Why I Love Hard Nudity
For as long as I can remember I’ve had a penis. I didn’t ask for one, and, really, I don’t remember thinking too much about it for most of my first decade. I didn’t even know what to call it then. Since penis was never a subject that people in my world talked about, I just thought of it as my thing.
At a certain age, penis began to play prominently in my thoughts, along with a yearning to be naked and know what other guys looked like naked. Despite all the lessons about the evils of the flesh and “real” manhood, I found that my penis became hard when thinking about naked men, and that it felt great to be hard.
I remember sometimes feigning illness just to stay home alone from school and walk around the house with a hardon all day. I wasn’t even masturbating yet, still sort of in the fondling stage, but I would remain rock hard for hours. I just knew that it felt so good to be walking about naked and free and pointing forward. It seemed like the most natural thing for me.
In time I found that the more I accepted my enjoyment of naked men, the more liberated and authentic I began to feel. It would be awhile before I actually saw anyone else hard, but my own hardon made my nudity seem even more naked. It seemed like my whole body became more awake and alive. It was a new feeling of being purely, authentically, wholly naked. As an adult, that experience only continues to deepen for me.
Over the years now I’ve spent a lot of time looking at naked guys in magazines, books, videos, and in person, and I never get tired of it. I’m always glad to see more naked dudes. I’m delighted that so many guys of all shapes, sizes, ages and ethnicities are sharing themselves hard online and I’m so grateful to nature for giving us hot horny exhibitionists and the means to get off on them.
“Exposing yourself naked and hard for others online is a defiant and revolutionary act.”I don’t need to be attracted to a guy to be happy to see him naked and erect. It’s a celebratory act, showing hard for anyone to see, and I’m glad when men can feel free to display their cocks for anyone who wants to look. Exposing yourself naked and hard for others online is a defiant and revolutionary act. To proudly display an erection is to challenge a restrictive, hypocritical morality that for millennia has devalued the powerful and meaningful experience of male sexual identity. Those messages have for too long denied the importance and value of our most basic male icon–the hard cock–and we’ve been neutered into accepting that we’re degenerate to enjoy and publicly celebrate nature’s great gift to us.
TThe penis is a miraculous and profound appendage without which none of us would be here. Cock isn’t just for making babies though, and in its complex ecology nature has given us a portable joystick that can provide a lifetime of solo entertainment. My hard cock has provided me with decades of amusement and unheralded sexual adventures both real and imagined, and I’m consistently grateful to the universe for being so thoughtful.
The hard cock is a wonderful device for connecting with our primal selves and signaling that to the world. Photographs will never convey the feeling inside of the person doing it, but we can all recognize the meaning behind the act and share in it together while turning each other on.
However, hardons needn’t always be overtly sexual. Eroticism can be a pleasure unto itself. The simple joys of being alive and hard are magic too. Sometimes, a guy just likes to naked with a harden while communing with nature, with or without others present. Outdoors especially, the penis seems to thrive on open air, sunshine and natural wonders.
“That was a powerful visual reminder of our connection with nature, the ancient ocean and the temporal flesh. It was a great day experience being naked at the seashore…”Watching a man communing hard with nature can make even the best days better for me. I remember my first time at Black’s Beach, there was a guy who walked along the edge of the waves for hours. He never touched his cock, just let it point out toward the horizon all day. Watching him was such a powerful feeling of freedom and connection with nature for me. It made the experience all the more memorable and human. That was a powerful visual reminder of our connection with nature, the ancient ocean and the temporal flesh. It was a great day experience being naked at the seashore, made even better by that man’s brave display.
Even among gay nudists though, many are uncomfortable with erections at parties or beaches. Some find it offensive or, as one guy told me once, just egotistical. I can respect those opinions, but for me, I always welcome a stiff cock on display–as long as its owner is respectful of me and others. There are plenty of caveats to what is appropriate, but my focus here is on consenting adults in appropriate settings. I’m not advocating that we flash people at Walmart.
I welcome a man who can be erect without shame. To me it’s a sign of courage and pride. I welcome sexuality in all people because I love that we are sexual beings, that we are driven to explore the realms of lust and desire and pleasure and eroticism, by ourselves or in groups. There’s so much to be experienced by watching other men explore their nakedness, and when they’re extra-naked, I’m especially proud to be a man.
HIRI DAVID FEIGN IS CO-FOUNDER AND CREATIVE DIRECTOR OF BATEWORLD.COM, THE WORLDWIDE J/O COMMUNITY FOR MEN