What comes to mind when you hear the word “intimacy?” It can stir a lot of different ideas for a lot of different people. It can be just another word for relationship or closeness. For some, it’s a more acceptable slang term for sex: “We were intimate….” One way or another, it most often infers a special kind of connection. Perhaps it’s the yummy cream filling of what is best in all of our interactions. If we were to judge by what long-term relationships value when everything else might become mundane over the years — sex, bodies, money, status, security, familiarity —partners report intimacy as the most cherished adhesive that keeps their connection worthwhile.
I’ve just returned from the second Cock Summit which was another amazing success (tell you all about it in the forthcoming article). On Saturday night, we had a bonfire and to start it off, we wanted to enact the ancient ritual of calling in the directions. Some rituals call in the four directions (north, south, east, west), while I like to call in the seven directions (including above, below, and center). It’s a way to cast a spell of inclusion and blessing and possibility.
I am lying naked on my back under the sun. It’s the first day of Spring that I can really call hot, and I just couldn’t take another stressful afternoon of city life. So I drove out of town, along with our local river to a dirt parking lot off the highway. From here, a path leads to a nude beach.
“You don’t just masturbate… you display, you exhibit your sexuality as much for the viewer’s pleasure as your own… it pleasures you to masturbate for us… you look at the camera as if watching us watching you as you entertain us with your naked self-pleasure. It’s that desire to be enjoyed sexually by others that I find so erotic about you. xxx”
To say the least, I blush with pride at how well the weekend progressed, and not just in terms of the programming. We had attempted to strike a balance between a workshop or two, a ritual or two, and plenty of free time – all of which were opportunities to grab our dicks and feel good. Heck! A participant didn’t even have to attend any of the activities. Just show up and bate.
bateworld.com is joining forces with Sexologist Dr. Jallen Rix to create the first ever Cock Summit specifically for Bateworld members and all who enjoy making their cocks feel great! We have selected a secluded and rustic Yoga Center outside of San Diego to gather in person over the weekend of April 8th, 2017.
We can share the sexy and nurturing experience of stroking our cocks wherever we are, and that feels great! To be honest, it’s pretty amazing! It gives me strength and confidence and frees me to express my true feelings because I can actually see men all around the world doing the same thing. What could be more affirming to our masculinity but sharing one the most pleasurable experiences that is uniquely our own?
This months Cock Meditation from Sexologist, Jallen Rix is a “Guided Visualization.” This genre of meditation takes the listener on an adventure – a kind of storytelling that the listener gets to imagine themselves within the experience. Since much of the visualization is left up to the listener’s fertile imagination, these kinds of meditations can become particularly personal and customized.
Here is an opportunity to identify and feel great about the positive aspects of your masculinity in the accepting and nurturing presence of other like-hearted men, without competition, comparison or shame. There’s just something absolutely unique about being affirmed of your masculinity BY OTHER MEN, but in our culture these rituals have been upstaged by competition, performance, humiliation, fear of failure, bullying, hazing, and violence, to name a few. It doesn’t sound all that affirming or fun, does it?
When you’re feeling “less than,” one of the most immediate ways to counter those messages is to do what really, deeply nurtures you. List out the things that make your heart absolutely blossom – and when Valentine’s Day comes around, do one or more of these exquisite things. And don’t forget self-pleasuring. After all, masturbation is one of the most intimate and loving acts that you can do with the one you know the best.
Cock meditation uses BOTH our body and our mind to generate wholeness, deep satisfaction, and just some good ol’ sexy fun.
I had wanted to go on this ride for years but it never aligned with my schedule. As a sexologist and a body-diversity advocate, I try to find as many ways to affirm everyone’s body in its natural state as much as possible. Due to the hyper conformity of both centuries of puritanical religious dogma and modern day consumerism, one of the worst problems our society faces is that most of the population is disgusted by their own natural image. It may not sound like a big deal, but what we believe about our bodies is what we believe about ourselves…