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Posted on: | September 20, 2019 |
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QUESTION: I’m 26 and live outside the USA in a different culture, so I’m not embarrassed to admit I’m still a virgin. I am a member of BW and love to see the penises, erections, guys stroking, but I’m worried this means I’m gay. Is there anything I can do to change this?
RESPONSE: There is nothing wrong with being a virgin at your age, though it also means you are less likely to be sure about your sexuality. Experience helps you to know what kind of sexuality actually works best for you. The truth is, even experience may not make such things clear until you are older.
One major issue here is that you seem anxious to avoid the label of being “gay.” Perhaps in your culture that is considered a negative label, while being a virgin is not, or it’s even a virtue if unmarried. Often people claim they are a virgin because they want to save themselves for marriage. That’s definitely a two-edged sword, as to be a virgin may satisfy someone else’s expectations, but on a personal level it may leave you unaware of what is actually involved in sexual relations. It may leave you feeling awkward and inadequate, especially when faced with sexual experience with someone else.
If you are “worried” it means that you are gay, you must consider “gay” a negative label, at least in the eyes of others. However, in today’s world it is healthy and wise to break free from such simplistic labels. Because male bodies and masturbatory activity turn you on simply means you are much like many humans. Lacking actual experience with partners of either sex, it’s best not to make assumptions about yourself.
My honest opinion is that most human males (in fact most human beings) have some degree of genuine bisexuality, which is the potential to be attracted to and experience erotic connection with people of either primary gender, female or male. Much of how we label ourselves may be for the sake of how we think others should see us. Your opinion of yourself is far more important.
Make no apology for being a virgin. Also, don’t try to determine your sexual identity before you have more actual experience. If you turn out to be same sex attracted, it’s best to accept and embrace that as a gift, not a problem. Some other people in your environment may not approve, but most important is to approve of yourself, within you.
Meanwhile, enjoy your masturbation and enjoy everything on the site that stimulates you with bate fuel. It’s best not to try to change yourself, instead explore who you truly are, and don’t make assumptions ahead of time.
Humans are complex, and life is a mysterious adventure.
A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.
Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.
QUESTION: I’m 26 and live outside the USA in a different culture, so I’m not embarrassed to admit I’m still a virgin. I am a member of BW and love to see the penises, erections, guys stroking, but I’m worried this means I’m gay. Is there anything I can do to change this?
RESPONSE: There is nothing wrong with being a virgin at your age, though it also means you are less likely to be sure about your sexuality. Experience helps you to know what kind of sexuality actually works best for you. The truth is, even experience may not make such things clear until you are older.
One major issue here is that you seem anxious to avoid the label of being “gay.” Perhaps in your culture that is considered a negative label, while being a virgin is not, or it’s even a virtue if unmarried. Often people claim they are a virgin because they want to save themselves for marriage. That’s definitely a two-edged sword, as to be a virgin may satisfy someone else’s expectations, but on a personal level it may leave you unaware of what is actually involved in sexual relations. It may leave you feeling awkward and inadequate, especially when faced with sexual experience with someone else.
If you are “worried” it means that you are gay, you must consider “gay” a negative label, at least in the eyes of others. However, in today’s world it is healthy and wise to break free from such simplistic labels. Because male bodies and masturbatory activity turn you on simply means you are much like many humans. Lacking actual experience with partners of either sex, it’s best not to make assumptions about yourself.
My honest opinion is that most human males (in fact most human beings) have some degree of genuine bisexuality, which is the potential to be attracted to and experience erotic connection with people of either primary gender, female or male. Much of how we label ourselves may be for the sake of how we think others should see us. Your opinion of yourself is far more important.
Make no apology for being a virgin. Also, don’t try to determine your sexual identity before you have more actual experience. If you turn out to be same sex attracted, it’s best to accept and embrace that as a gift, not a problem. Some other people in your environment may not approve, but most important is to approve of yourself, within you.
Meanwhile, enjoy your masturbation and enjoy everything on the site that stimulates you with bate fuel. It’s best not to try to change yourself, instead explore who you truly are, and don’t make assumptions ahead of time.
Humans are complex, and life is a mysterious adventure.
A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.
Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.
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I agree enjoy your bate, its truly such an amazing gift of pleasure we can give ourselves, no matter how we label ourselves. Perhaps one label we can all agree on is that we’re all sexual. It’s natures design. It’s in our genes/jeans. I’ve been masturbating since I was about 12 but was in my early 20’s before I had my first sexual experiences. And I quickly discovered that I’m really better at masturbating than intercourse. At 26 you have plenty of time to learn & discover more about your sexual needs and identity and to find out who you really are sexually. I enjoy BW too yet I’ve never done anything with a guy for reals. Yet I enjoy looking & chatting and posting about masturbation & other sexual topics.
It’s all good when it enhances life and produces pleasure, right? — BPG
Yes, I agree. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin at 26. I was a virgin until 29. I was just a shy, introverted guy. And I live in the US! Some cultures it is not acceptable to have sex before marriage.
And many people see sexuality as a person is either gay or straight, but it’s really a wide range in between. There’s no reason to put a label on yourself until you are ready. Just explore what turns you on. And enjoy your masturbation and fantasies for now until you are ready for more.
Good points, all! Plus, it may not be necessary to EVER label yourself, in truth! Labels can be limiting, as sometimes we mistake them for solid, absolute realities! No need to think outside the box if you don’t feel a need to box everything up, right? — BPG