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About The Batemaster (Bruce P. Grether)
How Bruce P. Grether became the Batemaster
Among his earliest memories, Bruce recalls seeing an adult man’s penis swing about anchored in a nest of curly brown hairs when the man was changing clothes. That penis fascinated him and he somehow knew it was of major importance. He also remembers how good it felt to slide down a stairway banister or to climb a tree with pressure between his legs sending delicious sensations all through his body.
At an early age, he played doctor with another boy his age, and the frottage he enjoyed as they rubbed their penises together made him feel One with All Things.
He was older, maybe 9 or 10 years when he figured out how to actually masturbate while taking a shower. Immediately Bruce became a fan of self-pleasure, though, with puberty, he became extremely shy about his body being seen. Still, when his pubic hair sprouted and his penis grew bigger, it astonished him how incredible the sensations could feel with adult genitalia.
All through his 20s and 30s Bruce loved masturbating and did it often. Something kept tell him though, that there could be more to it. None of the books he read about Tantra and Taoist erotic cultivation provided simple how-to instructions. Finally, in his early 40s, he came upon Joseph Kramer’s video about male genital massage: FIRE ON THE MOUNTAIN.
Having no playmates to try this with, he tried it on himself. In the process, he discovered what he soon named “Mindful Masturbation.” For 6 weeks he masturbated for hours every day, and did not ejaculate once! This was the Penis Paradise he had been looking for since his adventures playing doctor as a young boy. He was changed forever and lost most of his shyness and insecurities.
Bruce began to listen deeply to whatever his penis told him. This way he learned more and more about male masturbation, the penis, and he studied human sexuality. Soon he was hired to write professionally for the sex education site JackinWorld (dot) com, which he did for some years under the name “Bruce McFarland.”
Since then, his erotic activism is more radical and he uses his actual given name: Bruce P. Grether, AKA the Batemaster. He has hosted workshops and now does online masturbation coaching. In 2012 his best-selling book THE SECRET OF THE GOLDEN PHALLUS was published and with his handsome young friend Blue Tyger he created the Erotic Engineering site to explore advanced male self-pleasure practices.
Bruce considers himself a Missionary of the Male Mysteries and his work continues.
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QUESTION: I love Bateworld! The whole thing is just totally magical to me, a really important part of my life as a young man, and I mostly masturbate here, not to porn. Only I’ve got a couple of hang-ups. Why do so many guys here never show their face? Are they ashamed to be bators? […]
QUESTION: In the kitchen, I did that thing with a ripe peach that I saw a young dude do in a movie. It really worked, only my father tapped me on the shoulder from behind just as I was coming inside that juicy piece of fruit. He only grinned and said, “Be sure to clean up the mess, Junior.” See, I moved back home after school, because my job is fast food at night and both my folks work. Usually I’m home alone afternoons, but dad came home on a break from his job. I’m so embarrassed, I might have to move out! Help!
Love to cyber with guys I find here and sometimes other places, but really only with older guys, like at least 50 or 60. Thing is, I’m 23 myself.
So much energy and time goes into my bate. How can I incorporate meditation and sexual magick into my masturbation for positive life outcomes? Are there techniques or rituals you recommend?
It’s a shame to have to beat off alone all the time. To share the experience gives it a whole new meaning and a whole new outcome. But how can I really achieve that in person, in the flesh, with real meaning and feeling?
At this big company where I work, there’s this handsome guy with a little dark beard, who I don’t really know. For the third time, I’m in the restroom and at the urinal he “shows hard,” so we go in a stall and jack each other to incredible orgasms. Now I’ve snooped a little and found out he’s married, with one little kid and another on the way. Is it wrong to do it again, now that I know about his family?
Is edging dangerous? I like to go several days without cumming and enjoy bating for an hour or more at a time. Is it unhealthy to build up cum without releasing it?
We jack together often, do mutual, even some frotting cock2cock, and kissing. But he won’t suck, says that’s too gay. What do I do?
I get off on getting off, but I’m basically getting off to myself, if you think about it. Is this some form of narcissism? Where does the line blur?
Sometimes when I am in a sexually tense and very stimulating situation I will come quickly before I even get hard! Is that normal?
Are poppers okay to use in small amounts if you take blood pressure medicine?