In this new post, M.B. Timothy (Saboteur on Bateworld), exalts solosexuality as an act of goodwill which benefits all. This essay is about the very modern sex lives of masturbators – the intersection of pleasure, technology and ethics. This is an excerpt from Timothy’s an anthology of essays on advanced masturbation called REAL MEN MASTURBATE, covering edging, gooning and handsfree ejaculation. He has also written CEDAR: An Ode To Masturbation, available now on Amazon, a sensual celebration of solosexuality through fact and fiction. Timothy has been published numerous times on The Bator Blog and he is dedicated to masturbation and body pride. He has been called a Guru of Technique and an Evangelist of Self Love. He masturbates every day.
There exists an entire generation of men alive on earth right now for whom pleasuring their own penises through masturbation is sex. Masturbation is not simply “getting off.” These men masturbate themselves morning and night. They devote entire days to it. Their penises are erect for a higher proportion of their waking lives than men of other sexualities. This generation of men is having more fun and more sex than any other.
I am one of these men.
There exists a whole brotherhood of self-pleasurers. We are in the midst of a solosexual revolution which flies in the face of efforts to diminish it. This brotherhood taps into men everywhere, whether bators or not. The urge to masturbate is a commonality which exists in all men. We have always and we will always masturbate. This ancient way to make pleasure is within our DNA. Connecting with this part of ourselves is about honouring our bodies and our life. Masturbating is our biologically given right to pleasure. This is not new.
Solophilia is new. The Solophile is made by the modern world. A Solophile is aroused by masturbation. It may be images or thoughts of others masturbating, or it may be the idea of himself masturbating which compels him to put his own hand on himself. Before the internet, men masturbated in private. The Solophile could not have existed without the internet. The solosexual revolution caught spark with the internet and that fire has spread through the world.
It is fascinating to consider how technology intersects with the ancient practice of masturbation. Technology has allowed men who have previously masturbated in secret to form associations. Men have found each other in chat rooms, on Bateworld, on forums, previously on Tumblr and now on Twitter. It crosses age, race, socio-economic background, sexual orientation and matters of the body. Men everywhere are coming out as bators. We have built an online community which exists with a driving purpose to encourage men to masturbate – more often and more deeply.
Being a part of this means you are not alone. Feeling supported means you have found your tribe. The Solophile takes his masturbation out of the closet. They take masturbation on as an identity. They encourage others to find their identities and they share.
My bate fuels yours. Yours fuels mine and his. We are brothers.
If there exists a “philosophy” behind Solosexuality it is in fraternity, modernism and sexual freedom. In the bate community, all men can freely bate their penis. We fuel ourselves through pornography, video-conferencing, self-recording, mirrors and smartphones. Some find each other online but meet up for a face to face, penis to penis encounter in real life. These connections are fostered in the relative safety of online beginnings. This is why the online community is powerfully relevant.
The recent demise of Tumblr’s liberation saw just how powerfully corporations can crush sexual expression. There was a great deal of shared information on Tumblr which was helpful to many on their solosexual journeys. This loss has not dampened our community though. We built something good and they cannot tear it down.
Bators are forming very strong and compelling friendships online. Those friendships are real. They may spend most of their time masturbragging about their bate, sure, but is that any different to how most friends “shoot the breeze?”
The pornosexual male who has lengthy and beautiful sex while watching hours of pornography is not a sad man. He is a man who has responded to the modern world. He is having sex in a new way. It involves himself and affects no one else.
The solosexual who gets off taking pictures or videos of himself masturbating, only to play them back while he masturbates, is using technology to fuel self love. It seems a pretty healthy use of technology to me.
The bator who fires up his webcam, spreads his leg wide before his screen and bates his penis is a hero. This man exposes his sexuality for all the world to see. Consenting adults love looking at erect penises. They are powerfully alluring. The exposed bator gives to many what was previously only given to a few.
I can now strap on a vibrating cock ring, give you remote access to it, and you can masturbate my swollen taint for me. Thank you to the wonders of the internet.
In the future I will strap myself into a contraption, put on a headset, and you all can line up to edge my big dick. There is no reason why such a world should not exist. Men like me want to have sex this way. It is not hurting anyone. It is not unethical. It is not illegal. It is, instead, beautiful and wondrous and incredible to consider my brother on the other side of the earth stimulating my pleasure in the here and now.
Solosex is a wonderful thing to cultivate. Masturbators like me are simply exploring a new way to have sex. Sexuality is ours. It is yours and it is mine. Others may work hard to have us be sexual in ways which are palatable to them, but we must resist.
Men who masturbate together can never be enemies. Men who masturbate together see across the divide of what separates us to see the essence of the other. The future is bright for masturbators because our tribe is growing. Solophilia fosters empathy. When I masturbate to images of you masturbating, I feel for a moment as you are. This is why solosexuality should be nourished and shared. No other sexuality comes close to the empathic connection forged between two masturbating men.
The world needs more open, shared masturbation. If more men can redefine their sexual roles in the world, we will have fewer problems.
Expose yourself. Use your computer. Masturbrag. Seek out bators. Watch men self-pleasure. Make solophilia your sexuality. You will find other solophilic brothers and you will never be alone.
Ejaculate your sperm over me. Let me be the receptacle of your spectacle. I will return the favour.
By sharing and showing, we expand consciousness of solosex. I have learnt so much from bearing witness to my brothers’ masturbation. Proliferation of information about masturbation is key. We are all learning how each other masturbates. The internet is there to facilitate this.
I am a proud bator and I love that I have a modern sexuality.
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