Masturbation Has No Orientation

My wife and I recently visited friends and family out of state for the holidays. While it’s great to see everyone, I’m an introvert and my wife will typically give me a day alone to…

(Note: This is another true story about bisexuality and the wins, and sometimes messiness, of navigating attractions and emotions in our own lives and in our friendships and marriages.) One day, “Gavin,” (not his real…

Happy International Bi Visibility Day! Bi Invisibility? Monday, September 23rd is International Bi Visibility Day  a.k.a. Celebrate Bisexuality Day. For most of us who are bi, we know why this is a day (and week and month) to celebrate, but…

When I told my friend, “Brett,” that I might be writing a personal story for Bateworld for International Bi Visibility Day (celebrated around the world on September 23rd each year), he wrote, “Well in my…

Most of the articles my wife and I have written so far for the Masturbation Has No Orientation column on The Bator Blog have dealt with real life J/O sessions with other guys. I’ve been fortunate…

I get questions sometimes from other Bateworld members asking for tips on how to meet bate buddies. While there’s no magic formula, I thought I’d share from my own experiences hoping it might spark some…

AFFIRMATION: The GQ Straight Bate Article Sex-periential lessons from a bating sexologist, Dr. Jallen Rix (hand2rod) How exciting to see straight male self-love go mainstream in the GQ article by EJ Dickson, and what an…

Like most of my posts, this is a true story of an experience I’ve had. I thought it was a good illustration of how “Masturbation Has No Orientation” and so wanted to share it here….

One of the most important lessons my wife and I learned as we were opening up our marriage is that just because I masturbate with guys doesn’t mean I love her any less. In my…

Ever wonder why cum shots are a must, regardless of whether you’re watching straight or gay porn? Or if you identify as straight, whether getting an erection at the sight of another man’s hard penis…

I was 18 and comparing dicks with a buddy on my cross country team. We chat about porn, compare sizes and bust a nut together in the locker room urinals before practice. Just two endlessly…

In Shere Hite’s 1981 classic “Hite Report on Male Sexuality” she famously found that 43% of teenage boys experimented sexually with other boys (usually through group or mutual masturbation) and this had no effect on…