EDITOR’S NOTE: The following is an excerpt from a longer post for Dr. Jallen Rix’s UPCOMING WORKSHOP on April 24 at Nature Friends Sierra Madre Lodge in Northern California
What the heck is “masculinity?”
These days, it almost seems like a bad word. It’s hard to feel good about the gender of the “great oppressor.” The public has had an eye-full of masculinity gone wrong, and often, it feels as though it has little to do with what we want from the intimacy of our daily lives, much less our sexuality. Even though there are lots of versions of manhood that have been negatively and horribly distorted, there are, at the same time, amazing, sexy, important, and positively spiritual aspects that deserve attention, especially today. Of course, any gender can embody any feature of personhood. All the more reason you get to make your huMANity exactly what you want it to be. Join Sexologist, Jallen Rix for an afternoon of exploring and affirming the masculine sexuality you really want to emulate. This special workshop is designed for all straight/bi/gay male-identified guys.
Here is an opportunity to identify and feel great about the positive aspects of your masculinity in the accepting and nurturing presence of other like-hearted men, without competition, comparison or shame. Most civilizations have rituals for women to be affirmed of their feminine sexuality by other women. Men have the same need. There’s just something absolutely unique about being affirmed of your masculinity BY OTHER MEN, but in our culture these rituals have been upstaged by competition, performance, humiliation, fear of failure, bullying, hazing, and violence, to name a few. It doesn’t sound all that affirming or fun, does it?
In contrast, our afternoon will be spent examining and experiencing what we want, and don’t want in our unique male sexuality and how this translates into our relationships with others. We will explore and enjoy creative, interactive exercises and meaningful rituals that will affirm the specific characteristics around which you choose to build your masculinity.
As the day unfolds, we will up turn the unreasonable and hyper-fear of connecting affectionately with other men. It’s no more a “gay thing” than it is a “straight thing.” If you are primarily straight and you sense that natural yearning to be affectionate with other men but you’re stopped by fear, this workshop will help you out a lot. Perhaps you are primarily a gay man and you too feel the draw of physical acceptance by other men but you’re afraid of rejection or violence, this workshop equally supports you, too. Our fears and intimidations are products of sex-negative, homophobic, and masculine-negative stereotypes that have no place in a loving and accepting society. The rugged and real natural desires of male bonding are simply the honest experiences of feeling close and connected with other men and having the permission and safety to express these desires without shame – brother to brother in humanity.
Together, let’s shed our fears and create the deep nurturing peace that comes from an accepting group of men intent on using our powerful, sexy masculinity to offer positive experiences in our world! There is great healing in store for you! Gift yourself an afternoon to further free yourself and develop greater bonds with your awesome, masculine brothers.
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