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Ask The Batemaster: Is This Taboo? It’s Just Fantasy…

“It’s harmless if you are not so obsessed that it prevents you from enjoying other things.”

QUESTION: I don’t really want to bate with my older brother, even though he’s hot! I know it would not be a good idea to even mention it. But I have seen him naked lots of times, and down there we look a lot alike. Is it really wrong if I fantasize about him and I enjoy our resemblance?

RESPONSE: Whatever is in your mind and remains there, in terms of tabooed behaviors, doesn’t cause any harm. It’s harmless if you are not so obsessed that it prevents you from enjoying other things—so long as you don’t have to struggle too hard against the urge to break the taboo.

You seem to have a sensible perspective in knowing that it would not be smart to act on this, apparently because you know your brother well enough, or suspect that it could cause more problems that it’s worth. Likewise, what is considered incest, meaning sexual interaction with immediate blood relatives is definitely taboo on Bateworld, as well as being considered illegal in most places.

The reasons for incest taboos begin with concerns over pregnancy and birth defects, if someone involved is female, and that is not the primary concern here. However, matters of unequal age and unequal authority within the family structure are also involved. So long as you are clear within yourself that you can keep your fantasies separate from any actual activity, then feel free to fantasize for bate fuel about anything you wish.

Do try to be honest with yourself here, however, and it may not be so easy. Desire can easily overcome reason, so listen to yourself when you say, “It would not be a good idea to even mention it.” This suggests that you know that to mention it, much less try to act on it, would not be worth the possible disruption of your relationship with your brother.

Fantasy can be a healthy part of anyone’s masturbatory life, though I suggest it is good to diversify. Porn may even be useful for bate fuel, but too much obsession with porn for stimulus can be unhealthy and even lead to erectile dysfunction, as it can desensitize pleasure centers in the brain. Fantasy can be deliciously arousing, but it can also be escapism and even avoidance of reality.

Something worthy of consideration is to return a primary focus to yourself for at least part of your masturbation sessions. If your brother is so hot, you’re probably quite attractive yourself, so get naked in front of a full-length mirror, lube up, stroke, and enjoy the show!

A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.

Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.

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How Bruce P. Grether became the Batemaster

Among his earliest memories, Bruce recalls seeing an adult man’s penis swing about anchored in a nest of curly brown hairs when the man was changing clothes. That penis fascinated him and he somehow knew it was of major importance. He also remembers how good it felt to slide down a stairway banister or to climb a tree with pressure between his legs sending delicious sensations all through his body.

At an early age, he played doctor with another boy his age, and the frottage he enjoyed as they rubbed their penises together made him feel One with All Things.

He was older, maybe 9 or 10 years when he figured out how to actually masturbate while taking a shower. Immediately Bruce became a fan of self-pleasure, though, with puberty, he became extremely shy about his body being seen. Still, when his pubic hair sprouted and his penis grew bigger, it astonished him how incredible the sensations could feel with adult genitalia.

All through his 20s and 30s Bruce loved masturbating and did it often. Something kept tell him though, that there could be more to it. None of the books he read about Tantra and Taoist erotic cultivation provided simple how-to instructions. Finally, in his early 40s, he came upon Joseph Kramer’s video about male genital massage: FIRE ON THE MOUNTAIN.

Having no playmates to try this with, he tried it on himself. In the process, he discovered what he soon named “Mindful Masturbation.” For 6 weeks he masturbated for hours every day, and did not ejaculate once! This was the Penis Paradise he had been looking for since his adventures playing doctor as a young boy. He was changed forever and lost most of his shyness and insecurities.

Bruce began to listen deeply to whatever his penis told him. This way he learned more and more about male masturbation, the penis, and he studied human sexuality. Soon he was hired to write professionally for the sex education site JackinWorld (dot) com, which he did for some years under the name “Bruce McFarland.”

Since then, his erotic activism is more radical and he uses his actual given name: Bruce P. Grether, AKA the Batemaster. He has hosted workshops and now does online masturbation coaching. In 2012 his best-selling book THE SECRET OF THE GOLDEN PHALLUS was published and with his handsome young friend Blue Tyger he created the Erotic Engineering site to explore advanced male self-pleasure practices.

Bruce considers himself a Missionary of the Male Mysteries and his work continues.


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How Bruce P. Grether became the Batemaster

Among his earliest memories, Bruce recalls seeing an adult man’s penis swing about anchored in a nest of curly brown hairs when the man was changing clothes. That penis fascinated him and he somehow knew it was of major importance. He also remembers how good it felt to slide down a stairway banister or to climb a tree with pressure between his legs sending delicious sensations all through his body.

At an early age, he played doctor with another boy his age, and the frottage he enjoyed as they rubbed their penises together made him feel One with All Things.

He was older, maybe 9 or 10 years when he figured out how to actually masturbate while taking a shower. Immediately Bruce became a fan of self-pleasure, though, with puberty, he became extremely shy about his body being seen. Still, when his pubic hair sprouted and his penis grew bigger, it astonished him how incredible the sensations could feel with adult genitalia.

All through his 20s and 30s Bruce loved masturbating and did it often. Something kept tell him though, that there could be more to it. None of the books he read about Tantra and Taoist erotic cultivation provided simple how-to instructions. Finally, in his early 40s, he came upon Joseph Kramer’s video about male genital massage: FIRE ON THE MOUNTAIN.

Having no playmates to try this with, he tried it on himself. In the process, he discovered what he soon named “Mindful Masturbation.” For 6 weeks he masturbated for hours every day, and did not ejaculate once! This was the Penis Paradise he had been looking for since his adventures playing doctor as a young boy. He was changed forever and lost most of his shyness and insecurities.

Bruce began to listen deeply to whatever his penis told him. This way he learned more and more about male masturbation, the penis, and he studied human sexuality. Soon he was hired to write professionally for the sex education site JackinWorld (dot) com, which he did for some years under the name “Bruce McFarland.”

Since then, his erotic activism is more radical and he uses his actual given name: Bruce P. Grether, AKA the Batemaster. He has hosted workshops and now does online masturbation coaching. In 2012 his best-selling book THE SECRET OF THE GOLDEN PHALLUS was published and with his handsome young friend Blue Tyger he created the Erotic Engineering site to explore advanced male self-pleasure practices.

Bruce considers himself a Missionary of the Male Mysteries and his work continues.

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