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Ask The Batemaster: My Uncle Taught Me

There are numerous benefits to encouraging open and honest information and attitudes about male masturbation

QUESTION: We’re not supposed to talk about family stuff like this on BW, I guess. But let me tell you, on a camping trip growing up I asked my uncle about jacking off, and he told me the truth. He described how he did it and how often. It was at my request, so I don’t feel ashamed. I loved it and he loved sharing. Why is this supposed to be so wrong?

RESPONSE: This general topic keeps rearing its head (pun fully intended) among those guys who ask me questions. Because many men confide their personal stories in me, I know that such experiences are more common than people usually care to admit in a public context.

Rather than struggle with the specific right or wrong about your situation (in your case, it was apparently not exploitive) what I definitely advocate is greater openness and education for young people concerning the benefits and simple fun of masturbation. There are numerous benefits to encouraging open and honest information and attitudes about male masturbation:

  1. It is natural, healthy fun and feels incredibly good, so long as you get past any irrational shame or guilt about it;
  2. Full enjoyment of masturbation is good for your self-esteem;
  3. It’s a great way to reduce the spread of STDs and unwanted pregnancies;
  4. To encourage guys to masturbate and to masturbate with other guys just for the physical pleasure is a great way to take unwanted sexual pressure off of girls and young women;
  5. Male masturbation generates blissful brain chemicals and also beneficial hormones.

Aside from the legalities concerning age and blood relations (which are well known), for younger and less experienced guys to guys to be mentored and taught the finer points of self-pleasure by older, more experienced guys in legal and sensible ways, benefits the upcoming generations. When age-ism is not a barrier—as it need not be—this kind of sharing can also enhance the lives of the older guys. In practice, it is a tradition that can prove beneficial both ways, and the tradition has existed in many cultures.

I encourage all men to consider the benefits of not only masturbating freely and as much as you wish, but also sharing in true phallic brotherhood with fellow human males. More than ever, all the evidence points to the fact that most guys tend to be turned on by penises and almost anything to do with masturbation. The latest scientific studies that track where men actually look reveal that so-called straight guys watching so-called straight porn are often focused a lot upon the penises of the male models.

This is natural, normal, and inevitable. The entire labeling of humans according to “gay, bisexual, or straight” is an artificial and simplistic system. Most guys love to masturbate—though many could use specific pointers on developing their self-pleasure skills. The majority of fellows also have some interest in seeing the penises of other fellows.

What we need to get past is limiting labels and conditioning that may still undervalue masturbation, to suggest that it’s a substitute for something else. Male masturbation, solo, mutual or in a group, is one of life’s greatest pleasure and should be honored and treasured for its own sake.

However, you learned the finer points of it, share what works best for you and pass it on.

A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.

Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your body or sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.

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How Bruce P. Grether became the Batemaster

Among his earliest memories, Bruce recalls seeing an adult man’s penis swing about anchored in a nest of curly brown hairs when the man was changing clothes. That penis fascinated him and he somehow knew it was of major importance. He also remembers how good it felt to slide down a stairway banister or to climb a tree with pressure between his legs sending delicious sensations all through his body.

At an early age, he played doctor with another boy his age, and the frottage he enjoyed as they rubbed their penises together made him feel One with All Things.

He was older, maybe 9 or 10 years when he figured out how to actually masturbate while taking a shower. Immediately Bruce became a fan of self-pleasure, though, with puberty, he became extremely shy about his body being seen. Still, when his pubic hair sprouted and his penis grew bigger, it astonished him how incredible the sensations could feel with adult genitalia.

All through his 20s and 30s Bruce loved masturbating and did it often. Something kept tell him though, that there could be more to it. None of the books he read about Tantra and Taoist erotic cultivation provided simple how-to instructions. Finally, in his early 40s, he came upon Joseph Kramer’s video about male genital massage: FIRE ON THE MOUNTAIN.

Having no playmates to try this with, he tried it on himself. In the process, he discovered what he soon named “Mindful Masturbation.” For 6 weeks he masturbated for hours every day, and did not ejaculate once! This was the Penis Paradise he had been looking for since his adventures playing doctor as a young boy. He was changed forever and lost most of his shyness and insecurities.

Bruce began to listen deeply to whatever his penis told him. This way he learned more and more about male masturbation, the penis, and he studied human sexuality. Soon he was hired to write professionally for the sex education site JackinWorld (dot) com, which he did for some years under the name “Bruce McFarland.”

Since then, his erotic activism is more radical and he uses his actual given name: Bruce P. Grether, AKA the Batemaster. He has hosted workshops and now does online masturbation coaching. In 2012 his best-selling book THE SECRET OF THE GOLDEN PHALLUS was published and with his handsome young friend Blue Tyger he created the Erotic Engineering site to explore advanced male self-pleasure practices.

