On the cusp of releasing his second book about life as a solosexual, Jason Amstrong takes a trip down memory lane to a post he wrote on The Bator Blog years in 2016. Once upon…

Often you might find men of the community come and go and come back again. One can never really pinpoint the reasoning, and maybe they don’t know either, perhaps they just needed a break. One day you meet a cool bator, chat, bate, connect, and the next day his profile is gone. Did he get cold feet? Does he feel ashamed? They are all valid questions that deserve some answering and elaborating.

Something I urge you to consider, regardless of how often or how rarely you decide to ejaculate is this: HONOR YOUR SEMEN! QUESTION: I love the bate as much as anything in life, but the…

Many wise and moderate users do discover that pleasurable sensations may be enhanced… QUESTION: I’m not a regular pot-smoker, though I’ve tried it sometimes. I just felt weird, spacey, then sleepy and tired. I hate…

If you get too possessive of anyone, that can easily lead to problems, even estrangement. QUESTION: My best friend and I love to masturbate together. We’ve done this since we were way too young to…

Your reaction sounds honest and natural, but only you can decide if it’s really okay. QUESTION: My brother is really cute, and I found out he did some gay porn to help pay for his…

So much energy and time goes into my bate. How can I incorporate meditation and sexual magick into my masturbation for positive life outcomes? Are there techniques or rituals you recommend?

I know that most readers here probably don’t care who the butt players are, who the “bottoms” are or why because they (we) realize it’s part of our nature as men and as masturbators to explore all areas of yourself regardless of your sexuality. This is mainly for anyone who has ever considered touching their butthole, pleasuring it, asking their partner to, but felt concerned that maybe it means something else “Maybe I’m gay…”