A Multi-Sensory Experience!
Question: I’ve heard that men are primarily visually stimulated, which is why porn is such a thriving industry. But, in my times alone I often prefer to close my eyes and listen to the sounds that come from porn. Have you ever heard of anyone else like this? Would you call it a fetish?
Response: According to studies, there is some truth to the idea that men are more turned on by the visual aspect of observing explicit sexual content than many women are, and that women more often associate emotional warmth with sexual arousal. However, this is only part of the story: it may even bear some relation to the fact that male genitalia is largely external and dramatically increases in size with stimulation. Guys see this in their own body, though sometimes they may not want to admit how much seeing their own penis turns them on.
The male visual thing is commonly considered a norm, but in reality, erotic stimulation and arousal is a multi-sensory experience. It’s healthy to include such factors as the sounds involved, even sniffing your own armpits, or someone’s underwear, various forms of tactile sensation, such as various fabrics or food like fruit and whipping cream in contact with your body—it’s all good.
There is certainly nothing wrong with you because of your preference for sound over sight in terms of what arouses you. Everyone is different, and there are no masturbation rules in my book except: “Don’t hurt yourself, or hurt anyone else.” Your focus on sound may have to do with some aspect of your personal history, even some childhood experience(s) that you don’t remember. What matters now is that you enjoy yourself.
You could call it a fetish, or preference; those are both just words. A sexual fetish usually refers to an object, a body part, or a situation that is actually necessary for you to enjoy yourself, and sometimes may interfere with your enjoyment of other aspects of erotic pleasure. However, your preference for sound over sight seems like it is not absolute, or a particular problem.
Yes, I’ve heard of similar preferences and many that are a lot more unusual. It would not hurt to explore other options, or even look into your past and see if you can remember overhearing someone having sex or masturbating when you were younger, which might have inspired this. Still, there’s nothing wrong with you in this regard. If something works for you, it certainly does not need fixing.
BRUCE P. GRETHER is the “BateMaster”. Mr. Grether’s lifelong love of penises and masturbation has led him to achieve a level of mastery and understanding of masturbation that is at once unique and extremely rare. He is renowned for both his ability to achieve seemingly endless states of prolonged and intense masturbatory pleasure as well as his skill in passing this knowledge on to his students. Mr. Grether has made it his life’s mission to encourage men to take their practice of masturbation to new levels of personal enrichment and self-discovery.
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A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.
Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.