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Ask The Batemaster: Showing Face & Shaving Pubes

QUESTION: I love Bateworld! The whole thing is just totally magical to me, a really important part of my life as a young man, and I mostly masturbate here, not to porn. Only I’ve got a couple of hang-ups. Why do so many guys here never show their face? Are they ashamed to be bators? And I love pubic hair, the more the better, so why do some guys shave it all?

RESPONSE: Those are your opinions, and you have every right to feel as you do, but this site is largely about tolerance for the truth about human nature and choices, male human nature specifically, and also, it’s about accepting diversity. Perhaps some men who “decapitate” all their photos and videos do have some lingering shame about the bate, but you cannot blame them. For one thing, shame is most often something we learn from other people. It may not be easy to just shrug it off. Another important thing to consider is that you are not really qualified to judge the motives, reasoning, or personal taste of anyone.

In some cases, these men have legitimate concerns about being identified outside of Bateworld, because of their jobs, maybe their position in their community, such as the prominence of their family, so don’t rush to assume it is all about individual shame. It could relate directly to a job or a position that could be compromised, even if that seems unreasonable.

Of course, it’s wonderful when men feel free to share their face, along with the rest of their body, here on Bateworld. The truth is, if you show your face, it’s not likely anyone you know will spot you here. If they do, it’s probably another man who also loves to masturbate. In fact, if that happens, he’d probably get turned on and you could congratulate each other on both being human!

In my own career as an erotic activist, which began over two decades in the past, well before this site was a twinkle in anyone’s eye, personally I made a choice to share not only photos and videos of my body and my masturbation, but my face. I decided it was a good example to demonstrate that there is nothing illegal or shameful about masturbation. I did not, at first, make that choice lightly. I understood that to share images online means that potentially anyone in the world might see them: anyone! For many men, unfortunately this is still not a reasonable option.

My own case is rather unusual, because I was also, already a sex educator as well as an erotic activist. My main Mission is to encourage men, and while I admire all those who show their faces here, I also encourage you to understand and accept that the same choice doesn’t work for everyone. At least not so far. Maybe that’s changing.

The world is evolving, and choices are increasingly diverse. Your preference for pubic hair over shaved pubes, is also just a matter of taste, and for some guys, a matter of different sensations. Years ago, in porn it became very fashionable to shave most body hair, and now the pendulum has swung back somewhat in the other direction. Same with chest hair, and now whiskers.

These are really just matters of individual taste, and sometimes it’s fashion. Something wonderful about this site is the tolerance for choice and diversity.

The Bate Master - Bruce P. GretherBRUCE P. GRETHER is the “BateMaster”. Mr. Grether’s lifelong love of penises and masturbation has led him to achieve a level of mastery and understanding of masturbation that is at once unique and extremely rare. He is renowned for both his ability to achieve seemingly endless states of prolonged and intense masturbatory pleasure as well as his skill in passing this knowledge on to his students. Mr. Grether has made it his life’s mission to encourage men to take their practice of masturbation to new levels of personal enrichment and self-discovery.

Mr. Grether is a globally recognized masturbation activist, an accomplished masturbation coach, and a tireless facilitator of masturbation workshops. In 2001 he coined the now popular term “Mindful Masturbation”. He is the author of a best-selling book, The Secret of the Golden Phallus, plus the erotic fantasy novels The Moontusk Chronicles. His website can be found at www.eroticengineering.com.

A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.

Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.

4 replies
  1. apalmer5
    apalmer5 says:

    A number of good point & observations. Good to hear from younger bators as they begin to explore and make their self pleasuring choices & discoveries. And decide how they want to fit into our sexual side, face or not to face. And those kind of considerations. Yet knowing whatever we share here sexually is a personal choice and is well, editable and changeable at anytime.

    Even simple choices such a to show photos of our downthere here or not. Some don’t even do that, for whatever reason. At first it maybe a little intimidating to photograph our cocks but then it gets easier. The more you do it, just like bating – it gets easier., And now I’m thinking, gosh wouldn’t it be kinda fun to photograph other cocks and help bators get a better portfolio of photos. And perhaps earn an extra income.

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  2. squirtbuddy
    squirtbuddy says:

    I don’t shave (because it’s painful when the hair grows back), but I do trim my scrotum almost as closely with Bodygroom clippers because stroking my bare scrotum feels heavenly and hair deadens the sensation. I also trim any hair on my dick and right around the base of it for the same reason. Trimming or shaving can also enhance oral sex for both the giver and receiver. The giver avoids getting hairs caught in the throat, which is uncomfortable, and the receiver is treated to heightened sensation in the uncovered pubic area. If you have never had your entire pubic area licked and your balls licked and sucked when they are completely bare, I recommend you try it.

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    • apalmer5
      apalmer5 says:

      All natural here as well, fully bushed. Every now & then I do trim some of the longest ones that get tangled in my fingers when I’m masturbating. And I used to trim the very base of the penis now & then as well, gives you a bit more shaft. But haven’t bothered doing it in quite sometime.

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  3. Nando
    Nando says:

    I have no problem showing it all; however, I’ve had people on here repost my pictures on Tumblr without my consent, which I did not appreciate. In my case, finding my pics on Tumblr upset me, yes, but that was about it. My job or my reputation are not at stake (I am my own boss and I’m very self-confident when it comes to my sexuality. If anybody confronts me about it, they’ll basically get a “So what? We’re all sexual. Deal with it.” attitude as a response), but that is not the case with everybody. I’m still learning myself not to project my own values onto others. Just because I’m cool with something doesn’t mean everybody is. Different is good. Embrace differences. 🙂

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