here’s why. QUESTION:  I’ve seen what you wrote about penis enlargement before, that there’s no safe, effective way with surgery or pills. Yeah. Masturbate a lot and keep…

Greetings my brother bators, This will be the first in a series of articles discussing the issues of toxic masculinity and how it impacts our bator community. It is my goal with these articles to…

Shame is something learned, usually from very early in life. However, I can offer you a way to gradually dissolve and finally eliminate such shame entirely! QUESTION: This is hard to admit to myself, because…

Shame, even as I type the term it makes me feel a certain type of embarrassment, repulsion, and judgement. Shame and masturbation have somewhat of a correlation to one another. At the heat of the…

(Note: This is another true story about bisexuality and the wins, and sometimes messiness, of navigating attractions and emotions in our own lives and in our friendships and marriages.) One day, “Gavin,” (not his real…

There are numerous benefits to encouraging open and honest information and attitudes about male masturbation QUESTION: We’re not supposed to talk about family stuff like this on BW, I guess. But let me tell you,…