Sharing Mindful Masturbation Techniques, Part 1 (Online)

Man, Tablet, Bate

Many men in today’s world (sometimes myself included) enjoy masturbating to porn on the Internet, which can prove highly arousing and provide great bate fuel. In my opinion, porn is sacred, as it shares an extremely important part of our lives that most mainstream cultures still frown upon and often seek to keep hidden.

One aspect of this fantastic cornucopia of stimulating imagery is not entirely beneficial, however, and some enthused male masturbators may not wish to hear about this reality. Studies suggest that too much reliance upon the endless novelty of arousing images available at the click of a button can actually desensitize certain pleasure centers in the brain.[1][2]

In fact, some younger men who spend many, many hours and hours surfing porn while masturbating are actually suffering erectile dysfunction, more commonly than older men. This doesn’t mean porn is bad, but it’s powerful and is a two-edged sword, which can have drawbacks. Maybe this tells to keep a bit more focus on ourselves.

The good news is that there are different consequences to stimulating yourself with actual imagery of more ordinary men (instead of pro porn models) such as those who share images and videos on Bateworld, In particular, sharing live via video conference with actual men as we masturbate together is rewarding and a genuine form of sharing.

We can actually bond with fellow men, particularly when we are open to trusting one another to share our full body and faces online, and to engage in some actual conversation, to learn a bit about each other, so we’re not just masturbating with another penis or set of genitalia, but with another man! Take a real interest in your Phallic Brothers.

This is a safe haven for men who wish to share intimately, but not necessarily in person, the invitation to witness each other online via visual and audio functions available in many formats online. My experience is that men long to be witnessed, and to witness one another’s aroused genitals and self-pleasuring practice this way: we inspire one another, and we bond, even if we may never learn the details of each other’s personalities and daily lives. Maybe a lot of those details are not so important?

This is a valuable, even a priceless form of sharing that only today’s Internet Age makes possible.

Men all over the planet long for this kind of contact and sharing, and while it may prove more problematical in person, online there can be a certain level of discretion, and at the same time openness that exhilarates and stimulates. We learn from one another.

I suggest a few parameters:

  1. Don’t start with a phone number, not to be paranoid, just out of mutual respect for each other’s parameters, it’s cooler to get to know each other via some form of video conference not necessarily tied to a specific location.
  2. Strive for generosity of spirit, always to be as encouraging as possible, and not judge anyone by their appearance or age.
  3. Seek to make your contact comfortable, and you can expect the same in return; if someone does not treat you in a way you feel comfortable with, you are not obligated to continue, thank him and sign off.

Most men in masturbatory bliss are capable of great kindness and generosity of spirit.

It’s an amazing planet of male masturbators out there, and I believe if we get more and more men of all sexual persuasions masturbating together online globally, it can even help us to move toward world peace.

Call me a dreamer — I don’t mind!

1. Cambridge Study: Internet porn addiction mirrors drug addiction (2014)
2. Predicting Compulsive Internet Use: It’s All about Sex!

10 replies
  1. Anonymous
    Anonymous says:

    I liked to know of a good website for this activity…I’d really like to try it. I need the feeling of buddy closeness. Thanks for any info.

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    • Bruce P. Grether
      Bruce P. Grether says:

      Personally, I like Skype, FaceTim, and Google Hangouts for masturbation camping 1-on-1 or sometimes with a group of guys, that can be arranged. There are places where some guys stroke to a bigger audience… what is is, Cam2? Maybe some other guys also have suggestions… and of course, BW has a video-cam function, right?

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  2. Anonymous
    Anonymous says:

    I’ve been a “visual masturbator” most all my life. That’s nearly 50 yrs of visual stimulation for me. I can attest to how pornograhy can depersonalize an individual. Porn as a whole is non-judgemental stimulation, viewing porn…you are part of the action and participate without interaction. It feels great, you put it away and go on with your life, no harm – no foul. There is a sort of dependency on this type of visual masturbation that develops over time and erodes our sensitivity to others. Soon, no one meets the expectations you crave for your gratification so you continue to search for more porn. We need to change this. I believe strongly in face to face, cock to cock, hand to hand masturbation either 1 on 1 or in a group. Masturbation is no longer something we should have to hide from. It’s safe, it’s healthy and it feels good. If we would all just masturbate together, without expectation or judgement, but as men. I’m sure that within time we could change the way we look as healthy masturbation.

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    • Bruce P. Grether
      Bruce P. Grether says:

      Thank you for your wonderful comments here! Indeed, it really does not matter how a man publicly identifies in terms of his sexuality–more than ever, I feel MOST MEN can enjoy seeing penises, get aroused,and even enjoy masturbating with fellow men! Yes, porn can have drawbacks, though it can be wonderful in moderation, used a great deal it can de-sensitize the pleasure centers in your brain and even lead to erectile dysfunction. Another issues is self-esteem, as many of us may end up comparing not only others, but ourselves to the models. A third issue for me is that though many porn models are attractive, most are not well educated in terms of sexual sophistication–often their sexual behavior is repetitive and predictable, not inspiring or educational.

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  3. Anonymous
    Anonymous says:

    Would love a one on one encounter but where to find this. It seems the “free” chat rooms are not so free and those craiglist adsvleave much to be desired if you are married but want to fuck with another man.

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    • Bruce P. Grether
      Bruce P. Grether says:

      Most definitely, as I said above, I think aside from cultural conditioning and the opinions of others, most men can respond to the sight of a penis, and get turned on, and probably enjoy masturbating with other men, either online or in person. Thank you for saying this. It is beneficial to mental health to accept this… plus, I think the world will be a better place when men feel less dependent upon women for sexual satisfaction, more willing to rely on themselves an done another for erotic play. In many traditional societies, men love their wives passionately, but for purely intense erotic enjoyment, play with fellow males.

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      • Tom
        Tom says:

        I agree with your thinking Bruce.
        My experience is that sex with my wife is generally tender, soft and loving. Although this is wonderful sex, women don’t always make themselves available.
        Whereas sex with a man is more lustful and primal.
        In my view they both satisfy different sexual needs

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        • Bruce P. Grether
          Bruce P. Grether says:

          I love the idea a lot of younger people I know have, of being “pansexual,” which to me partly means just being attracted to a person, perhaps regardless of whether they are male or female. It may sound stereotypical, but I do feel men are more likely to want sexual pleasure for its own sake, and are more likely to find that with a fellow man. Women are more often determined to relate emotional intimacy with erotic pleasure, which is not better or worse, only sometimes a bit different from male lust for raw pleasure.

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