Dry Orgasms Masturbation Technique, Part 2

Leap of faith

It’s almost ten years ago, during 2008: I’m actually masturbating while we are making a video recording of my Phallic Brother and friend Peter J. Macay pleasuring himself on an outdoor deck among trees. He’s a beautiful man, hunky and strong, handsome with a dark goatee, admirably endowed—he’s also a most skilled masturbator, and for the DVD called THE POWER OF MINDFUL MASTURBATION, we capture Pete experiencing at least 14 dry orgasms in just 10 minutes…

In Part 1 of this blog I suggested you practice starting and stopping the flow of your pee when you really need to take a leak—notice carefully where is that tiny muscle in your pelvic floor behind the base of your penis that you relax to pee, that you contract to stop the flow. Stop and repeatedly start to learn exactly where that muscle is.

Your body is designed to function one of two ways at the crossroads of the pee-stopper located just below your prostate gland: you are either peeing, or you are ejaculating. Normally you cannot do both of these at the same time.

So the second part of this practice to experience dry orgasms and possibly multiple male orgasms, come when you are masturbating. This is a challenge of fine-tuning, and not so much a feat of obsessive control, as of paying really, really close attention to your level of arousal, and then using your ability to relax that pee-stopper muscle at just the right moment. This can reward you beyond your wildest dreams!

The moment you are looking for is very close to what men call the “edge,” and if you tip over that edge—as you know well!—you cannot back off from ejaculation. You want to hover and stay close to that edge, then RELAX that tiny pee-stopper sphincter in your pelvic floor. NOTE: You are telling your body you want to pee by relaxing this muscle at that moment when you would otherwise easily tip over into ejaculation. Normally the muscle contracts when you start to ejaculate, so in this way, you “fool” your body.

At this point of balance, as you relax that tiny muscle, your body and brain can tip over into a full-blown orgasm, but without ejaculation… you may need to pause in stroking or even remove your hands for a short while… only lo and behold, if you get this right, you will not ejaculate, will not lose your erection, then soon you can continue.

The process works basically the same for all men, but we are individuals, both in biology and experience, so don’t obsess with any expectation, just know that if you keep practicing and paying attention, you’ll be greatly rewarded.

Some men learn this fairly easily, and others need to practice for a long time to get there. Some men even learn to experience a series of non-ejaculatory orgasms, like a firework show that just goes on and on, or you may enter a state of orgasmic intensity that seems to go on forever. I experience this last one quite often.

Regardless of exactly where you go, the journey feels truly spectacular, and all it takes is dedicated practice at your self-pleasure. Sometimes, of course, masturbation coaching in how to achieve dry orgasm by a skilled Phallic Brother can also help. That’s what Phallic Brotherhood is all about.

The possibilities of p3, or pure penile pleasure, truly are limitless!

30 replies
  1. Anonymous
    Anonymous says:

    But in this video, Pete tenses up and holds his breath when he gets close during those 14 “dry orgasms in 10 minutes.” He’s not relaxing anything, nor is he breathing. What’s the deal?

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    • Bruce P. Grether
      Bruce P. Grether says:

      I believe, if you ask Pete, he will tell you he’s doing a kind of “mini-Big Draw,” which is based on a Taoist technique for absorbing erotic energy without ejaculating… + I think he’d explain that INTERNALLY, inside his body he IS relaxing that pee-stopper muscle to trigger the dry orgasms. There are no absolutes in terms of the breathing, and tensing or relaxing other muscle systems while masturbating: sometimes you can employ the opposite tactic. However, internally, when you’re really close to ejaculatory inevitability, you may trigger dry orgasms, or multiple orgasms, or prolonged orgasmic states by RELAXING that muscle, telling your body you want to urinate. Sometimes the way to relax a muscle is to deliberately tense it, then deliberately relax it. The body is an amazing Universe!

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    • Bruce P. Grether
      Bruce P. Grether says:

      Yes, this usually require quite a bit of practice, and paying fully mindful, un-distracted attention… and the results vary for different men, but any man can get something quite spectacular with this practice if he persists!

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  2. houstonb8r
    houstonb8r says:

    When I do this – and relax that “pee” muscle at the last moment, I usually get a long, slow “lava flow” of cum…on the first one, anyway….subsequent approaches to that very fine line are usually dry. But, I stay fully boned and can continue bating/edging for as long as I want. And then when I am ready for the “finale,” it’s usually a very small amount of cum….but feels fucking amazing. It’s the icing on the cake….except there’s not much icing left.

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    • Bruce P. Grether
      Bruce P. Grether says:

      Thanks so much for your description. This has happened to me too. The practice doesn’t lead to exactly the same results for every man, even though our basic equipment is pretty much universal and has similar potentials for all dedicated masturbators.

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  3. rcoxbate
    rcoxbate says:

    I’ve noticed that I can have multiple orgasms as a result of the buzz ring around the head. I didn’t understand what edging was until I joined Bateworld. The way I bated was to put my gear on and feed my bate without touching myself. I would use a combination of porn, music, and poppers to build up to the point where my body and mind craved release. At that point, I would turn the buzz ring on until I came. I also workout like a fiend. At one point, I was going to the gym everyday. I began to notice that after releasing with the buzz ring, I noticed that I could cum again and with equal intensity. Now, I’m at the point that I no longer need the buzz ring to cum multiple times. I do have to exhude a bit of effort to make the second and third happen, but, it does happen and as I said before, with the same intensity of my first orgasm, but, not the same amount of ejaculate as the first. I’m open to learning new techniques including this one.

