QUESTION: After prostate surgery, I’m lucky. I don’t ejaculate, though I sometimes ooze a little. I do have great erections and have wonderful orgasms, though. I’m 72 and in pretty good shape, so I wonder……
Sometimes when I am in a sexually tense and very stimulating situation I will come quickly before I even get hard! Is that normal?
QUESTION: How can I give myself small ejaculations or semen releases without actually orgasming?
RESPONSE: Among the endless nuances of male masturbatory excellence are the refinements of what guys call “edging,” dry orgasms, or continuous orgasmic states. Edging generally means spending a lot of time highly aroused, close to orgasm, but not quite going over the edge into ejaculation—at least not until you’re ready to surrender and go over that irreversible Niagara Falls of oblivion.
My handsome friend in South America masturbates with me on Skype, moaning, gasping, his head rolls back and forth; he pauses, as if stunned, and moves his hands away from the meaty pillar of his penis in the foreground of my view. Then his head falls back in a look of beatitude, like some kind of saint in ecstasy, as his body twitches and writhes in place, his thighs vibrate.
So the second part of this practice to experience dry orgasms and possibly multiple male orgasms, come when you are masturbating. This is a challenge of fine-tuning, and not so much a feat of obsessive control, as of paying really, really close attention to your level of arousal, and then using your ability to relax that pee-stopper muscle at just the right moment. This can reward you beyond your wildest dreams!
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