Dry Orgasms Masturbation Technique, Part 3

The Sun Comes

My handsome friend in South America masturbates with me on Skype, moaning, gasping, his head rolls back and forth; he pauses, as if stunned, and moves his hands away from the meaty pillar of his penis in the foreground of my view. Then his head falls back in a look of beatitude, like some kind of saint in ecstasy, as his body twitches and writhes in place, his thighs vibrate.

Ecstasy blooms inside me as my own next dry orgasm begins to overwhelm me…

This practice is like the Rolls-Royce© or the Porsche© of male masturbation.

I’ve gotten many comments and private emails on the subject of male dry orgasms, and multiple male orgasms, which leads me to believe there are aspects I still need to cover here. First, unless you try it, you may never know what you missed. Keep in mind that exactly the same thing doesn’t always work the same way for all men. Even for you, results will vary from time to time.

The male dry orgasm is not quite the same as a full-blown ejaculatory orgasm; in fact, it feels very similar, but usually not quite so intense and overwhelming. At the same time, it is an indescribably delicious side-trip through oblivion, plus the fact that you can repeat it over and over again, without interruption of your pleasure, makes it quite a different animal from ejaculatory orgasm.

Further, please be aware that to achieve dry orgasm requires dedication and practice, as well as clear focus on the process. Seek to be mindfully present. When you actually get there, it’s something you allow to happen, as much as you make it happen. Does this make sense? It’s not just about control, it’s about refining your skill. It’s partly a matter of just getting out of your own way.

Most men are still conditioned to believe that orgasm and ejaculation are one and the same thing. In this practice, you are learning to separate out those two things, orgasm from ejaculation, which only seemed to you to be one thing, because you probably first experienced them together as a young teenager. They are not Siamese twins.

Most important of all: Release expectations, simply play with the possibilities of your body, your penis, your pee-stopper muscle, your prostate gland, your bladder, your balls, your anus—all of you. Sometimes the best way to really relax the pee-stopper is first to clinch it, as you do when you try NOT to pee, then do the opposite; deliberately relax it. It’s like a firm push down of your pelvic diaphragm.

Though I can consistently trigger dry orgasms, and sometimes unleash a string of ongoing multiple orgasms like shooting the foamy rapids of a river in a rubber raft, on-and-on in thrills beyond description, sometimes I just enter a sort of radiant orgasmic plateau where I cruise along, seemingly outside of time. I’m completely out of my mind. I find myself inhabiting a place of pure penile pleasure (p3) without end or beginning.

I usually avoid the word “spiritual” on Bateworld, as it may seem a bit woo-woo to some guys. Still, to me, there’s nothing more spiritual than those places beyond words where our penises can take us when we get out of our own way, and surrender to the limitless possibilities of bliss.

Let me know how it’s feeling for you.
Bruce P. Grether

18 replies
  1. Leading Edge (Also on J's C.)
    Leading Edge (Also on J's C.) says:

    I get orgasmic sensation in my entire abdomen. The sex chakra always seems depicted above the pubic bone below the navel. Chakras attach to the spine and extend backwards as well as forwards. While cock and balls stimulation may initiate a practice, letting the pleasures rise gives me an expanded area of sensation which lately has “feelers” much higher in my body. Attention to internal sensations seems to be key. And, for me, the spiritual awareness is paramount. Woo woo that! And, thanks Bruce for the conversation!

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    • Bruce P. Grether
      Bruce P. Grether says:

      Thanks so much for this comment! Words are just words, and when we really take self-pleasure to spectacular levels, we can listen to our bodies dee[;y. There are all sorts of mysteries that cannot necessarily be explained by science or by metaphysics. Something I love about Mindful masturbation is how it can take me out of my mind, beyond words…
      again, I appreciate your comments.

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  2. Peter Hoffman
    Peter Hoffman says:

    “Spiritual,” to me–in respect to us here on Bateworld–means total release of the mind from the bate experience. We no longer try to control or enforce it with our ideas, efforts or thoughts–we release and trust and put our faith into our own personal sex that we know it will find the way on its own to the pure pleasure that we are trying to have. The balls know what they’re doing–you just have to nurture them, and be patient.

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    • Bruce P. Grether
      Bruce P. Grether says:

      Yes. Surrender is a major key. Pleasure for its own sake, yes! Definitely invite the balls to play their crucial role!

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  3. ibateuk
    ibateuk says:

    Phrases like “This practice is like the Rolls-Royce©or the Porsche©of male masturbation”, “Further, please be aware that to achieve dry orgasm requires dedication and practice” is very much comparative language and affirms negativity for those who don’t feel they have ‘achieved’ the ‘right way’ of doing things. And that by not being able to achieve the nirvana of dry orgasm that one is somehow missing out, or not attained ‘uber bator’ status. I wish we could get away from this comparative language and self appointed ‘experts’ in the right way of doing things

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    • Bruce P. Grether
      Bruce P. Grether says:

      I apologize if you were offended. In my writings I’ve repeatedly stated that I don’t feel there is any right or wrong way to do anything in this realm of male masturbation… at the same time, I do feel there are particularly effective practices that any man seriously dedicated to self-pleasure ought to give a try. The dry orgasm is not a “Holy Grail” in this realm, but is a wonderful experience for those men interested, who have success with it. My attitude is that in masturbation, “it’s all good,” by my 20 years of experience since I learned erotic cultivation have also showed me that many men are grateful for coaching in practice they may not have trie. Again, I’m sorry if you feel offended–that was definitely notify intention in making a comparison with nice cars!

