My “straight” bud and I have a kind of real bromance going, and do an awful lot of stuff together, but…

QUESTION:

My “straight” bud and I have a kind of real bromance going, and do an awful lot of stuff together, including sports, swimming, hiking. We also bate together, even kiss while we do it, pinch nips, and bate each other’s cocks. But pretty often he wants to put on pussy porn, which turns me off. I even start to lose my hardon. What can I do?

RESPONSE:

Your situation is one a lot of guys might envy, regardless of how they identify sexually. The companionship itself is clearly rewarding for both of you. Plus, the mutual masturbation, kissing and all, is great male bonding.

It sounds to me like you’ve got a lot to lose, if you don’t handle this carefully, especially to think of this from your friend’s viewpoint. Though it sounds like he’s pretty eager to share the bate with you, the pussy porn may provide him just a slight “buffer,” for his own self-image so that he feels like masturbating with you is less of a threat to his masculine self-image. 

It’s also possible that it really helps him as bate fuel to watch some more heterosexually oriented porn to stimulate him. I suggest you accept this for now, as generously as you can, like the saying goes: “Don’t look a gift horse in the mouth.” That means, if someone wants to give you a free horse, don’t try too hard to examine it to determine its age. If you want a horse, just be grateful and take good care of it.

From your own viewpoint, possibly you can keep your focus on your friend and his body, his penis, even if some of his attention splits off to the porn. Or you might even be able to just tell him that you’re not so turned on by the porn as you are by actually masturbating with him. A compromise might be to turn off any sound, so it’s easier for you to ignore the porn. You will need to gauge for yourself what to ask for, because only you have any idea of how he will react. 

No doubt the activity of masturbating together is something you both really enjoy as part of your bromance, or you would not both be doing it. Still, you did not specify if you consider yourself gay or bisexual, and whether or not he really knows this much about you. 

So, I can only suggest you do your best to either ignore the kind of porn that turns you off, out of respect and caring for your friend who apparently likes it, or who may want to use it as a “shield” to feel less “gay” about the whole thing. Or try to decide how open you can be about your reaction. Possibly he would be willing to not watch porn of any kind, to just enjoy your Phallic Brotherhood as part of the bromance between you. 

I’d also say: Count your blessings!

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