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Endings and Beginnings

All of us at BateWorld and The BatorBlog want to thank Garland and Toby for their insightful and thought-provoking articles for The BatorBlog’s Dr. Bate column. After two years of monthly articles, they’ll now be moving on to pursue their calling in private practice and group workshops, and we all want to wish them the best.

A Good Cumming Frequency

Do you have any specific advice around how frequently to cum when you’re able to edge for an hour or so a day without ejaculating? I can go for a month or so like that but I’m not sure it’s a healthy way to go.

I have an uncircumcised penis, which I love. But, it’s also sensitive. I definitely love bating and all, but because by dick head is sensitive, I just can’t edge for long periods of time like many bator friends on here. Wish I could. What techniques can I try to increase the time I can edge without releasing?

How do we define “male bonding” and what does it involve? Devotion? Deep friendship? Understanding each other? Contact? How close two men can come together and where is the line between friendship and sex? Can masturbation be considered male bonding?

“I’m a happily partnered Bator who is fortunate enough to get plenty of alone time weekly to hone my skill. But I would love to find a Bate Bro to share things with since my partner likes to keep things more traditional… 1. How do I find a bro that is just into bating together and nothing else; and 2. Would it be cheating if there is absolutely no mutual masturbation or deep emotions involved?!“

Recently, however, I feel like my nuts are so fucking sore after just a few hours of masturbation instead of the all-night/all-day bate sessions of my youth (I’m nearing 40). I don’t know if I need to relieve my blue balls sooner or if there’s some other remedy/trick you recommend. Or even if this could signal a serious health issue. What can I do? What do you recommend?

I’ve been jerking off since I was 11. I am now 22. I mostly jerk off with my right hand, and I’ve noticed that the right side of my chest is bigger than my left. I can’t help it! It feels better with my right hand. Is there any way to get the left side to look like my right without jerking off with my left hand? Or do I have to wank with my left hand for 11 years for my chest to look even?

I have an uncircumcised penis, which I love. But, it’s also sensitive. I love bating and all, but because my dick head is sensitive, I just can’t edge for long periods of time like many bator friends on here. Wish I could. What techniques can I try to increase the time I can edge without releasing?

Often times over the years I find that when I view an erotic photo I will sneeze uncontrollably right out of the blue. I’ve never heard of anyone else having this happen to them. It isn’t chronic, but it does happen frequently. Have you heard of this happening to others?

Is there some exercise we can do to strengthen a Bator’s wrist?

How do I make myself edge and shoot my cum further? I cum in less than a minute and I want to stroke longer and shoot my cum.

How can I last longer while bating my friendly cock?

Your question is an important one because I spend a considerable amount of time helping guys discover and explore masturbation not only as a genital specific activity/practice but as a full body experience.