Just accept full responsibility for everything you do, learn from the experience, and understand that you can never be truly responsible for what anyone else does.
QUESTION: I’m not underage, but sometimes I wonder if I’m smart. I was camming with this older guy and I asked him to take screenshots of me naked and bating. He sent them to me. They were so hot that I masturbated to them for hours. But then he posted some of them in his BW photos, and it scared me! My family is really religious and prominent where I live. He took them down when I asked him to. But what if he shares them somewhere else?
RESPONSE: Just accept full responsibility for everything you do, learn from the experience, and understand that you can never be truly responsible for what anyone else does. Most likely, your family will never learn about this, and probably no one in the area where you live will see the photos online and recognize you. Think about this clearly: 1.) We all have some doppelgangers, or doubles on a planet of 7+ billion human, meaning people who look a lot like us, so people can’t be totally sure it’s you; 2.) How many people who know you have seen you naked? 3.) Those two things make it unlikely, if not impossible that you’ll have a problem from this.
Another important thing to consider is that to be naked and to masturbate is neither immoral, nor illegal, at least not in private places. It’s no big problem in online forums such as Bateworld, or camming sites where guys often masturbate for the very purpose of seeing and being seen. Of course, the legality of these matter in terms of age varies in different places around the world. In the USA, there are still crazy sets of laws in some places that mean you can appear in porn at age 18, but you cannot legally look at porn until you are 21. How absurd is that?
Online, the images this guy made of you (at your own request, remember?) are not likely to be seen by many people except some men who want to see such images, and to masturbate to them. You really don’t have a lot to worry about.
Let me tell you what I decided about 20 years ago, on the matter of my own photos of myself naked and masturbating, and then later this included videos. Even then, when the Internet was pretty much a newborn thing, I remember that I considered carefully. I realized that potentially ANYONE in the world might see these images—including my family members. However, at the same time I considered: There is nothing immoral, illegal, or in any way shameful about this! On the contrary, I decided that to proudly share the images of myself online for anyone who might wish to view them, was a nonverbal message saying just this: no shame! (Read the previous sentence again, please.) Be proud of your masturbation!
That’s also why I did not hesitate to show my face. I knew there could be repercussions, but in my case, they have all been good. During the late 1990s I wrote professionally for JackinWorld, the well-known educational site, where I was paid $100 per column. At the time, I used a pen-name, “Bruce McFarland,” out of consideration for my beloved partner, and my family. I even gave my family members the website link and told them about it. I doubt any of them really wanted to explore my extra career as a sex educator in an important field.
In your case, you may not be looking for a career as an erotic activist like the career I have—still, I don’t think you have anything to worry about. The fact that your images aroused you means that a lot of other guys will also enjoy them. Only if you do anything of the kind again, do be aware you cannot completely control where the images might end up. With this understanding, accept 100% responsibility for sharing them.
BRUCE P. GRETHER is the “BateMaster”. Mr. Grether’s lifelong love of penises and masturbation has led him to achieve a level of mastery and understanding of masturbation that is at once unique and extremely rare. He is renowned for both his ability to achieve seemingly endless states of prolonged and intense masturbatory pleasure as well as his skill in passing this knowledge on to his students. Mr. Grether has made it his life’s mission to encourage men to take their practice of masturbation to new levels of personal enrichment and self-discovery.
Mr. Grether is a globally recognized masturbation activist, an accomplished masturbation coach, and a tireless facilitator of masturbation workshops. In 2001 he coined the now popular term “Mindful Masturbation”. He is the author of a best-selling book, The Secret of the Golden Phallus, plus the erotic fantasy novels The Moontusk Chronicles. His website can be found at www.eroticengineering.com.
A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.
Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.<