Question: I’ve heard that men are primarily visually stimulated, which is why porn is such a thriving industry. But, in my times alone I often prefer to close my eyes and listen to the sounds that come from porn. Have you ever heard of anyone else like this? Would you call it a fetish?
Response: According to studies, there is some truth to the idea that men are more turned on by the visual aspect of observing explicit sexual content than many women are, and that women more often associate emotional warmth with sexual arousal. However, this is only part of the story:
QUESTION: I’m at university and I’ve got a really hot straight buddy I’d love to jack-off with, but I’m not sure how he’d react, so how do I go about it? He’s in my room a lot. He knows I’m gay and says he doesn’t mind that. Anything to do with sex turns me on totally. But yeah, it’s guys and cocks that get me the most turned on. Help!
RESPONSE: You’ve got to decide for yourself how much you want or need to masturbate with your friend because you’re not sure how he will react. Consider how important his friendship is, and how you will feel if he reacts badly. Still, there are ways to approach the subject can ease you both into the possibility of masturbating together without it becoming a problem.
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QUESTION: Sometimes while edging, at some point I relax some pelvic muscles, my shaft surges, then jizz flows into my hand, but I stay hard and horny. My cream tastes a bit sweeter than with ordinary orgasms. DAMN, my dick is still raging hard and electrified! What’s happening, and how can I get there more consistently?
RESPONSE: You are experiencing an orgasmic state familiar to me, which is between a “dry orgasm” and a full-blown ejaculatory orgasm. Because you are edging, mentally you seek to pull back from the edge, but your body releases some semen, partly because you may be generating a lot of the components in your edging process. The different taste may be because it’s not all the components of full-blown ejaculatory semen.
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