Most of the articles my wife and I have written so far for the Masturbation Has No Orientation column on The Bator Blog have dealt with real life J/O sessions with other guys. I’ve been fortunate…

The discussion about whether masturbation is sex or whether it is an aperitif before sex takes place (either as a prelude to intercourse or practice/substitute for the “real thing”) is one that likely won’t be…

Only you can determine how much masturbation might be enough for you. “Predictably, Porn Raises Its Head!” QUESTION: I really love to stroke to porn. I do it every day, sometimes for hours. Can’t seem…

This is a sensitive subject, both in terms of Bateworld parameters and actual family life. I cannot condone what your brothers were doing or condemn it… QUESTION: There are a lot of guys in my…

The best approach may be to tell him about yourself, in terms of some of the things that turn you on, without getting too specific… QUESTION: My best friend and I jacked off together ever…

This is a really intriguing subject, and there’s nothing wrong with the subject, even if you get aroused and masturbate looking at photos and YouTube on the subject. QUESTION: I’m totally fascinated with animal penises…

Your reaction sounds honest and natural, but only you can decide if it’s really okay. QUESTION: My brother is really cute, and I found out he did some gay porn to help pay for his…

This friend and I are both straight, but we like to watch porn together. Of course, we both end up jacking off, only he looks at me a lot. I can tell he wants to touch me, and who knows? Maybe more. How can I tell him No?

Distinguishing your fantasies vs. realities is important!

QUESTION: Is it wrong to fantasize about something that could be immoral, or even illegal while I masturbate? Some of those things just turn me on so intensely, man, like nothing else!

RESPONSE: Many people assume that fantasizing is what masturbation is all about. Of course, creative self-pleasure has many other major delicious facets. You can make a case for the fact that watching and listening to porn is a form of media-assisted fantasy, because you use the images that arouse you to stimulate your pleasure, and yet it remains vicarious. It is not what is actually happening here and now, though your sensations are real. But live-action porn did happen somewhere at some time and was recorded for an audience.

I’m totally addicted! QUESTION: Is it true that you can masturbate too much? I’m totally addicted, I’m addicted to porn, and I really love poppers too. Only I’m starting to notice, sometimes even with poppers,…

It’s time we talk directly about masturbation as masturbation, the way images are incorporated into our masturbatory expression with a sense of playful exploration of what we find sexually appealing. People need to be called out to stop the euphemisms and speak directly about the subject before we can take the discussion seriously.

To Lube or Not to Lube?

QUESTION:I typically masturbate without lube or lotion because I sit at the computer to chat, flip through porn, or have phone sex. I am worried that my penis is getting damaged due to dry skin, but I don’t want to get my computer/phone covered in lube. Any thoughts on this?