Bruce considers himself a Missionary of the Male Mysteries and his work continues.


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How Bruce P. Grether became the Batemaster

Among his earliest memories, Bruce recalls seeing an adult man’s penis swing about anchored in a nest of curly brown hairs when the man was changing clothes. That penis fascinated him and he somehow knew it was of major importance. He also remembers how good it felt to slide down a stairway banister or to climb a tree with pressure between his legs sending delicious sensations all through his body.

At an early age, he played doctor with another boy his age, and the frottage he enjoyed as they rubbed their penises together made him feel One with All Things.

He was older, maybe 9 or 10 years when he figured out how to actually masturbate while taking a shower. Immediately Bruce became a fan of self-pleasure, though, with puberty, he became extremely shy about his body being seen. Still, when his pubic hair sprouted and his penis grew bigger, it astonished him how incredible the sensations could feel with adult genitalia.

All through his 20s and 30s Bruce loved masturbating and did it often. Something kept tell him though, that there could be more to it. None of the books he read about Tantra and Taoist erotic cultivation provided simple how-to instructions. Finally, in his early 40s, he came upon Joseph Kramer’s video about male genital massage: FIRE ON THE MOUNTAIN.

Having no playmates to try this with, he tried it on himself. In the process, he discovered what he soon named “Mindful Masturbation.” For 6 weeks he masturbated for hours every day, and did not ejaculate once! This was the Penis Paradise he had been looking for since his adventures playing doctor as a young boy. He was changed forever and lost most of his shyness and insecurities.

Bruce began to listen deeply to whatever his penis told him. This way he learned more and more about male masturbation, the penis, and he studied human sexuality. Soon he was hired to write professionally for the sex education site JackinWorld (dot) com, which he did for some years under the name “Bruce McFarland.”

Since then, his erotic activism is more radical and he uses his actual given name: Bruce P. Grether, AKA the Batemaster. He has hosted workshops and now does online masturbation coaching. In 2012 his best-selling book THE SECRET OF THE GOLDEN PHALLUS was published and with his handsome young friend Blue Tyger he created the Erotic Engineering site to explore advanced male self-pleasure practices.

Bruce considers himself a Missionary of the Male Mysteries and his work continues.

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  1. Great approach for answering that question. I think it also brings up a valid point about the birds & bees as an important topic that often gets ignored or handed off to someone else to answer or find out about in a sex-ed class. Gosh in my era sex-ed required parental permission to take and masturbation was never mentioned let alone much useful info about sex in general. And we’re often left on our own to find out about sex and masturbation. So some of us may feel comfortable enough to ask a relative about sex than their parents. I did neither. Was pretty much self discovery for me along with my own years of “studies” and (50 years of) practice.

    1. Thank you for you appreciation. We still live in a world where many people lack a good sex education, which some cultural and ethnic ic backgrounds will not affirm, or even discuss. Thus people must discuss matters of sex and masturbation more openly, as natural and inevitable aspects of being human. As wee know with today’s World Wide Web there is a lot of misinformation out there, along with vast amounts of info-sphere. Your self-discovery is admirable and important! Healthy and natural attitudes towards masturbation and human sexuality improve the quality of experiencing the world for humans. — BPG

  2. Most men seem to have had nothing communicated to them by their dad or older relatives about masturbating. When they did, it was mostly shaming and negative. This was especially true in the Baptist church I grew up in. Fast forward a few decades and I was very gratified to hear a good friend share with a group of us guys how he teaches his teenage son to enjoy masturbation. There is no demonstration or looking, nothing inappropriate, just verbal affirmation and encouragement. What made it even more gratifying was knowing this friend is a preacher’s son who plays worship in his father-in-law’s Baptist church. This friend also knows I am bi. It’s just great to see a living example of a dad raising his son the right way to be comfortable with this most common and natural act of self-pleasure.

  3. I was 14 and well in to puberty when a 15 year old friend were T a camp ground shower. He started jacking off and I saw his dick grow to the biggest cock I’d ever seen. He said come on. You should do it to. I’d been doing it for years and I knew it felt good. He reached over and started playing with my cock and it felt so good that I thought I would faint. “You do me” he begged. When I grabbed him he let out a sigh and dropped his head back. He liked it as much as me. He said “I show you something better.” He then bent over and sucked my dick into his mouth. I came immediately and it was the strongest orgasm I had. He was so excited that he was pulling my neck and raising his cock to my mouth. I liked it right away. If all
    I had to do get get sucked was to suck him off, then I’d do it all summer. I did and it just kept getting better. We both began swallowing. Ah! Youth!