A happy solosexual can develop strong, good self-esteem.
QUESTION: I’m 23 now, but still have an erection a lot of the time, like in my late teens. Truth is, I’ve had plenty of sex with girls and also with guys, which is great fun! Only I really love to bate most of all. Often, I’d rather just be going at it alone. The sensations I can give myself are just as good, often times a lot better. Sometimes, though, it seems anti-social. What do you think of this?
RESPONSE: Your description of your preferences is a pretty good match for the relatively recent term of “solosexual.” By definition, this is usually understood as someone who generally prefers masturbatory pleasure to having sex with other people. While for some who have not examined the topic, solosexuality may still smack of simply being an alternative practice for losers who cannot get other people to have sex with them, in truth, solosexuals are the real winners!
A male solosexual is a guy who accepts 100% responsibility for how much erotic pleasure he experiences, and hopefully he gives it to himself without any kind of reservation, guilt, or shame. As for being “antisocial,” which used to be a common criticism of masturbation in general, the misguided notion that though masturbation itself might not harm you, but it could limit or hamper your interactions with others, this idea doesn’t hold water either.
In truth, you might as well be selective about the company you keep anyway, or you can fritter your entire life away socializing, chasing other people around, seeking the approval of others and hoping they will like you. A proud and dedicated solosexual who engages in plenty of high-quality time with himself, or even sharing solosexual pleasure with other solosexuals, is likely to be better adjusted than many men who feel sex is exclusively about having oral sex or intercourse with other people. A happy solosexual can develop strong, good self-esteem.
One of the virtues of your preference, as you know, is that your pleasure does not depend upon getting the cooperation of anyone else! What truly matters most to approve of yourself.
The definition of “solosexual” in today’s world of male masturbators has stretched to include various kinds of sharing between men who have embraced this persuasion. The male solosexual knows from his own experience that what he enjoys so much is in no way inferior to other kinds of sex with other people, even though it is in some ways, by definition different.
Solosexual guys may fully enjoy themselves in delicious solitude, or via cam may enjoy witnessing other bators and being witnessed while bating. Or guys may even share the practice in person with one buddy at a time, or even in group situations where the parameters are clear.
In fact, a well-adjusted solosexual guy will often be a happier camper during other non-sexual socializing than many men who secretly carry around the burden of a certain amount of sexual frustration, a need to prove their masculinity, or ulterior motives.
Celebrate who and what you are. Be proud of your solosexuality!
BRUCE P. GRETHER is the “BateMaster”. Mr. Grether’s lifelong love of penises and masturbation has led him to achieve a level of mastery and understanding of masturbation that is at once unique and extremely rare. He is renowned for both his ability to achieve seemingly endless states of prolonged and intense masturbatory pleasure as well as his skill in passing this knowledge on to his students. Mr. Grether has made it his life’s mission to encourage men to take their practice of masturbation to new levels of personal enrichment and self-discovery.
Mr. Grether is a globally recognized masturbation activist, an accomplished masturbation coach, and a tireless facilitator of masturbation workshops. In 2001 he coined the now popular term “Mindful Masturbation”. He is the author of a best-selling book, The Secret of the Golden Phallus, plus the erotic fantasy novels The Moontusk Chronicles. His website can be found at www.eroticengineering.com.
A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.
Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.<