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Posted on: | October 21, 2020 |
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Despite some progress in recent years, body image issues for men are still often swept under the rug. In particular, we invest a lot in our penises, and our self-esteem correlates to how we feel about them. Many men worry about penis size, but it is seldom addressed as a serious topic. Some might not realize that their perception of their penis is skewed by external influences. Let’s celebrate dick diversity and overcome societal expectations together.
We are exposed to idealized images in the media and instilled with negative and confusing messages from society. This can distort how we see and feel about our penises. The more these ideas are perpetuated, the deeper they impact us psychologically.
We constantly compare ourselves to others, whether it’s in the locker room, at the urinals, or even with other masturbators. We get so caught up in the numbers game, which is all very arbitrary. Theories abound about the variation in genital size across ethnicities, and with that come racial jokes and offensive stereotypes. There have been surveys to determine the “average” size among the population of the world. You can look up those “statistics” if you’d like, but they serve no purpose except to contribute to the anxiety surrounding penis size.
People like to categorize penises into “growers” or “showers.” “Growers” are penises that are small when flaccid and grow much larger when erect. “Showers” are penises that are already large when flaccid and don’t grow as drastically when erect. I am pleased to shatter this illusion and inform you that most penises are growers. Many men are insecure about their soft penis size, but the fact is, most penises are small when they are soft. This is completely natural, and there is nothing to worry about. Be confident about your cock.
The truth is, all penises are “showers” worthy of being seen and admired. Sometimes I like to tell people, with a confident smile, that I’m both a grower and a shower.
People also really like to make jokes about penis size. The jokes are endless, and I am not going to repeat any of them. You have heard them all before. Oftentimes, they are used to assert one’s self-appointed superiority or to diminish the confidence of another. Even if it’s meant to be lighthearted humor, those words are harmful, whether or not you realize it.
I will tell you right now that small penis jokes are never funny. None of us has a choice about the size of our genitals. There is no “normal” size. What is normal for you is what you have. Mocking someone for the size of their penis is body-shaming, and we shouldn’t laugh at it.
With the mockery of small penises comes the glorification of very large penises. Many guys compare themselves to the unattainable ideals of porn, which is not a reflection of most people in real life. Countless penis enlargement products and methods have been touted in an effort to make us feel like we’re not big enough. The mentality is that “bigger is better,” and we are bombarded with these unrealistic expectations at every turn. I challenge this narrative every time I encounter it, and I encourage you to do the same.
It is well known that the ancient Greeks, and the Romans after them, favored the aesthetics of small penises. The diminutive dick was a symbol of virility and self-discipline, and all their gods and heroes were depicted this way. An exception to this was Priapus, who is represented by a permanently erect and grossly exaggerated phallus. But his oversized erection was considered a curse, as the Greeks regarded large penises as comical and grotesque.
Ancient cultures regarded the small penis as a symbol of refinement and enlightenment. The penis of the Buddha himself is said to have been retracted inside his body. According to the 6th-century encyclopedia Brihat Samhita, a big penis is very unlucky. How the tables have turned. The point is to demonstrate how opinions regarding size have been inconsistent throughout history and across cultures. Our obsession with big cocks is pretty much the opposite of what some of our ancestors preferred.
Someone recently accused me of being on a “little dick crusade,” which I thought was a funny thing to say, but he missed the whole point. The scale is already tipped in favor of big penises, so the goal is to level the playing field. Let’s share that reverence and enthusiasm with all varieties of penises! Many guys love having a big penis, and they are always the loudest voices in the room. There is nothing wrong with celebrating your big cock—go for it, man!—as long as you recognize and honor the validity of all cocks.
Not everyone likes having a big dick. Some men find that being hung like a horse can be quite burdensome. Carrying around a big, swinging dick in one’s pants can feel awkward or uncomfortable. Many guys with big penises love the attention, but some don’t like being objectified. Some may also face challenges during partnered sex. So some men have anxiety about being too big.
Feelings of inadequacy can also affect men with big penises. Since the message instilled in us is “go bigger,” even guys who are already quite large can feel that they are not large enough. They perceive their penises to be smaller than they really are. I have interacted with many men who think that their penis is too small, but I see what I consider to be a fairly large penis. So men of all sizes can feel that their dick is small. Small is a feeling, not a number.
Someone once asked me how I would describe the size of his penis: medium, large, or extra large (notice how he never said small). My response to him was that words like “medium” or “large” are meaningless. You’re a human, not a pizza. And that’s the whole point. Just like the people they’re attached to, penises come in every size, shape, and color imaginable, and then some. All are different, and none are superior. As men in the masturbation community, we need to support each other and celebrate our dick diversity. All sizes are good sizes.
Penises are meant to fluctuate in size anyway. A single penis can vary greatly depending on environmental factors such as temperature. Most of us are familiar with “shrinkage” in a cold room or after coming out of a swimming pool. Shrinkage is completely natural, and I think it’s a beautiful thing. Instead of being embarrassed about it, let’s own it. Nature made us this way.
