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Ask The Batemaster: Am I Addicted?

Only you can determine how much masturbation might be enough for you.

“Predictably, Porn Raises Its Head!”

QUESTION: I really love to stroke to porn. I do it every day, sometimes for hours. Can’t seem to stop once I’m in that bate hole. Am I chronic? Am I totally addicted? Is this bad?

RESPONSE: Only you can determine how much masturbation might be enough for you. As for the belief that you might masturbate too much, plenty of masturbation is far better for you in every way than the alternative, which is to not masturbate enough for health and sanity. Despite the fraudulent historical belief that masturbation might harm you, in fact it’s most definitely good for you. Self-pleasure is a major part of good health and well-being, along with hydration, good diet, exercise, and sufficient sleep of good quality.

Porn can serve as wonderful erotic fuel for the bate; at the same time, it’s a healthy alternative to also masturbate while you simply regarding your practice in a mirror. Masturbate sometimes while simply paying full attention to your own body and your own sensations, without fantasy or erotic images, focused immediately and directly on you.

In fact, porn is far more effective as erotic fuel when you employ it with some moderation. I’ve discovered that when I consciously choose to make such a shift, I can even go on a journey of reading erotically-charged gay romance novels, in which plenty of m/m erotic action goes on. In such novels the erotic activity occurs quite explicitly (though I can tell a woman is writing it!) in relation to a narrative arc and progressions of characters’ experiences. It can produce strong emotional among the characters, and the readers in relation to them.

Chronic can refer to a weakness or illness, or it can simply mean well-established, so it’s really a matter of how you use the word, whether or not it applies to you.

To me personally, the term “addiction” is not so ideal, as it often has negative connotations. A healthy obsession with self-touch is natural for human males growing into adulthood and beyond the teen years.

The bate hole is a wonderful image that makes complete sense to me, as personally I’ve been profoundly nourished and nurtured by the ecstatic sensations my penis is capable of generating in full concert with my lubricated hands. This ongoing ecstasy renders me a different kind of human being from guys who are always “horny” or looking to get off. My guilt-free and shameless self-pleasure proves actively beneficial.

Should you wish to get off, in any sense of these words, please do so without hesitation. The bate hole is something like that bliss called a “sweet spot in time.” It’s a worthy effort to become the masturbation porn star of your own life. Photograph and video record your bate. Consider proudly showing your face in such photos, as a mark of no shame or fear of discovery.

There is nothing illegal or shameful about masturbation. Why not pursue genuine excellence in the realm of human male masturbation? Someday you might win a masturbation marathon, or an artful masturbation contest something like figure-skating!

The Bate Master - Bruce P. GretherBRUCE P. GRETHER is the “BateMaster”. Mr. Grether’s lifelong love of penises and masturbation has led him to achieve a level of mastery and understanding of masturbation that is at once unique and extremely rare. He is renowned for both his ability to achieve seemingly endless states of prolonged and intense masturbatory pleasure as well as his skill in passing this knowledge on to his students. Mr. Grether has made it his life’s mission to encourage men to take their practice of masturbation to new levels of personal enrichment and self-discovery.

Mr. Grether is a globally recognized masturbation activist, an accomplished masturbation coach, and a tireless facilitator of masturbation workshops. In 2001 he coined the now popular term “Mindful Masturbation”. He is the author of a best-selling book, The Secret of the Golden Phallus, plus the erotic fantasy novels

The Moontusk Chronicles. His website can be found at www.eroticengineering.com.

A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.

Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.<

15 replies
  1. apalmer5
    apalmer5 says:

    Great topic and likely one many of us have dealt with over the years. And something I used to wonder/worry about. Am I doing it too much? I would take breaks now and then – not bating for days, weeks and perhaps a month or more. Especially if I was getting involved with a gal. But in the end, I always returned to masturbation. Then as I got older (perhaps in my 40’s) and wiser and realized “Who Cares…” If its something we enjoy doing – just do it. As for the porn aspect, yeah its a great way to fuel our imagination and our bate needs. Enjoy reading erotica, something I haven’t done in awhile. I used to write erotica too. Which is also a good way to fuel our imagination, figuring out how to put our sexual needs into the written word in such a way to arouse the reader.

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    • Bruce P. Grether
      Bruce P. Grether says:

      Great response, Brother! Yes, not so many people READ erotica these days, but it can be a refreshing change and very arousing if you are a good reader. Indeed, writing erotica is especially powerful as a means to enjoy potentially limitless arousal… – BPG

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      • apalmer5
        apalmer5 says:

        Yes, to describe sex in such a way that everyone can visualize what we’re talking about. And like all good movies, there’s a beginning, middle and ending of the story line. Especially important for erotica. You want to take your reader right along with you to the finish line using words that are vivid & visual.

        Did have one of my storys in a book, a collection of masturbation experiences by Betty Dodson & published by Downthere Press. So there are opportunities to get paid to write about sex.

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        • Bruce P. Grether
          Bruce P. Grether says:

          For 4 or 5 years I was paid $100 per column by Jackinworld (dot) com for bimonthly columns… which is when I could begin to call myself a professional writer as it made a significant contribution tot my income. Thus, every 2 months I got a check for $400. The columns were about a page each, and probably took me less than an hour total to write, and then a few days later to revise. THE MOONTUSK CHRONICLES actually have highly developed characters, intricate world-building and plotlines, as well as plenty of explicit m/m erotic scenes, including solo masturbation and a lot of erotic experiences not so common in fiction, such as frottage. I’m now writing Book 5 of this series, which I plan to have 7 volumes.

