QUESTION: How can I give myself small ejaculations or semen releases without actually orgasming?
RESPONSE: Among the endless nuances of male masturbatory excellence are the refinements of what guys call “edging,” dry orgasms, or continuous orgasmic states. Edging generally means spending a lot of time highly aroused, close to orgasm, but not quite going over the edge into ejaculation—at least not until you’re ready to surrender and go over that irreversible Niagara Falls of oblivion.
This is a great skill worth developing. It becomes its own reward, as you discover more intense levels of penis ecstasy, more prolonged states of bliss this way than you can achieve if you have an ejaculatory orgasm more often. Many “edgers” go for days without ejaculating, even weeks or months.
A bit more tricky is to deliberately release small amounts of seminal fluids without actually orgasming or ejaculating a full load. Of course, many guys do emit some of what we call “precum,” clear and exquisitely slimy from the tip-end of the penis. Certain guys emit a lot of this, others none at all: it’s all good. However, a small “pearl” or blob of actual semen, cloudy and thick white may emerge from time-to-time during high arousal, although this is not easy to achieve deliberately.
What may help is while you’re in high arousal close to ejaculating, flex your perineum, the band of muscle between the back of your scrotum and your anus. Clench around the base of the scrotum with muscles, not fingers. Also, work with noticing the “pee-stopper” muscle inside your body behind the base of your penis. This is actually located just below your bladder. You can practice noticing it by interrupting your stream of urine, do a stop/start/stop/start/stop routine and pay attention to just where this muscle is located is. Pay very close attention, and practice, practice, practice.
Such releases do not usually become entirely voluntary, not like just consciously pushing a button. It’s a lot more likely you can emit pearl or a string of pearls riding really close to the edge for a long time but not going over—which is, of course, its own reward! You can practice this in conjunction with the “dry orgasm” technique I’ve written about in other columns. Sometimes in a high state, I do find myself emitting pearl-after-pearl without full ejaculation.
Good luck and enjoy your journey. It may be best not to fixate on an exact result in this case, but certainly trying for it cannot hurt, in fact, it should feel incredibly good!
BRUCE P. GRETHER is the “BateMaster”. Mr. Grether’s lifelong love of penises and masturbation has led him to achieve a level of mastery and understanding of masturbation that is at once unique and extremely rare. He is renowned for both his ability to achieve seemingly endless states of prolonged and intense masturbatory pleasure as well as his skill in passing this knowledge on to his students. Mr. Grether has made it his life’s mission to encourage men to take their practice of masturbation to new levels of personal enrichment and self-discovery.
Mr. Grether is a globally recognized masturbation activist, an accomplished masturbation coach, and a tireless facilitator of masturbation workshops. In 2001 he coined the now popular term “Mindful Masturbation”. He is the author of a best-selling book, The Secret of the Golden Phallus, plus the erotic fantasy novels The Moontusk Chronicles. His website can be found at www.eroticengineering.com.
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