Your penis can also retract inside your body due to tension. This can occur for several reasons, including stress and trauma. One time I was taking dick pics and I realized that I was contracting my pelvic floor muscles and drawing my genitals into my body. When I consciously relaxed those muscles, my penis and balls protruded more from my body.
I take a lot of dick pics, as I’m sure most of us do. Some have even mastered the art of the dick pic, and understand the nuances of angle and lighting. These can affect your perception of your penis as well. One exercise that I like to do is take photos of my penis in different environments and at different states of softness and arousal. My penis varies incredibly in size and shape, ranging from shriveled, rumpled foreskin to fat Italian sausage and many shades in between. We should challenge our skewed perceptions of our penises and learn to appreciate them with all of their variables.
Your penis is yours. When you masturbate—have sex with yourself—size doesn’t matter anyway. No one is judging you except yourself. So discard all that bullshit. Embrace your size and feel good about it. Don’t measure your penis in length and girth, but in terms of self-love and self-pleasure. That’s the perfect size. Let’s acknowledge and celebrate dick diversity.
Written by BateWorld member StrokingtheSoul
Follow him on Twitter @StrokingtheSoul
Despite some progress in recent years, body image issues for men are still often swept under the rug. In particular, we invest a lot in our penises, and our self-esteem correlates to how we feel about them. Many men worry about penis size, but it is seldom addressed as a serious topic. Some might not realize that their perception of their penis is skewed by external influences. Let’s celebrate dick diversity and overcome societal expectations together.
We are exposed to idealized images in the media and instilled with negative and confusing messages from society. This can distort how we see and feel about our penises. The more these ideas are perpetuated, the deeper they impact us psychologically.
We constantly compare ourselves to others, whether it’s in the locker room, at the urinals, or even with other masturbators. We get so caught up in the numbers game, which is all very arbitrary. Theories abound about the variation in genital size across ethnicities, and with that come racial jokes and offensive stereotypes. There have been surveys to determine the “average” size among the population of the world. You can look up those “statistics” if you’d like, but they serve no purpose except to contribute to the anxiety surrounding penis size.
People like to categorize penises into “growers” or “showers.” “Growers” are penises that are small when flaccid and grow much larger when erect. “Showers” are penises that are already large when flaccid and don’t grow as drastically when erect. I am pleased to shatter this illusion and inform you that most penises are growers. Many men are insecure about their soft penis size, but the fact is, most penises are small when they are soft. This is completely natural, and there is nothing to worry about. Be confident about your cock.
The truth is, all penises are “showers” worthy of being seen and admired. Sometimes I like to tell people, with a confident smile, that I’m both a grower and a shower.
People also really like to make jokes about penis size. The jokes are endless, and I am not going to repeat any of them. You have heard them all before. Oftentimes, they are used to assert one’s self-appointed superiority or to diminish the confidence of another. Even if it’s meant to be lighthearted humor, those words are harmful, whether or not you realize it.
I will tell you right now that small penis jokes are never funny. None of us has a choice about the size of our genitals. There is no “normal” size. What is normal for you is what you have. Mocking someone for the size of their penis is body-shaming, and we shouldn’t laugh at it.
With the mockery of small penises comes the glorification of very large penises. Many guys compare themselves to the unattainable ideals of porn, which is not a reflection of most people in real life. Countless penis enlargement products and methods have been touted in an effort to make us feel like we’re not big enough. The mentality is that “bigger is better,” and we are bombarded with these unrealistic expectations at every turn. I challenge this narrative every time I encounter it, and I encourage you to do the same.
It is well known that the ancient Greeks, and the Romans after them, favored the aesthetics of small penises. The diminutive dick was a symbol of virility and self-discipline, and all their gods and heroes were depicted this way. An exception to this was Priapus, who is represented by a permanently erect and grossly exaggerated phallus. But his oversized erection was considered a curse, as the Greeks regarded large penises as comical and grotesque.
Ancient cultures regarded the small penis as a symbol of refinement and enlightenment. The penis of the Buddha himself is said to have been retracted inside his body. According to the 6th-century encyclopedia Brihat Samhita, a big penis is very unlucky. How the tables have turned. The point is to demonstrate how opinions regarding size have been inconsistent throughout history and across cultures. Our obsession with big cocks is pretty much the opposite of what some of our ancestors preferred.
Someone recently accused me of being on a “little dick crusade,” which I thought was a funny thing to say, but he missed the whole point. The scale is already tipped in favor of big penises, so the goal is to level the playing field. Let’s share that reverence and enthusiasm with all varieties of penises! Many guys love having a big penis, and they are always the loudest voices in the room. There is nothing wrong with celebrating your big cock—go for it, man!—as long as you recognize and honor the validity of all cocks.
Not everyone likes having a big dick. Some men find that being hung like a horse can be quite burdensome. Carrying around a big, swinging dick in one’s pants can feel awkward or uncomfortable. Many guys with big penises love the attention, but some don’t like being objectified. Some may also face challenges during partnered sex. So some men have anxiety about being too big.
Feelings of inadequacy can also affect men with big penises. Since the message instilled in us is “go bigger,” even guys who are already quite large can feel that they are not large enough. They perceive their penises to be smaller than they really are. I have interacted with many men who think that their penis is too small, but I see what I consider to be a fairly large penis. So men of all sizes can feel that their dick is small. Small is a feeling, not a number.
