How would you like to have as many orgasms as you want without having to wait to get over the after-effects of a full-blown ejaculation?
I’m hovering along what some men call the “edge,” that is very close to ejaculatory inevitability, where the sensations are indescribably sweet and powerful; then I exert a little inner relaxation of a muscle—the opposite of a contraction—and I tip over into a full-blown orgasm without ejaculation! The intensity like a supernova exploding in my brain means I need to remove my hands from my penis for a few seconds…
However my arousal and erection both remain glorious beyond words, and soon in the midst of that exquisite oblivion, I carefully continue towards my next orgasm…
Men are capable not only of learning that ejaculation and orgasm are not the same things. We are also capable, with some self-training or help from a masturbation coach, of having dry orgasms one after another, even a series of [simple_tooltip content=’In human sexuality, the refractory period is usually the recovery phase after orgasm during which it is (assumed) physiologically impossible for a man to have additional orgasms due to increase in the penile sensory threshold (PST). Though it is generally reported that women do not experience a refractory period…
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The only reason males think orgasm and ejaculation are identical is that as teenage boys having our first ejaculatory orgasms, the two experiences tend to happen simultaneously. The big secret here is that they are not one and the same. Of course, when you do ejaculate, that’s usually the end of your pleasure, at least for a little while, an interval called the “refractory period,” until your desire for more gets strong enough to resume stimulation of your penis. Still, you can orgasm without ejaculation.
what I really wanted was to be able to linger in those exquisite states of what I call pure penile pleasure (p3) indefinitely, for as long as I wished…Understand please, I’m not opposed to ejaculation, and like most men, I find it a fantastic experience that truly cannot be described. However let me confess that all through my teens, twenties, and thirties, I masturbated every day, often at least two or three times, to ejaculatory orgasm. I’ve always adored masturbation since I first really figured it out! However, over the years I began to suspect there might be more to it: what I really wanted was to be able to linger in those exquisite states of what I call pure penile pleasure (p3) indefinitely, for as long as I wished to be there and savor the enjoyment.
Not until shortly after my 40th birthday did I have a breakthrough, when I discovered how to get into p3 and stay there for long intervals.
The basics are simple, but not necessarily easy at first. Excellent masturbation is like a sport that you need to practice and practice. You can reach unbelievably sweet spots, with dedication and persistence.
The first part of this training is to pay full attention to what we’ll call your “pee-stopper” muscle, which lies inside you just behind the base of your penis, at the bottom of your prostate gland. The prostate sits under your bladder, and when you take a leak, you have to relax your pee-stopper muscle.
So I suggest that any time you pee, such as when you get up in the middle of the night to take a leak, notice where this tiny ring of muscle is, within your pelvic floor. In other words, relax it and pee, then contract the muscle and stop the flow of urine, then start it again, over and over, to get a sense of where this muscle is and how it feels.
By increasing this simple awareness, you’re on your way to dry orgasms or even multiple male orgasms, and next, I’ll tell you exactly how to get there.