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QUESTION:

I’m in a bit of a dilemma. My partner is a light sleeper. He sleeps late and I wake early. When I stroke my morning wood in our bed as quietly as possible, it still wakes him, and he gets grumpy. But I love that morning wood almost as much as life itself! Should we consider getting separate beds? Or would that be the end of our relationship?

RESPONSE:

This kind of situation probably arises quite often for male couples who sleep in the same bed: one guy gets aroused while the other is still trying to sleep. You understandably feel a special enjoyment of your early morning erection, as these naturally occur for many men. The testosterone cycle in the male body tends to peak between early morning hours and daybreak for most men.

Personally, I still enjoy morning wood. In the early hours just before daybreak, it is easy for an early riser like me to develop a nice firm full erection! There does seem to be something especially sensitive and rewarding about these erections at that time of day. Also, it is a quiet time when you can fully focus upon your penis and the exquisite sensations of bliss it can provide you with.

Of course, only you and your partner can figure out if it might be worthwhile to change your sleeping arrangements a bit. If you have not talked about it openly, that might be a good idea. Sleep is a very important part of well-being, like exercise, a good diet, hydration, and other factors. So, his complaints are not merely him being “cranky,” but asking for enough rest. Still, enjoyment of masturbation is also part of good health.

You have several good options to bother your partner less. You should not need to give up your solo pleasure, even if you and your partner still actively have sex at times. One option is simply to quietly get up and masturbate somewhere else where he will not hear you or feel motions of the bed.

“One option is simply to quietly get up and masturbate somewhere else where he will not hear you or feel motions of the bed.”

The following are sometimes considered a failure of the relationship, but that need not be how it works! There are the options of getting separate beds, or even separate bedrooms. These do not need to mean that you are growing apart. Some guys do this because one fellow snores. In fact, it could be considerate both ways. You may still have an active attraction to each other and a regular sex life of sharing.

I am certainly not interested in telling you what to do, just mentioning options. Most couples who cohabit after an initial passionate erotic connection find the intensity of the attraction tapers off to some extent. Perhaps this is especially true for men, that sexual curiosity and excitement feeds on novelty.

If you are fortunate, with honest communication, some passion can survive over time. You are especially blessed if you develop genuine love and friendship with a partner, which need not depend upon erotic expression.

A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at BateWorld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.

Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.

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How Bruce P. Grether became the Batemaster

Among his earliest memories, Bruce recalls seeing an adult man’s penis swing about anchored in a nest of curly brown hairs when the man was changing clothes. That penis fascinated him and he somehow knew it was of major importance. He also remembers how good it felt to slide down a stairway banister or to climb a tree with pressure between his legs sending delicious sensations all through his body.

At an early age, he played doctor with another boy his age, and the frottage he enjoyed as they rubbed their penises together made him feel One with All Things.

He was older, maybe 9 or 10 years when he figured out how to actually masturbate while taking a shower. Immediately Bruce became a fan of self-pleasure, though, with puberty, he became extremely shy about his body being seen. Still, when his pubic hair sprouted and his penis grew bigger, it astonished him how incredible the sensations could feel with adult genitalia.

All through his 20s and 30s Bruce loved masturbating and did it often. Something kept tell him though, that there could be more to it. None of the books he read about Tantra and Taoist erotic cultivation provided simple how-to instructions. Finally, in his early 40s, he came upon Joseph Kramer’s video about male genital massage: FIRE ON THE MOUNTAIN.

Having no playmates to try this with, he tried it on himself. In the process, he discovered what he soon named “Mindful Masturbation.” For 6 weeks he masturbated for hours every day, and did not ejaculate once! This was the Penis Paradise he had been looking for since his adventures playing doctor as a young boy. He was changed forever and lost most of his shyness and insecurities.

Bruce began to listen deeply to whatever his penis told him. This way he learned more and more about male masturbation, the penis, and he studied human sexuality. Soon he was hired to write professionally for the sex education site JackinWorld (dot) com, which he did for some years under the name “Bruce McFarland.”

Since then, his erotic activism is more radical and he uses his actual given name: Bruce P. Grether, AKA the Batemaster. He has hosted workshops and now does online masturbation coaching. In 2012 his best-selling book THE SECRET OF THE GOLDEN PHALLUS was published and with his handsome young friend Blue Tyger he created the Erotic Engineering site to explore advanced male self-pleasure practices.

Bruce considers himself a Missionary of the Male Mysteries and his work continues.


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How Bruce P. Grether became the Batemaster

Among his earliest memories, Bruce recalls seeing an adult man’s penis swing about anchored in a nest of curly brown hairs when the man was changing clothes. That penis fascinated him and he somehow knew it was of major importance. He also remembers how good it felt to slide down a stairway banister or to climb a tree with pressure between his legs sending delicious sensations all through his body.

At an early age, he played doctor with another boy his age, and the frottage he enjoyed as they rubbed their penises together made him feel One with All Things.

He was older, maybe 9 or 10 years when he figured out how to actually masturbate while taking a shower. Immediately Bruce became a fan of self-pleasure, though, with puberty, he became extremely shy about his body being seen. Still, when his pubic hair sprouted and his penis grew bigger, it astonished him how incredible the sensations could feel with adult genitalia.

All through his 20s and 30s Bruce loved masturbating and did it often. Something kept tell him though, that there could be more to it. None of the books he read about Tantra and Taoist erotic cultivation provided simple how-to instructions. Finally, in his early 40s, he came upon Joseph Kramer’s video about male genital massage: FIRE ON THE MOUNTAIN.

Having no playmates to try this with, he tried it on himself. In the process, he discovered what he soon named “Mindful Masturbation.” For 6 weeks he masturbated for hours every day, and did not ejaculate once! This was the Penis Paradise he had been looking for since his adventures playing doctor as a young boy. He was changed forever and lost most of his shyness and insecurities.

Bruce began to listen deeply to whatever his penis told him. This way he learned more and more about male masturbation, the penis, and he studied human sexuality. Soon he was hired to write professionally for the sex education site JackinWorld (dot) com, which he did for some years under the name “Bruce McFarland.”

Since then, his erotic activism is more radical and he uses his actual given name: Bruce P. Grether, AKA the Batemaster. He has hosted workshops and now does online masturbation coaching. In 2012 his best-selling book THE SECRET OF THE GOLDEN PHALLUS was published and with his handsome young friend Blue Tyger he created the Erotic Engineering site to explore advanced male self-pleasure practices.

Bruce considers himself a Missionary of the Male Mysteries and his work continues.

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  1. I had a partner, kind of the same situation. We had a carpeted floor in the bedroom and in the morning, I would quietly slip off the side bed to the floor and just go to town on myself. I even kept poppers in a pair of shoes under the bed. We were together around 6 years, and I did this at least 3 times a week and he never knew. God, I Love jacking off.

  2. Oh yea! Love that raging hard on that I wake up too ever so often. At times I can entice my partner and start the day in a celebratory heat. If at times go it alone. No hesitation , cock in hand best of friends, throbbing and hard, my hand enjoys every edging stroke .I love my cock n yours!