My handsome friend in South America masturbates with me on Skype, moaning, gasping, his head rolls back and forth; he pauses, as if stunned, and moves his hands away from the meaty pillar of his penis in the foreground of my view. Then his head falls back in a look of beatitude, like some kind of saint in ecstasy, as his body twitches and writhes in place, his thighs vibrate.
Ecstasy blooms inside me as my own next dry orgasm begins to overwhelm me…
This practice is like the Rolls-Royce© or the Porsche© of male masturbation.
I’ve gotten many comments and private emails on the subject of male dry orgasms, and multiple male orgasms, which leads me to believe there are aspects I still need to cover here. First, unless you try it, you may never know what you missed. Keep in mind that exactly the same thing doesn’t always work the same way for all men. Even for you, results will vary from time to time.
The male dry orgasm is not quite the same as a full-blown ejaculatory orgasm; in fact, it feels very similar, but usually not quite so intense and overwhelming. At the same time, it is an indescribably delicious side-trip through oblivion, plus the fact that you can repeat it over and over again, without interruption of your pleasure, makes it quite a different animal from ejaculatory orgasm.
Further, please be aware that to achieve dry orgasm requires dedication and practice, as well as clear focus on the process. Seek to be mindfully present. When you actually get there, it’s something you allow to happen, as much as you make it happen. Does this make sense? It’s not just about control, it’s about refining your skill. It’s partly a matter of just getting out of your own way.
Most men are still conditioned to believe that orgasm and ejaculation are one and the same thing. In this practice, you are learning to separate out those two things, orgasm from ejaculation, which only seemed to you to be one thing, because you probably first experienced them together as a young teenager. They are not Siamese twins.
Most important of all: Release expectations, simply play with the possibilities of your body, your penis, your pee-stopper muscle, your prostate gland, your bladder, your balls, your anus—all of you. Sometimes the best way to really relax the pee-stopper is first to clinch it, as you do when you try NOT to pee, then do the opposite; deliberately relax it. It’s like a firm push down of your pelvic diaphragm.
Though I can consistently trigger dry orgasms, and sometimes unleash a string of ongoing multiple orgasms like shooting the foamy rapids of a river in a rubber raft, on-and-on in thrills beyond description, sometimes I just enter a sort of radiant orgasmic plateau where I cruise along, seemingly outside of time. I’m completely out of my mind. I find myself inhabiting a place of pure penile pleasure (p3) without end or beginning.
I usually avoid the word “spiritual” on Bateworld, as it may seem a bit woo-woo to some guys. Still, to me, there’s nothing more spiritual than those places beyond words where our penises can take us when we get out of our own way, and surrender to the limitless possibilities of bliss.
Let me know how it’s feeling for you.
Bruce P. Grether