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      • apalmer5
        apalmer5 says:

        Brings up an important point about masturbating in general, be willing to explore & learn more about our sexuality and our body & the amazing pleasure(s) it can give us. From our earliest orgasms, mine was around 12, to 50 years later – try new things, stroke it this way instead of that way. Learn to exercise/flex those pee muscles, rub that taint, tug that sac, use a new lube.

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        • Bruce P. Grether
          Bruce P. Grether says:

          Most definitley, it’s always worth exploring new territory, though as I’ve said before, there’s no “right and wrong” involved–my only “rule” is I urge guys never to hurt themselves or someone else in the process. But with male masturbation, it’s ALL GOOD, so long as your enjoyment and pleasure are the goal. When I actually coach men in Mindful Masturbation on Skype, the first thing I suggest is to try DEEP belly breathing, just to keep relaxed, no particular pace. The second things is usually variety: literally try different strokes; for example, we all tend to have a dominant hand–switch which hand does what to see how it feels…

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  4. MMSdawg
    MMSdawg says:

    I have been doing this in conjunction with nipple stimulation and oh my gosh!!! Unreal feeling! I’ve almost passed out a few times!! Loveing this!!!

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    • Bruce P. Grether
      Bruce P. Grether says:

      I’m so glad you’re enjoying it! You can combine it with any particular form of stimulus you especially like, and of course it’s always good to try adding variations. Just keep breathing, Brother… 🙂

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  5. STIFFMUNK
    STIFFMUNK says:

    I remember having played with myself very arly aged about 5. Very soon aged 7 or about I started having dry orgasms. Since then I kept on masturbating and having those dry orgasms as often as I could and was free to reach trhem.
    To day, well into my sixties I keep on masturbating -never stopped – from two to ten hours everyday. I only cum once a day.
    If I can keep on edging such a long time and keep having so long and numerous sessions it is because I have a great many dry orgasms as I used to have when a young boy. There was the time I discovered that one can keep on masturbating again and again all day long.
    I never stopped masturbating throughout all these sixty years and never forgot how to manange having DRY mind blowing orgasms !

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    • Bruce P. Grether
      Bruce P. Grether says:

      Thanks so much for the account of your experience, Brother. The matter of dry orgasms will work a bit differently for a variety of men, but the basic idea is valuable. Like you, I experienced this at an early age, but unlike you, I did not continue having dry orgasms. My story is a bit different, as I lost sight of how to enjoy orgasm without ejaculation, until many years alter, just after the age of 40 I rediscovered it, and felt I cam back to myself. Again, I much appreciate your sharing here of your own experiences on the subject.

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  6. MMSdawg
    MMSdawg says:

    I have been using this technique for months now and prefer this to actual orgasm with ejaculation. Dry orgasm is the most unreal feeling I’ve ever had! I’m addicted!

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    • Bruce P. Grether
      Bruce P. Grether says:

      Excellent! Yes, many men feel that nothing will ever top ejaculatory orgasm, but I always suggest other options are worth a try! We humans are incredibly complex creatures… and I’d maintain we’ve got all sorts of possibilities still unexplored. Male masturbation is truly a realm of limitless possibilities, of which many remain unexplored by plenty of men.

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        • Bruce P. Grether
          Bruce P. Grether says:

          Totally!!! Have you seen in the MINDFUL MASTURBATION: BROTHERHOOD OF MEN video where Peter J. Macay has 14 dry orgasms in 10 minutes? It’s awe-inspiringand inspiring!

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  7. Louis
    Louis says:

    I just wanted to say how absolutely ecstatic I am having achieved this state with a considerable amount of dedication. I spoke to you Bruce my brother and afterwards I had a relaxed evening where I just played and let my body tell me where to go, which was up up up slowly, and I put my one black regular cock ring on and lay down…i could smell my cock from that morning, still had some of that mornings sperm load in between my foreskin, it smelled fucking heavenly…and within minutes I had entertained many things about bating together with brothers like Bruce, that you were sending me good sexual vibes and that guys did this shit together and GOT OFF BIG FUCKING STYLE…!!! I then started having the most mindblowing little orgasm-like shudders and electric explosions through my chest, legs and then suddenly in my chest up into my brain…sizzling, buzzing…it would not stop and it went on, and I just gaped and rolled my eyes, and felt myself turn into airy dust and back to rock and water and fire all at once…the whole orgasm seemed to jet within me…I spent hours afterwards in a blissful state, couldn’t stop smiling laughing just BEING… the erotic sensations went utterly cellular and I still feel it now a day later almost…
    Bruce my Brother your teachings ROCK MY WORLD!!!
    Louis

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  8. Jr
    Jr says:

    Bruce im a mid 40 yr old and have had a few dry orgasms in the past and didn’t pay no mind because it seemed to be just like a normal orgasm but without cum..Im a true believer in exercising the Pc muscle/ Pee stopper to be really effective in me having a happier prostate plus more control of my orgasm which is alot stronger than before I exercised. Taking that in consideration and with edging i have experienced mind blowing orgasms that have almost have made me pass out and leaving my mind to wonder wtf just happened. In time would a dry orgasm give me the same mind blowing orgasm?

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