Ask The Batemaster

“Some men consider the tongue as a sort of “upper penis” for it is extremely sensitive!” QUESTION: I’ve got some great bate buddies, which is a huge blessing in my life! But unless they will…

“I’m not sure we completely control anything, but we can develop greater skill at navigating our experience!” QUESTION: In the past, when I was with someone sexually, I got so excited it was hard not…

There are no absolutes, no rules in male masturbation, except according to me: “Never hurt yourself, or hurt anyone else.” QUESTION: I know you say it’s always good to stroke with lube, and reasons why….

Grooming of the male body seems to move in cycles of various fashions. QUESTION: I love to see how hairy some guys’ bodies are, which has always turned me on! Especially a nice pubic bush—I…

“…You have evidently given yourself permission to enjoy pleasuring yourself, which is great, in itself!” QUESTION: I’m in my early 30s and still live with my loving parents, who are very religious. I masturbate a…

If this man is truly your best friend, his happiness must be at least as important as your own.   QUESTION: My best friend and I love to masturbate together, and we do this a…

“There is absolutely nothing wrong with being asexual, if that is truly what is going on with you.”   QUESTION: Am I asexual? I only masturbate once every week or two, and sex is not…

Everything you describe about yourself, and your choices sounds marvelous and healthy to me! QUESTION: I’m in my late 20s, athletic, folks say I’m good looking, and I just love the bate. I don’t want…

Actual, psychologically healthy self-love is a quality many enthusiastic masturbators manifest. QUESTION: Bruce, you often talk about self-pleasure as a form of loving yourself. Isn’t loving yourself just selfishness? I mean, at the expense of…

Word choices matter—sort of!   QUESTION: I have to tell you, I agree with you, Bruce: the word PENIS seems a lot more erotic and accurate than all the other slang, like “prick” or “cock.”…

I often say that in reality, human males do not neatly fit into a handful of labels, as far as our sexuality is concerned. QUESTION: I keep hearing how more and more straight guys like…

“We were off the trail, but this couple came by and saw us masturbating. Could we get in trouble for this?” QUESTION: My buddy and I are both in shape and we hike a lot….