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Ask The Batemaster: Prolonging The Bate

How to make the your bate session last longer!

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QUESTION: What are the best few ways to prolong my bate sessions?

RESPONSE: This is a huge subject. For starters, make sure you are breathing deeply into your belly, be sure that you keep relaxed during arousal and stimulation. Pay really close attention to your level of arousal. If you notice you are close to the edge, do something to spread the sensation into the rest of your body away from your penis. Use your other hand to caress yourself with strokes moving outward along your thighs, up your belly to your chest. Change positions, change stroking patterns. There are actually numberless ways to prolong your sessions—and all of them are worth some effort.

Remember that the intensity of arousal is really building up in your brain and mind, though your genitals are stimulated, in your head is where it registers mentally and emotionally. If you get extremely aroused mentally, you may trip over the edge sooner than you wish to ejaculate. Looking at porn can be an overload, or for guys who do not ejaculate so easily, it may work as fuel.

I suggest video chat with fellow masturbators who love to edge together on cam, and you can encourage each other, both in terms of stimulus to keep going, also to prolong your sessions with verbal urging to “Keep going… let’s not cum yet.”

It’s really about paying total attention to your own body and your level of arousal and deliberately working with yourself, to give yourself what you really want most, as you play with yourself for as long as possible.

Here is a link to three blogs on how to climax without ejaculation, or “Dry Orgasm.”

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The Bate Master - Bruce P. GretherBRUCE P. GRETHER is the “BateMaster”. Mr. Grether’s lifelong love of penises and masturbation has led him to achieve a level of mastery and understanding of masturbation that is at once unique and extremely rare. He is renowned for both his ability to achieve seemingly endless states of prolonged and intense masturbatory pleasure as well as his skill in passing this knowledge on to his students. Mr. Grether has made it his life’s mission to encourage men to take their practice of masturbation to new levels of personal enrichment and self-discovery.

Mr. Grether is a globally recognized masturbation activist, an accomplished masturbation coach, and a tireless facilitator of masturbation workshops. In 2001 he coined the now popular term “Mindful Masturbation”. He is the author of a best-selling book, The Secret of the Golden Phallus, plus the erotic fantasy novels The Moontusk Chronicles. His website can be found at www.eroticengineering.com.

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A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.

Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.

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How Bruce P. Grether became the Batemaster

Among his earliest memories, Bruce recalls seeing an adult man’s penis swing about anchored in a nest of curly brown hairs when the man was changing clothes. That penis fascinated him and he somehow knew it was of major importance. He also remembers how good it felt to slide down a stairway banister or to climb a tree with pressure between his legs sending delicious sensations all through his body.

At an early age, he played doctor with another boy his age, and the frottage he enjoyed as they rubbed their penises together made him feel One with All Things.

He was older, maybe 9 or 10 years when he figured out how to actually masturbate while taking a shower. Immediately Bruce became a fan of self-pleasure, though, with puberty, he became extremely shy about his body being seen. Still, when his pubic hair sprouted and his penis grew bigger, it astonished him how incredible the sensations could feel with adult genitalia.

All through his 20s and 30s Bruce loved masturbating and did it often. Something kept tell him though, that there could be more to it. None of the books he read about Tantra and Taoist erotic cultivation provided simple how-to instructions. Finally, in his early 40s, he came upon Joseph Kramer’s video about male genital massage: FIRE ON THE MOUNTAIN.

Having no playmates to try this with, he tried it on himself. In the process, he discovered what he soon named “Mindful Masturbation.” For 6 weeks he masturbated for hours every day, and did not ejaculate once! This was the Penis Paradise he had been looking for since his adventures playing doctor as a young boy. He was changed forever and lost most of his shyness and insecurities.

Bruce began to listen deeply to whatever his penis told him. This way he learned more and more about male masturbation, the penis, and he studied human sexuality. Soon he was hired to write professionally for the sex education site JackinWorld (dot) com, which he did for some years under the name “Bruce McFarland.”