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          • apalmer5
            apalmer5 says:

            Ah you wrote for jackinworld… I remember that site, always enjoyed reading their question of the week. I’ve been published here & there for various erotica. Think my biggest check was about $6, for a story in a compilation of personal masturbation experiences. And a free copy of Penthouse Letters for my “letter” there, was hoping they paid. But no.

  2. selfrewarder
    selfrewarder says:

    Addiction can be a tricky or loaded word. Can any addiction be good for an individual or are all addictions bad? I cannot state with certainty that I have a textbook definition of addiction to masturbation. My body does not undergo stress or changes if I don’t masturbate nor do I feel mental or physical angst. This may happen when opportunities for privacy just don’t present themselves. I am happier and feel fulfilled when I do masturbate. I was introduced to the joys and pleasures of playing with my cock at the age of 5-6. I was hooked that very first time. I played with my cock as often as I could and changed over to real masturbation once I reached puberty. I have been masturbating ever since-through bachelorhood and marriage. I still masturbate as much as I can. I am also able to put a temporary halt to this activity when we have company staying for days, my wife does not leave the house and once for 11 months when I was deployed for Operation Desert Shield and Storm. Did I miss it? I sure did but neither did I go apeshit.

    I will sometimes state to fellow bators here on BW that I am addicted to masturbation and that I embrace my addiction. I guess I am loosely using the term when I say that. What I mean is that I fully accept, without guilt, satisfying myself through the art of masturbation and that I will continue to do so as long as I can. I think the writer is feeling some pangs of guilt by asking if he is masturbating too much. My advice is to embrace who you are, enjoy your favorite activity and pastime and accept your “addiction” to masturbation. There is nothing wrong with celebrating your manhood, your cock, your cum and your brotherhood as long as you don’t skip doctor appointments or other important aspects of everyone’s everyday life. Bate on, brother.

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    • Bruce P. Grether
      Bruce P. Grether says:

      You share some good insight here, with the fact that there may often be some guilt or shame in the mix when wondering if masturbating too much! The standard wisdom is that it may be too much if it interferes with other things you want/need to do. Still, it’s a really healthy obsession compared with many others. Basically good for you on all levels, physical, emotional, mental, psychological, even spiritual.

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  3. fullmoonma
    fullmoonma says:

    I wonder what you might be giving up for masturbation? Work, exercise, friends, reading etc. or TV, porn, drinking, clubbing etc. This might help you gauge if a lot of masturbation is too much or just right!

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    • Bruce P. Grether
      Bruce P. Grether says:

      Yes, another wise and insightful reaction to this situation. Thanks, Brother! Always great to see your comments here. You are an amazing masturbator!

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  4. jake22cm
    jake22cm says:

    What better addiction than to one’s own Penis. He’s always there, whenever u need him, it costs nothing to milk him, and he gives such beautiful feelings when u fondle and caress him. I spend hours in the batehole, loving him, feeling him as he pleasures me, and enjoying every moment. It really is about being in love with him, and isnt love the ultimate addiction. A dick-tion.

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  5. Dr. Rix
    Dr. Rix says:

    Thank you Bruce for addressing this concern. These days, the term “addiction” is tossed around so much for every little thing, that people now use the word to give themselves permission to indulge themselves in anything – “I just love chocolate, I’m addicted… I guess I’ll have another candy bar, tee hee hee!” Just the other day I watched a popular Sci Fi TV show that addressed the issue as if it were the friggin’ dark ages. they even said, and I quote, “Sex addiction is just like any other disease.” – WTF??? The truth is every major psychological organization has researched the concern and have found not enough evidence to classify compulsive sexual behavior as anything unique. Sure, we can reach out to anything, sex included to avoid dealing with the realities of our lives, and some people can spend 24/7 avoiding their lives. But we are adults, and we get to choose how we spend our days. It sex with yourself is a big part of your life and you enjoy it? End of conversation. If you feel it’s getting in the way of aspects of your happiness, then you need to put your big boy pants on and do something about it. It’s just that simple. If it’s a “problem” you deal with it, and you don’t have to pay thousands of dollars to some so-called “rehab” center to do it. Bate on!

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    • Bruce P. Grether
      Bruce P. Grether says:

      Thank you for your thoughtful and intelligent comments here, Jallen! Good points! (Sorry I did not notice this comment until now…) — BPG

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  6. Paul Nelson
    Paul Nelson says:

    Addiction is a powerful term. It usually implies that someone is not in control and is in need of help. A couple of thoughts come to mind: First, what is thought of as excessive masturbation has changed over the years. From my readings, from any perspective be it medical, psychological or societal, everyone is more accepting of masturbation in general and attitudes towards frequency has evolved as well. Second, I guess I could be addicted in a sense. I am not ever going to stop masturbating frequently if I have any say in the matter, however, I believe I am in control of my desire and interest in masturbating every day for 2-3 hours. I simply schedule it into my life vs. letting “it” takeover my life.

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