Someone once asked me how I would describe the size of his penis: medium, large, or extra large (notice how he never said small). My response to him was that words like “medium” or “large” are meaningless. You’re a human, not a pizza. And that’s the whole point. Just like the people they’re attached to, penises come in every size, shape, and color imaginable, and then some. All are different, and none are superior. As men in the masturbation community, we need to support each other and celebrate our dick diversity. All sizes are good sizes.
Penises are meant to fluctuate in size anyway. A single penis can vary greatly depending on environmental factors such as temperature. Most of us are familiar with “shrinkage” in a cold room or after coming out of a swimming pool. Shrinkage is completely natural, and I think it’s a beautiful thing. Instead of being embarrassed about it, let’s own it. Nature made us this way.
Your penis can also retract inside your body due to tension. This can occur for several reasons, including stress and trauma. One time I was taking dick pics and I realized that I was contracting my pelvic floor muscles and drawing my genitals into my body. When I consciously relaxed those muscles, my penis and balls protruded more from my body.
I take a lot of dick pics, as I’m sure most of us do. Some have even mastered the art of the dick pic, and understand the nuances of angle and lighting. These can affect your perception of your penis as well. One exercise that I like to do is take photos of my penis in different environments and at different states of softness and arousal. My penis varies incredibly in size and shape, ranging from shriveled, rumpled foreskin to fat Italian sausage and many shades in between. We should challenge our skewed perceptions of our penises and learn to appreciate them with all of their variables.
Your penis is yours. When you masturbate—have sex with yourself—size doesn’t matter anyway. No one is judging you except yourself. So discard all that bullshit. Embrace your size and feel good about it. Don’t measure your penis in length and girth, but in terms of self-love and self-pleasure. That’s the perfect size. Let’s acknowledge and celebrate dick diversity.
Written by BateWorld member StrokingtheSoul
Follow him on Twitter @StrokingtheSoul
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Love this article! Revolutionary in scope! Helps me to see my body as worthy in whatever size or shape it presents as! Letting go of shame and worry and becoming a more empowered hu-MAN! Cheers to the author!
Funny how this size “thing” gets kicked around all the time. Bigger is supposed to mean better. More pleasurable. More potent. More alpha male. But as long as it works is really all the size you should be concerned about.
I really never thought much about size, I’m definitely a grower. Going from 2 inches to 4 or 5ish. Actually it’s been so long since I’ve really been fully erect I really don’t recall just how big I got. Yet for my solosex, masturbation needs, omg the pleasure is still so enjoyable. At 66 I still masturbate daily and have been for eons.
Okay
I applaud you, Sir. Well said. At 56, I’ll continue bating as I have for the past 42 years as long as I’m able.
You will have many more enjoyable years. At nearly 70 I still masturbate regularly and get a good hard 6 1/2″ erection
I am perfectly happy with the size I have. Mesuring him has never been a priority but I must admit that I’m a proud 8 . I’m must be lucky LOL. Any way size isn’t a priority for me .
Does it make me more confident… Well … Dont realy know… maybe
I would most likely be called small by some, average by most. This is so so so important. Please don’t shame.
Like the author said, the scales are tipped in favor of hung. For fear of sounding like a whiny-ass person, I’ll say that it is quite marginalizing. It’s isolating to see artists, models, and others, being featured just because of their size. We intuitives can sense what the intention is.
The best orgasm of my life happened while frotting with a young man with an uncut, four inch erection. Size has meant nothing to me since. What I wouldn’t give to rub that beautiful little dong again.
We all have our preferences as to what we find attractive. If you enjoy larger sizes, great! If smaller are the only things you enjoy, fantastic. For me, it’s never been about the size, but about how the other person engages with what they have. Big or small, if you are truly showing great pleasure in its use, then that is what matters. I myself am of the smaller side of the spectrum, a good 5, and I have been lucky to never receive backlash on any of my encounters. I give credit to the fact that I don’t let any feelings of doubt or negative self worth get in the way of reaching for maximum pleasure and enjoyment. We shouldn’t ever step in the way of another’s journey to pleasure, I’m sure you wouldn’t like that either.
Funky, first replies all mention their size. In article saying size doesn’t matter:D
On gay websites where[ people post photos ‘Ive noticed a lot of cock shaming and often with guys that are even 5 inches erect which is the statistical average. They will even call it tiny. The average erect length should be listed as a range.. say from 4 3/4 to 5 3/4 . But we should view every cock as beautiful no matter the length. Only 2%of men are 8 inches or more. 7 inches is actually consdered hung now. Who decided that 5 [+ 1/16] is not very long? Take a rule arnd see how long it actually is. Even deep throating that would be a challange – especially if its a thick one. An it really i what you do with what you have that matters. We get what we get and no one should be made too feel bad because they are 5/16 or a 1/2 inche off the average. We are obsessing about franctions of inches! Two guys naked in a locker room – can you even tell one is 3/4 or 1 inch shorter that the guy next to him?.