Bators often refer to and greet each other as brothers. They form, in a very real sense, a brotherhood founded on the practice and art of masturbation. Online communities like bateworld provide the common bator a safe and open environment where they can explore, talk about, and share their fondness for masturbation with like minded men. In addition to the camaraderie and reassurance, many men find it more exciting to bate with other men.
Guys get conditioned in their teens to believe orgasm and ejaculation have to go together, and that ejaculation is the ultimate, only this is not necessarily the case. QUESTION: Hey, Bruce, I really “get” the…
Is edging dangerous? I like to go several days without cumming and enjoy bating for an hour or more at a time. Is it unhealthy to build up cum without releasing it?
QUESTION: I’m 27 years old in the military, and this is really embarrassing. I guess you call it premature ejaculation. I’m ashamed to admit it. Really cramps my style. My penis is so incredibly sensitive, I just cum way too fast. With anyone else, or alone, either way. I can’t even edge at all. HELP ME!
RESPONSE: There’s nothing to be ashamed of here. You’re brave to speak out honestly on this. It’s a far more common issue for men than you might imagine. Also, there is the opposite issue, of guys who get hard and enjoy stimulation but have a difficult time getting to the orgasm. Your extreme sensitivity, I totally understand, because I was something like that myself until my early 40s, when I discovered what I call Mindful Masturbation. I’m still extremely sensitive, but I’ve learned to make ejaculation a choice. I learned to enjoy intense pure penis pleasure for as long and I want to stay in that glorious place indefinitely.
QUESTION: How can I give myself small ejaculations or semen releases without actually orgasming?
RESPONSE: Among the endless nuances of male masturbatory excellence are the refinements of what guys call “edging,” dry orgasms, or continuous orgasmic states. Edging generally means spending a lot of time highly aroused, close to orgasm, but not quite going over the edge into ejaculation—at least not until you’re ready to surrender and go over that irreversible Niagara Falls of oblivion.
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