Since then, his erotic activism is more radical and he uses his actual given name: Bruce P. Grether, AKA the Batemaster. He has hosted workshops and now does online masturbation coaching. In 2012 his best-selling book THE SECRET OF THE GOLDEN PHALLUS was published and with his handsome young friend Blue Tyger he created the Erotic Engineering site to explore advanced male self-pleasure practices.

Bruce considers himself a Missionary of the Male Mysteries and his work continues.


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How Bruce P. Grether became the Batemaster

Among his earliest memories, Bruce recalls seeing an adult man’s penis swing about anchored in a nest of curly brown hairs when the man was changing clothes. That penis fascinated him and he somehow knew it was of major importance. He also remembers how good it felt to slide down a stairway banister or to climb a tree with pressure between his legs sending delicious sensations all through his body.

At an early age, he played doctor with another boy his age, and the frottage he enjoyed as they rubbed their penises together made him feel One with All Things.

He was older, maybe 9 or 10 years when he figured out how to actually masturbate while taking a shower. Immediately Bruce became a fan of self-pleasure, though, with puberty, he became extremely shy about his body being seen. Still, when his pubic hair sprouted and his penis grew bigger, it astonished him how incredible the sensations could feel with adult genitalia.

All through his 20s and 30s Bruce loved masturbating and did it often. Something kept tell him though, that there could be more to it. None of the books he read about Tantra and Taoist erotic cultivation provided simple how-to instructions. Finally, in his early 40s, he came upon Joseph Kramer’s video about male genital massage: FIRE ON THE MOUNTAIN.

Having no playmates to try this with, he tried it on himself. In the process, he discovered what he soon named “Mindful Masturbation.” For 6 weeks he masturbated for hours every day, and did not ejaculate once! This was the Penis Paradise he had been looking for since his adventures playing doctor as a young boy. He was changed forever and lost most of his shyness and insecurities.

Bruce began to listen deeply to whatever his penis told him. This way he learned more and more about male masturbation, the penis, and he studied human sexuality. Soon he was hired to write professionally for the sex education site JackinWorld (dot) com, which he did for some years under the name “Bruce McFarland.”

Since then, his erotic activism is more radical and he uses his actual given name: Bruce P. Grether, AKA the Batemaster. He has hosted workshops and now does online masturbation coaching. In 2012 his best-selling book THE SECRET OF THE GOLDEN PHALLUS was published and with his handsome young friend Blue Tyger he created the Erotic Engineering site to explore advanced male self-pleasure practices.

Bruce considers himself a Missionary of the Male Mysteries and his work continues.

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  1. Very well explained & a number of good suggestions. I’ve noticed getting older has sort of automatically made my sessions longer. Yes involving our entire body & not just our cock and yes theres a reason we have 2 hands – so use them. Often times when I’m skyping and watching them masturbate they’re only using 1 hand so I’ll suggest they use their free hand to work their nipples or taint. So unless your free hand’s having to hold your cam – use it for pleasuring.

    to skype mic off, add me, apalmer5

    1. Excellent advice you give here also, Brother. Inviting the entire body to participate, using both hands, other vairations are all good to encourage. I often use a “monkey-see, monkey-do” mode of encouraging mento vary their masturbation and many guys discover how much they’ve been missing! – BPG

  2. Great comment, Brother! Indeed, using both hands is just one important tweak of many possible things to explore for guys to help break out of our habits. We all, including me, sometimes start to get habituated in our masturbation practice. This is one reason to video your sessions and watch them, or masturbate via videoconference with other guys can prove really valuable–as well as HOT! Thanks again. — BPG

    1. Yes habits are so easy to form & get comfy with. Yes skyping is a great way to explore other techniques + share info with our fellow bators. Not to mention the sights & sounds can be very arousing as well. Especially if you’ve not tried it.

    2. Yes, skype jo’s are a great way to share & learn from other bators. Another suggestion for watching ourselves is the simple use of a small mirror to place in front of us while we’re masturbating.

      1. Like many variations on the theme of male self-pleasure, nipple play works to a different extent for different guys… but in my experience, most guys can get into it, and for some it requires a bit of deliberate effort. As they say, energy follows thought, and even some guy who felt their nips were not very sensitive can “wake them up.”