Shooting For Distance!
QUESTION: Since I was treated for a prostate issue, I don’t really shoot cum out, though I enjoy erections, still love stroking and have great orgasms. How do I deal with this when I masturbate with other guys?
RESPONSE: As we get older our prostate always continues to slowly grow bigger and bigger. Prostatitis, which is several different conditions, can include blockage of the urinary tract, which of course needs to be remedied. Recently, cases of prostate cancer are often evaluated differently than before. Many cases of such conditions are now known to progress very slowly and not present much danger.
It’s definitely a good idea to get checked regularly. Ask questions of a doctor if you notice any major changes, such as difficulty urinating, or pain. Still, all men should be sure to get answers, and if you’re not satisfied with what you are told, always get another opinion. It’s your body, so be sure you make an informed choice for yourself.
The after-effects of prostate treatments vary from minimal to quite serious. In your case, you have retained what matters most, the ability to experience plenty of pleasure and to enjoy orgasms. As men, we often get quite fixated on ejaculation, which is understandable, as it is a dramatic and extremely pleasurable thing. However, ejaculation does not need to be the goal of masturbation.
In your situation, this is a case of the cliché about “Enjoy the journey, instead of focusing on the destination.” Also keep in mind that for some men, such as myself, the big breakthrough into higher erotic states is learning not to ejaculate so often anyway. I would much rather keep the erotic energy in my body, and I have learned to experience dry orgasms, as well as intense states of high, prolonged orgasmic pleasure. I consider these far more rewarding than the brief reward of ejaculatory orgasm.
When you are masturbating with other men, whether in person or online, you may want to just play it by ear, and decide whether or not to say something about this ahead of time. It might be best to let your playmates know early on. This could release the expectation and allow you to keep the focus on the pleasure along the way.
Most important is don’t let the issue get in the way of fully enjoying yourself with other guys, as you do when you are solo. Any good bate brothers will understand and appreciate your candor, and fully relish sharing the bate with you.
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A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.
Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.