It’s almost ten years ago, during 2008: I’m actually masturbating while we are making a video recording of my Phallic Brother and friend Peter J. Macay pleasuring himself on an outdoor deck among trees. He’s a beautiful man, hunky and strong, handsome with a dark goatee, admirably endowed—he’s also a most skilled masturbator, and for the DVD called THE POWER OF MINDFUL MASTURBATION, we capture Pete experiencing at least 14 dry orgasms in just 10 minutes…
In Part 1 of this blog I suggested you practice starting and stopping the flow of your pee when you really need to take a leak—notice carefully where is that [simple_tooltip content=’The pubococcygeus muscle arises from the back of the pubis and from the anterior part of the obturator fascia, and is directed backward almost horizontally along the side of the anal canal toward the coccyx and sacrum, to which it finds attachment.
‘]tiny muscle[/simple_tooltip] in your pelvic floor behind the base of your penis that you relax to pee, that you contract to stop the flow. Stop and repeatedly start to learn exactly where that muscle is.
Your body is designed to function one of two ways at the crossroads of the pee-stopper located just below your prostate gland: you are either peeing, or you are ejaculating. Normally you cannot do both of these at the same time.
So the second part of this practice to experience dry orgasms and possibly multiple male orgasms, come when you are masturbating. This is a challenge of fine-tuning, and not so much a feat of obsessive control, as of paying really, really close attention to your level of arousal, and then using your ability to relax that pee-stopper muscle at just the right moment. This can reward you beyond your wildest dreams!
The moment you are looking for is very close to what men call the “edge,” and if you tip over that edge—as you know well!—you cannot back off from ejaculation. You want to hover and stay close to that edge, then RELAX that tiny pee-stopper sphincter in your pelvic floor. NOTE: You are telling your body you want to pee by relaxing this muscle at that moment when you would otherwise easily tip over into ejaculation. Normally the muscle contracts when you start to ejaculate, so in this way, you “fool” your body.
At this point of balance, as you relax that tiny muscle, your body and brain can tip over into a full-blown orgasm, but without ejaculation… you may need to pause in stroking or even remove your hands for a short while… only lo and behold, if you get this right, you will not ejaculate, will not lose your erection, then soon you can continue.
The process works basically the same for all men, but we are individuals, both in biology and experience, so don’t obsess with any expectation, just know that if you keep practicing and paying attention, you’ll be greatly rewarded.
Some men learn this fairly easily, and others need to practice for a long time to get there. Some men even learn to experience a series of non-ejaculatory orgasms, like a firework show that just goes on and on, or you may enter a state of orgasmic intensity that seems to go on forever. I experience this last one quite often.
Regardless of exactly where you go, the journey feels truly spectacular, and all it takes is dedicated practice at your self-pleasure. Sometimes, of course, masturbation coaching in how to achieve dry orgasm by a skilled Phallic Brother can also help. That’s what Phallic Brotherhood is all about.
The possibilities of p3, or pure penile pleasure, truly are limitless!