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  4. adam
    adam says:

    I appreciate knowing anything that involves pure penis pleasure……I prefer to not ejaculate but rather to have dry orgasms. Thank you Bruce, and the other for the hot tips on how to achieve this state of arousal!

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    • Bruce P. Grether
      Bruce P. Grether says:

      Please keep us posted of your results… it’s a Fine Art, pleasuring yourself as a genuine form of self-love! 🙂

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  5. Dannys925
    Dannys925 says:

    I really want to learn this technique if it is applicable to sex with my girl. She loves multiple orgasms and I can only do two in a row, occasionally three. I can control my “pee muscle” readily now, stopping and starting in rapid succession. Do you think this might help make me better at having a dry orgasms so I can stay hard?

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    • Bruce P. Grether
      Bruce P. Grether says:

      Most definitely this practice, of training yourself to have dry orgasms, unless and until you choose to have an ejaculatory orgasm (the operative word is “choose”) will allow you to help your girl to have as many orgasms as she wishes. You owe it to yourself and also it should please her plenty, when you can consciously, deliberately relax that “pee-stopper” as you get close to ejaculatory inevitability, and instead have a dry orgasm, which may requite a brief slowdown or pause of your stimulation, but then you can continue indefinitely. You can repeat this as many times as you wish.

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    • Bruce P. Grether
      Bruce P. Grether says:

      I’m thrilled that you like it! The subtle nuances of male masturbation are a topic I find endlessly fascinating. The truth is the penis, the male body, the person, are so incredibly complex and amazing, the possibilities for bliss are literlaly limitless–IMO! Thanks for your enthusiasm!

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      • apalmer5
        apalmer5 says:

        Yes, our basic equipment’s all similar but the complexities are truly amazing & vary all over the place

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        • Bruce P. Grether
          Bruce P. Grether says:

          Most definitely. I feel the possibilities for bliss are literally limitless; suffering and pain are limiting, as we can get stuck in them, but I really feel that pleasure has quite the opposite potential. Pleasure can balance some of the inevitable suffering of human life, and take us way beyond ordinary experience.

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  6. Anonymous
    Anonymous says:

    I can’t wait to try this I have seen trying to achieve a
    Handsfree orgasm, with a MRI state massager . Similar concept Relax, use other muscles to mode the tool to
    Massage my prostate . Many orgasms doing this. Am hoping for a full ejacculation . Not yet , please advisevif any one has been able to do so ?
    Thanks ,
    Kyle

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    • Bruce P. Grether
      Bruce P. Grether says:

      Practice, practice, practice. Masturbation is like a sport, for which, to achieve excellence you have to train and develop both strength and skills, toning and awareness. To pay full, mindful attention helps a lot… and sometimes the focus on porn, while arousing, can distract a man masturbating from the nuances that occur in his own body. All sort of options exists to explore…

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  7. Joe
    Joe says:

    In recent years, I’ve gotten into both dry orgasms and ruined orgasms — while using an Aneros. As a solosexual, I’ve grown more deeply in lust with myself and feel I have the best, most satisfying sex I’ve had in years. Even with a ruined orgasm, my sexual desire and love for my cock remains as strong as ever. What are your thoughts about using any type of device to enhance your self-lovemaking? I’m looking for a teacher/coach to help me reach greater heights of lust and desire through meditation, hypnosis i.e.. by solely using my mind and my cock to achieve orgasm. Until I can reach that more elevated state of consciousness, my Aneros is my best friend.

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    • Bruce P. Grether
      Bruce P. Grether says:

      Hello, Brother… The Aneros is a wonderful means of stimulating the prostate. It is well designed, and works especially well if a man has stimulated his penis well for at least 20 or 30 minutes before insertion, then eases it in with plenty of lubrication. Your body aroused front-to-back, and of course, by then, your prostate will likely become somewhat swollen and extra-sensitive. All things inserted in your anus, or course, must be used with care. Sorry–I’m not sure what you mean by “ruined” orgasm. Do you mean ejaculating when you’re seeking not to? I try to keep up on all terminology in the vast and glorious Universe of Male Masturbation… but please explain that one. Thanks!

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      • Chuckles, a dedicated solo-sexual.
        Chuckles, a dedicated solo-sexual. says:

        As I understand it, a ruined orgasm is an orgasm that occurs when you are trying to edge without going all the way to ejaculation, but you stop too late when trying to avoid the point of no return. You ejaculate, but, because you stopped, it is a very unsatisfactory orgasm. You lose on all counts: you ejaculate (which you didn’t want to do), you don’t get the pleasure of a total orgasm because you quit too soon, and you have to now wait out the refractory period without having had the full pleasure of a good orgasm. It is very disappointing and it has happened to me many times, but not recently. I am getting much better at quitting soon enough.

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