But my second inspiration was BateWorld.com. Here, I met other men for whom this experience was just as revelatory. My book is dedicated in part to all the men who shared their sexual journeys with me. I realized that for so many of us, our sexuality is not peripheral to our experience of being human, but for many, it’s central. And I wanted to honor that — in myself and in the community that has sprung from BateWorld. I think if I had read my own book when I was 20 and starting my sexual life, I might have saved myself some trouble.
When you’re feeling “less than,” one of the most immediate ways to counter those messages is to do what really, deeply nurtures you. List out the things that make your heart absolutely blossom – and when Valentine’s Day comes around, do one or more of these exquisite things. And don’t forget self-pleasuring. After all, masturbation is one of the most intimate and loving acts that you can do with the one you know the best.
Over the years there’ve been a number of films that take themselves a little too seriously. The overall success of these films can be the difference between self-awareness and self-indulgence, and often it’s hard to tell the difference. A Message Film can unintentionally become a Camp Masterpiece or, worse, Great Big Bomb, by default of its own over-baked seriousness. Sometimes, a movie just can’t get out of its own way, and that’s why we love them so.
I wanted to create songs that weren’t so much FOR masturbation as ABOUT masturbation and sexual revolution, trying to interpret sex energies into thumping, whooshing, pulsing waves of expressive sonic surprise. Call it music if you will. Dance naked if you must. Just get up and take this moment in your hands.
Since we started BateWorld six years ago, we’ve been slowly evolving and improving our user experience. The current version, BateWorld2.0, was launched in 2010 after our first year of operation. We’ve continually improved on that foundation for five years and now we’re ready to take it to the next stage. In 2016, BateWorld will begin its third phase of transformation. Our members will soon begin to see changes to the site, which may continue gradually through several more years as we upgrade every element of BateWorld.
Pleasure is not solely delegated to sex. Although this has become the focus of this “Reclaiming Masturbation” series, I want to take this last post to expand the idea and concept of what masturbation could be. Strictly speaking, let’s think of masturbation not only as a sexual activity but also as any activity that “strokes” (in a manner of speaking) you to a higher place of pleasure, delight, and consciousness. This could be elicited through the listening of a great piece of music, eating a delectable meal, having a stimulating conversation with a good friend, enjoying a great movie, or attending a thought-provoking lecture.
This is our second in a continuing series about gay and bisexual actors from classic television. Paul Winfield and Will Geer were remarkable actors who – like so many actors of their time – had to be discrete about their personal lives…
This article originally ran in the June 2015 issue of AVN magazine. Click here to see the article online. If there’s one thing that gay, bisexual and straight men share in common, it’s the ability…