Bate Life

Over the years there’ve been a number of films that take themselves a little too seriously. The overall success of these films can be the difference between self-awareness and self-indulgence, and often it’s hard to tell the difference. A Message Film can unintentionally become a Camp Masterpiece or, worse, Great Big Bomb, by default of its own over-baked seriousness. Sometimes, a movie just can’t get out of its own way, and that’s why we love them so.

I wanted to create songs that weren’t so much FOR masturbation as ABOUT masturbation and sexual revolution, trying to interpret sex energies into thumping, whooshing, pulsing waves of expressive sonic surprise. Call it music if you will. Dance naked if you must. Just get up and take this moment in your hands.

Since we started BateWorld six years ago, we’ve been slowly evolving and improving our user experience. The current version, BateWorld2.0, was launched in 2010 after our first year of operation. We’ve continually improved on that foundation for five years and now we’re ready to take it to the next stage. In 2016, BateWorld will begin its third phase of transformation. Our members will soon begin to see changes to the site, which may continue gradually through several more years as we upgrade every element of BateWorld.

Pleasure is not solely delegated to sex. Although this has become the focus of this “Reclaiming Masturbation” series, I want to take this last post to expand the idea and concept of what masturbation could be. Strictly speaking, let’s think of masturbation not only as a sexual activity but also as any activity that “strokes” (in a manner of speaking) you to a higher place of pleasure, delight, and consciousness. This could be elicited through the listening of a great piece of music, eating a delectable meal, having a stimulating conversation with a good friend, enjoying a great movie, or attending a thought-provoking lecture.

This is our second in a continuing series about gay and bisexual actors from classic television. Paul Winfield and Will Geer were remarkable actors who – like so many actors of their time – had to be discrete about their personal lives…

This article originally ran in the June 2015 issue of AVN magazine. Click here to see the article online. If there’s one thing that gay, bisexual and straight men share in common, it’s the ability…

Pornography has been a present aspect of many people’s sexual landscape including my own. In this, Part 3 of Reclaiming Masturbation, I want to share my thoughts, concerns, techniques, and insights into how to create a more mindful masturbation practice around porn watching. Pornography, in my opinion, exists for two main reasons and in two main categories simultaneously: Sex as Art (the adoration of the beauty of sex) and Sex as Science (the actual arousal and stimulation of watching the mechanics of sex).

When masturbation is the subject of a book you’re writing every bate gets to be categorized as “research”. I am indeed writing a book about masturbation, and I do “research” every day. I often scribble down notes on a notepad as inspiration or revelation hit me during a bate. A lot of my pens are sticky. My name is Jason Armstrong. I’m the author of a sex blog…

Antonio Da Silva’s films are completely unique, openly explicit, and erotically charged documents of man-to-man sexuality. Da Silva’s filmmaking often touches on the interactions between technology and hookups, and with Spunk (2015), he goes deep-in to examine and artfully decode our new world of digital media as it redefines

A few days ago a dear friend of mine asked, “Garland, why are you writing about how to masturbate? Masturbation’s been around as long as man’s been on the planet!”

We both laughed ’cause his question is a legitimate one. Why write about something that, arguably, billions of people have engaged in for ages; putting hand or device to penis or vagina, stimulate until orgasm/ejaculation, the end. Of course his question insinuates that EVERYONE knows how to masturbate. Like, duh?

I had wanted to go on this ride for years but it never aligned with my schedule. As a sexologist and a body-diversity advocate, I try to find as many ways to affirm everyone’s body in its natural state as much as possible. Due to the hyper conformity of both centuries of puritanical religious dogma and modern day consumerism, one of the worst problems our society faces is that most of the population is disgusted by their own natural image. It may not sound like a big deal, but what we believe about our bodies is what we believe about ourselves…

I began a slow journey back to reclaiming the self-pleasures of my penis. Granted, against my parents’ wishes, I continued to masturbate all those 22 years, but it was never something that I felt I could fully throw myself into as a self-loving and self-pleasuring activity – an activity whose own pleasure was reason enough to indulge. My folks, coupled with my religious upbringing, had previously and systematically ruined this self-loving potential. Every time I’d do it, I’d be riddled with guilt.