In my experience it seems best to just be straightforward. QUESTION: I really appreciate that you answered my question about explaining to guys why I like to retain my semen, instead of ejaculating so often. Only you didn’t really go into how to deal with guys when I’m camming and they want me to shoot […]
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About The Batemaster (Bruce P. Grether)
How Bruce P. Grether became the Batemaster
Among his earliest memories, Bruce recalls seeing an adult man’s penis swing about anchored in a nest of curly brown hairs when the man was changing clothes. That penis fascinated him and he somehow knew it was of major importance. He also remembers how good it felt to slide down a stairway banister or to climb a tree with pressure between his legs sending delicious sensations all through his body.
At an early age, he played doctor with another boy his age, and the frottage he enjoyed as they rubbed their penises together made him feel One with All Things.
He was older, maybe 9 or 10 years when he figured out how to actually masturbate while taking a shower. Immediately Bruce became a fan of self-pleasure, though, with puberty, he became extremely shy about his body being seen. Still, when his pubic hair sprouted and his penis grew bigger, it astonished him how incredible the sensations could feel with adult genitalia.
All through his 20s and 30s Bruce loved masturbating and did it often. Something kept tell him though, that there could be more to it. None of the books he read about Tantra and Taoist erotic cultivation provided simple how-to instructions. Finally, in his early 40s, he came upon Joseph Kramer’s video about male genital massage: FIRE ON THE MOUNTAIN.
Having no playmates to try this with, he tried it on himself. In the process, he discovered what he soon named “Mindful Masturbation.” For 6 weeks he masturbated for hours every day, and did not ejaculate once! This was the Penis Paradise he had been looking for since his adventures playing doctor as a young boy. He was changed forever and lost most of his shyness and insecurities.
Bruce began to listen deeply to whatever his penis told him. This way he learned more and more about male masturbation, the penis, and he studied human sexuality. Soon he was hired to write professionally for the sex education site JackinWorld (dot) com, which he did for some years under the name “Bruce McFarland.”
Since then, his erotic activism is more radical and he uses his actual given name: Bruce P. Grether, AKA the Batemaster. He has hosted workshops and now does online masturbation coaching. In 2012 his best-selling book THE SECRET OF THE GOLDEN PHALLUS was published and with his handsome young friend Blue Tyger he created the Erotic Engineering site to explore advanced male self-pleasure practices.
Bruce considers himself a Missionary of the Male Mysteries and his work continues.
Entries by The Batemaster (Bruce P. Grether)
The reasons for this taboo involve such matters as the compromising of parental authority, and exploitation of underage guys. QUESTION: So, what’s the big deal? My father is really cool, and he’s the one who taught me to masturbate. It was my idea, and I asked him about it. We even did it in the […]
A happy solosexual can develop strong, good self-esteem. QUESTION: I’m 23 now, but still have an erection a lot of the time, like in my late teens. Truth is, I’ve had plenty of sex with girls and also with guys, which is great fun! Only I really love to bate most of all. Often, I’d […]
Just accept full responsibility for everything you do, learn from the experience, and understand that you can never be truly responsible for what anyone else does. QUESTION: I’m not underage, but sometimes I wonder if I’m smart. I was camming with this older guy and I asked him to take screenshots of me naked and […]
This is a sensitive subject, both in terms of Bateworld parameters and actual family life. I cannot condone what your brothers were doing or condemn it… QUESTION: There are a lot of guys in my family. One time I saw my two older brothers watching porn and masturbating together. I watched them for a while, […]
The best approach may be to tell him about yourself, in terms of some of the things that turn you on, without getting too specific… QUESTION: My best friend and I jacked off together ever since he first came to my high school. Then not long after we graduated he rejected me, saying he wasn’t […]
What you describe is a common, almost universal experience. QUESTION: After I shoot my wad, I feel kind of lost, let down, even ashamed. How do I get over this? I know it’s stupid! But I’m pretty young and I JO a lot, like 3 to 5 X a day, so it’s like a roller-coaster […]
If you get too possessive of anyone, that can easily lead to problems, even estrangement. QUESTION: My best friend and I love to masturbate together. We’ve done this since we were way too young to legally mention here, though we’re young adults now. We watch each other, never porn, and love to do this mutually, […]
This is a really intriguing subject, and there’s nothing wrong with the subject, even if you get aroused and masturbate looking at photos and YouTube on the subject. QUESTION: I’m totally fascinated with animal penises and have a huge collection of hundreds of photos and vids of them. Not that I would ever actually touch […]
Your penis is by far the most elastic and variably-sized part of your body… QUESTION: My cock pleases me immensely with incredible bliss every day, only it’s small. Hardly longer than my hand. How can I make it bigger? RESPONSE: The most effective thing you can do to make your penis seem larger is to […]
QUESTION: My older friend and I (he’s early 50s, I’m just 22) like to role play as daddy and son. We’re not really related. This involves tighty-whities and dark dress socks. He catches me jerking-off, he teaches me how to do it better. Sometimes he spanks me for being naughty, or for thinking about someone […]
You are the only one who can actually do something about how you feel. QUESTION: I’m in my 60s and not in bad shape, but no matter how I try with diet and exercise, I still have a little bit of a belly. All the totally in-shape younger guys (some older too) make me feel […]